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André Aciman: Why Beauty Is So Important to Us

By André Aciman Dec. 7, 2019

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A quest for our better selves

Humans have engaged with the concept of beauty for millennia, trying to define it while being defined by it.

Plato thought that merely contemplating beauty caused “the soul to grow wings.” Ralph Waldo Emerson found beauty in Raphael’s “The Transfiguration,” writing that “a calm benignant beauty shines over all this picture, and goes directly to the heart.” In “My Skin,” Lizzo sings: “The most beautiful thing that you ever seen is even bigger than what we think it means.”

We asked a group of artists, scientists, writers and thinkers to answer this simple question: Why is beauty, however defined, so important in our lives? Here are their responses.

We’ll do anything to watch a sunset on a clear summer day at the beach. We’ll stand and stare and remain silent, as suffused shades of orange stretch over the horizon. Meanwhile, the sun, like a painter who keeps changing his mind about which colors to use, finally resolves everything with shades of pink and light yellow, before sinking, finally, into stunning whiteness.

Suddenly, we are marveled and uplifted, pulled out of our small, ordinary lives and taken to a realm far richer and more eloquent than anything we know.

Call it enchantment, the difference between the time-bound and the timeless, between us and the otherworldly. All beauty and art evoke harmonies that transport us to a place where, for only seconds, time stops and we are one with the world. It is the best life has to offer.

Under the spell of beauty, we experience a rare condition called plenitude, where we want for nothing. It isn’t just a feeling. Or if it is, then it’s a feeling like love — yes, exactly like love. Love, after all, is the most intimate thing we know. And feeling one with someone or something isn’t just an unrivaled condition, but one we do not want to live without.

We fall in love with sunsets and beaches, with tennis, with works of art, with places like Tuscany and the Rockies and the south of France, and, of course, with other people — not just because of who or what they are, but because they promise to realign us with our better selves, with the people we’ve always known we were but neglected to become, the people we crave to be before our time runs out.

André Aciman is the author of “Call Me by Your Name” and “Find Me.”

The marketing machines of modern life would have us believe that beauty is about physical attributes. With the benefit of the wisdom we have attained after many years spent traversing the planet as conservation photographers, we know otherwise.

Beauty has less to do with the material things around us, and more to do with how we spend our time on earth. We create true beauty only when we channel our energy to achieve a higher purpose, build strong communities and model our behavior so that others can find inspiration to do better by each other and our planet. Beauty has nothing to do with the latest makeup or fashion trends, and everything to do with how we live on this planet and act to protect it.

Every day we learn that species, landscapes and indigenous knowledge are vanishing before our eyes. That’s why we’ve dedicated our lives to reminding the world of the fragile beauty of our only home, and to protecting nature, not just for humanity’s sake, but for the benefit of all life on earth.

Committing our time, energy and resources to achieve these goals fills our lives with beauty.

Cristina Mittermeier and Paul Nicklen are conservation photographers and the founders of SeaLegacy .

Science enriches us by bringing us beauty in multiple forms.

Sometimes it can be found in the simplest manifestations of nature: the pattern of a nautilus shell; the colors and delicate shapes of a eucalyptus tree in full flower; the telescopic images of swirling galaxies, with their visual message of great mystery and vastness.

Sometimes it is the intricacy of the barely understood dynamics of the world’s molecules, cells, organisms and ecosystems that speaks to our imagination and wonder.

Sometimes there is beauty in the simple idea of science pursuing truth, or in the very process of scientific inquiry by which human creativity and ingenuity unveil a pattern within what had looked like chaos and incomprehensibility.

And isn’t there beauty and elegance in the fact that just four DNA nucleotides are patterned to produce the shared genetic information that underlies myriad seemingly unrelated forms of life?

Elizabeth Blackburn is a co-recipient of the 2009 Nobel Prize in Physiology or Medicine.

A person’s definition of beauty is an abstract, complicated and highly personal ideal that becomes a guiding light throughout life. We crave what we consider beautiful, and that craving can easily develop into desire, which in turn becomes the fuel that propels us into action. Beauty has the power to spawn aspiration and passion, thus becoming the impetus to achieve our dreams.

In our professional lives as fashion designers, we often deal with beauty as a physical manifestation. But beauty can also be an emotional, creative and deeply spiritual force. Its very essence is polymorphic. It can take on limitless shapes, allowing us to define it by what makes the most sense to us.

We are extremely fortunate to be living at a time when so many examples of beauty are being celebrated and honored, and more inclusive and diverse standards are being set, regardless of race, gender, sexuality or creed. Individuality is beautiful. Choice is beautiful. Freedom is beautiful.

Beauty will always have the power to inspire us. It is that enigmatic, unknowable muse that keeps you striving to be better, to do better, to push harder. And by that definition, what we all need most in today’s world is perhaps simply more beauty.

Lazaro Hernandez and Jack McCollough are the co-founders and designers of Proenza Schouler.

Beauty is just another way the tendency of our society to create hierarchies and segregate people expresses itself. The fact that over the past century certain individuals and businesses realized that it is incredibly lucrative to push upon us ever-changing beauty standards has only made things worse.

The glorification of impossible ideals is the foundation of the diet and beauty industries. And because of it, we find ourselves constantly in flux, spending however much money and time it takes to meet society’s standards. First, we didn’t want ethnic features. Now, we are all about plumping our lips and getting eye lifts in pursuit of a slanted eye. Skin-bleaching treatments and tanning creams. The ideal is constantly moving, and constantly out of reach.

The concept of beauty is a permanent obsession that permeates cultures around the world.

Jameela Jamil is an actress and the founder of the “I Weigh” movement .

The Life of Beauty

The sung blessing of creation

Led her into the human story.

That was the first beauty.

Next beauty was the sound of her mother’s voice

Rippling the waters beneath the drumming skin

Of her birthing cocoon.

Next beauty the father with kindness in his hands

As he held the newborn against his breathing.

Next beauty the moon through the dark window

It was a rocking horse, a wish.

There were many beauties in this age

For everything was immensely itself:

Green greener than the impossibility of green,

the taste of wind after its slide through dew grass at dawn,

Or language running through a tangle of wordlessness in her mouth.

She ate well of the next beauty.

Next beauty planted itself urgently beneath the warrior shrines.

Next was beauty beaded by her mother and pinned neatly

To hold back her hair.

Then how tendrils of fire longing grew into her, beautiful the flower

Between her legs as she became herself.

Do not forget this beauty she was told.

The story took her far away from beauty. In the tests of her living,

Beauty was often long from the reach of her mind and spirit.

When she forgot beauty, all was brutal.

But beauty always came to lift her up to stand again.

When it was beautiful all around and within,

She knew herself to be corn plant, moon, and sunrise.

Death is beautiful, she sang, as she left this story behind her.

Even her bones, said time.

Were tuned to beauty.

Joy Harjo is the United States poet laureate. She is the first Native American to hold the position.

Beauty is a positive and dynamic energy that has the power to convey emotion and express individuality as well as collectiveness. It can be felt through each of our senses, yet it is more magnificent when it transcends all five.

Over more than 30 years as a chef, I have experienced beauty unfolding through my cooking and in the creation of new dishes. Recipes have shown me that beauty is not a singular ingredient, object or idea, but the sum of the parts. Each dish has an appearance, a flavor, a temperature, a smell, a consistency and a nutritional value, but its triumph is the story all those parts tell together.

When my team and I launched Milan’s Refettorio Ambrosiano, our first community kitchen, in 2015, beauty was the guiding principle in our mission to nourish the homeless. We collaborated with artists, architects, designers and chefs to build a place of warmth, where gestures of hospitality and dignity would be offered to all. What I witnessed by bringing different people and perspectives around the table was the profound ability of beauty to build community. In a welcoming space, our guests had the freedom to imagine who they would like to be and begin to change their lives. In that space, beauty wielded the power of transformation.

When I visit the Refettorios that Food for Soul, the nonprofit I founded, has built around the world over the years, what strikes me as most beautiful is neither a table nor a chair nor a painting on the wall. Beauty is the spontaneity of two strangers breaking bread. It is the proud smile of a man who feels he has a place in the world. It is the emotion of that moment, and its power to fill a room with the celebration of life.

Massimo Bottura is a chef and the founder of Food for Soul .

Who wouldn’t argue that some things are objectively beautiful? Much of what we can see in the natural world would surely qualify: sunsets, snow-capped mountains, waterfalls, wildflowers. Images of these scenes, which please and soothe our senses, are among the most reproduced in all of civilization.

It’s true, of course, that we’re not the only creatures attracted to flowers. Bees and butterflies can’t resist them either — but that’s because they need flowers to survive.

Lying at the opposite end of the beauty spectrum are reptiles. They’ve had it pretty bad. Across decades of science fiction, their countenance has served as the model for a long line of ugly monsters, from Godzilla to the Creature in the “Creature From the Black Lagoon” to the Gorn in “Star Trek.”

There may be a good reason for our instinctive attraction to some things and distaste for others. If our mammalian ancestors, running underfoot, hadn’t feared reptilian dinosaurs they would have been swiftly eaten. Similarly, nearly everyone would agree that the harmless butterfly is more beautiful than the stinger-equipped bee — with the possible exception of beekeepers.

Risk of bodily harm appears to matter greatly in our collective assessment of what is or is not beautiful. Beauty could very well be a way for our senses to reassure us when we feel safe in a dangerous universe.

If so, I can’t help but wonder how much beauty lies just out of reach, hidden in plain sight, simply because we have no more than five senses with which to experience the world.

Neil deGrasse Tyson is an astrophysicist with the American Museum of Natural History, where he also serves as the Frederick P. Rose director of the Hayden Planetarium. He is the author of “Letters From an Astrophysicist.”

Beauty can stop us in our tracks. It can inspire us, move us, bring us to tears. Beauty can create total chaos, and then total clarity. The best kind of beauty changes hearts and minds.

That’s why the bravery of our girls is so beautiful — it can do all these things.

Over the past year, girls have moved us to tears with impassioned speeches about gun control, sexual assault and climate change. They have challenged the status quo and brought us clarity with their vision of the future. They have changed the hearts and minds of generations that are older, but not necessarily wiser.

Girls like Greta Thunberg and Isra Hirsi are fighting for the environment. Young women like Diana Kris Navarro, a Girls Who Code alumna, are leading efforts against harassment in tech. Girls like Lauren Hogg, a Parkland shooting survivor, and Thandiwe Abdullah, a Black Lives Matter activist, are speaking out against gun violence. The list goes on and on and on.

These girls are wise and brave beyond their years. They speak up because they care, not because they have the attention of a crowd or a camera. And they persist even when they’re told they’re too young, too small, too powerless — because they know they’re not.

Their bravery is beauty, redefined. And it’s what we need now, more than ever.

Reshma Saujani is the founder and chief executive of Girls Who Code and the author of “Brave, Not Perfect.”

I spend most of my waking hours (and many of my nightly dreams) thinking about beauty and its meaning. My whole life’s work has been an attempt to express beauty through design.

I see beauty as something ineffable, and I experience it in many ways. For example, I love gardening. The form and color of the flowers I tend to fill me with awe and joy. The time I spend in my garden frequently influences the shape of my gowns, as well as the objects that I choose to surround myself with. It even brings me closer to the people who have the same passion for it.

As humans, we all are more or less attuned to beauty. And because of this, we all try to engage with it one way or another — be it by being in nature, through poetry or by falling in love. And though our interaction with it can be a solitary affair, in the best cases, it connects people who share the same appreciation for it.

Beauty is what allows us to experience the extraordinary richness of our surroundings. Sensing it is like having a visa to our inner selves and the rest of the world, all at once. The interesting thing about beauty is that there is simply no downside to it: It can only enhance our lives.

Zac Posen is a fashion designer.

“The purpose of sex is procreation,” a straight cisgender man once told me, trying to defend his homophobia. “So that proves that homosexuality is scientifically and biologically wrong. It serves no purpose.”

I was quiet for a moment. “Huh,” I then said, “so … what’s the science behind blow jobs?” That shut him up real quick.

I often hear arguments that reduce human existence to a biological function, as if survival or productivity were our sole purpose, and the “bottom line” our final word. That is an attractive stance to take because it requires the least amount of energy or imagination. And for most animals, it’s the only option — the hummingbird sipping nectar is merely satisfying her hunger. She does not know her own beauty; she doesn’t have the capacity to perceive it. But we do. We enjoy art, music, poetry. We build birdfeeders. We plant flowers.

Only humans can seek out and express beauty. Why would we have this unique ability if we weren’t meant to use it? Even quarks, those fundamental parts at the core of life, were originally named after “beauty” and “truth.”

That’s why beauty matters to me. When we find beauty in something, we are making the fullest use of our biological capacities. Another way of putting it: When we become aware of life’s beauty, that’s when we are most alive.

Constance Wu is a television and film actress.

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30 Inspiring Quotes About Embracing Your True Self

If you’re looking for inspiration on how to embrace who you really are, these quotes may be a starting point.

You are a unique result of the events you’ve experienced, the people you’ve interacted with, and the temperament you were born with.

Yet, from time to time, it’s natural to lose clarity on who that “you” is.

For one, change is a constant in life. But also, facing other people’s expectations and demands — particularly of those you love — can sometimes get in the way of embracing yourself.

Maybe that’s why American poet Ralph Waldo Emerson once wrote that “To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment.”

And here you are, en route to achieving it. We at Psych Central salute you. We honor you. And we hope these inspiring quotes are good company on your journey.

7 quotes for taking the first step towards embracing yourself

“You laugh at me because I’m different, I laugh at you because you’re all the same.”

― Jonathan Davis , singer and songwriter

“If life is a stage and you are your own agent, then don’t hesitate to play the character you wish to play.”

― Richelle E. Goodrich , author and poet

“Once I began to realize that there were no rules and that my path didn’t have to look like everyone else’s, I relaxed and my whole world opened up.”

– G. Brian Benson , award-winning author and inspirational speaker

“Let today be the day you stand strong in the truth of your beauty. Journey through your day without attachment to the validation of others.”

― Steve Maraboli , author and behavioral science academic

“You’ll never know who you are unless you shed who you pretend to be.”

― Vironika Tugaleva , author, poet, and activist

“ Nobody is wired wrong because there’s no wrong and right in the way we are.”

― Hannah Hart , YouTube personality, author, and actress

“Being yourself means shedding all the layers of looking good, wanting to be liked, being scared to stand out, and trying to be who you think people want you to be.”

― Jeff Moore , creator of Everyday Power

7 quotes to embrace yourself during trying moments

“‘Whatever you did today is enough. Whatever you felt today is valid. Whatever you thought today isn’t to be judged.’ Repeat the above each day.”

― Brittany Burgunder , certified professional coach and author

“Courage doesn’t always roar. Sometimes courage is the quiet voice at the end of the day saying ‘I will try again tomorrow.'”

— Mary Anne Radmacher , writer, artist, and workshop leader

“I can be changed by what happens to me. But I refuse to be reduced by it.”

— Maya Angelou , legendary writer, poet, and civil rights activist

“Kites rise high against the wind, not with it.”

― Winston Churchill , former prime minister of the United Kingdom

“Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind.”

— Dr. Seuss , children’s author and filmmaker

“We are all faced with a series of great opportunities brilliantly disguised as impossible situations.”

— Charles R. Swindoll , evangelical Christian pastor, author, and radio personality

“Take care not to listen to anyone who tells you what you can and can’t be in life.”

— Meg Medina , author and Newbery medalist

5 quotes about self-acceptance and love

“Don’t ask yourself what the world needs, ask yourself what makes you come alive. And then go do that. Because what the world needs are people who have come alive.”

— Howard Thurman , author, educator, and civil rights leader

“To be beautiful means to be yourself. You don’t need to be accepted by others. You need to accept yourself.”

— Thich Nhat Hanh , Buddhist monk, author, peace activist, and founder of the Plum Village Tradition

“I do not seek the approval of people who do not approve of me.”

― Maria Koszler , writer, poet, and artist

“ How you love yourself is how you teach others to love you.”

― Rupi Kaur , poet and author

“Just because you are blind and unable to see my beauty doesn’t mean it doesn’t exist.”

― Margaret Cho , comedian, actress, and author

6 motivational quotes to continue your ‘true self’ journey

“The freedom to be yourself is a gift only you can give yourself. But once you do, no one can take it away.”

― Doe Zantamata , author

“Never apologize for burning too brightly or collapsing into yourself every night. That is how galaxies are made.”

― Tyler Kent White , writer and poet

“You are your own teacher. Investigate yourself to find the truth ― inside, not outside. Knowing yourself is most important.”

― Ajahn Chah , Buddhist monk and teacher

“You were born an original. Don’t die a copy.”

― John Mason , author and speaker

“Live life as though nobody is watching, and express yourself as though everyone is listening.”

― Nelson Mandela , revolutionary, political leader, civil rights advocate, and former South African president

“Dance above the surface of the world. Let your thoughts lift you into creativity that is not hampered by other people’s opinion.”

― Red Haircrow , writer, psychologist, and educator

In the words of Psych Central’s editorial team

“I challenge all of us to accept our negative traits as eagerly as we embrace our positive qualities. Ignoring our faults gives them power, understanding our shortcomings gives us the opportunity to do better ― and be better.”

― Gabe Howard , host of the Inside Mental Health podcast

“My brown girl, love the skin you’re in. And embrace who you are within.”

― Christina Ward , Psych Central Editor

“These lyrics in ‘ Encanto ‘ stand out to me: ‘What could I do if I just knew it didn’t need to be perfect? It just needed to be?’ Because it’s so true. It’s OK to just be you — no perfection needed.”

― Susanne Arthur , Psych Central Editor

“I am a spirit, who has a soul, and lives in a body. It’s so easy to get consumed with the temporal, I like to remind myself my true nature is unseen and unmoved by the cares of this world.”

― Kristin Currin-Sheehan , Psych Central Editor

“The power of loving and being yourself is that even if nobody else is around, you’re always in great company.”

― Sandra Silva Casabianca , Psych Central Editor

Last medically reviewed on February 14, 2022

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Beautifully Simply You

Beauty is Believing In Yourself and Knowing You Are Worth It

When you hear the word “beauty”, what do you immediately think of? Do you think of outward appearance? Do you think of a celebrity who you always thought was drop dead gorgeous? Or do you think about internal beauty?

Do you base your beauty off of what you see in the mirror or what you feel on the inside? 

Society has told us to base our beauty on our outward appearance. If we aren’t the perfect body type or if we don’t have the perfect skin, then we are told we are not beautiful, and we in turn struggle with self-confidence. When in reality, society again has lied to us because our beauty starts within us and radiates outwardly from within. If we feel beautiful inside, we are far more beautiful overall than if we only meet society’s standards of outward beauty. We have all met that person who we thought was absolutely stunning on the outside, only to find out they were a pretty rude and rotten person on the inside? Those encounters usually make us find that person a little or a lot less attractive. So does outward appearance even matter as much, if the beauty inside us dictates how people feel about us? It shouldn’t and it doesn’t matter as much, but we have been taught our entire lives that outward appearance does matter. But what would happen as a society if the dynamic switched and instead we immediately thought of beautiful people not because of how they looked, but because of who they were?

When you think of the word beauty, instead of immediately thinking about your outward appearance, think about what light and beauty you bring to this world simply by being you. Beauty is being exactly who you are. Beauty is believing in yourself and remembering that you are worth it. Beauty is being kind to others and also being kind to yourself. Beauty is being able to give and receive love. Beauty is accepting yourself for who you are and standing tall in that truth. Beauty is being your best self, unapologetically.

Today I challenge you to think of at least 3 things that make you beautiful. When you look in the mirror, look deeper than the surface. Recognize that you are amazing and beautiful on the inside and outside. You can certainly do things to make you feel more beautiful on the outside, you can color your hair or put on makeup, but make sure the focus doesn’t only remain on your outer beauty – don’t forget how much beauty you also have inside of you.

3 Things About Me That Make Me Beautiful:

• I am a strong woman who goes after her goals.
• I am a caring person and a great friend and I am there for those around me.
• I am a positive person, and I can use my positive mindset to fight the inevitable negative thoughts, which is so incredibly brave.

I am beautiful just by being me. You are beautiful simply by being you. It isn’t always easy to challenge society’s expectations and look inwards, but we are in this together. 

Beauty is deeper than what is on the outside. Beauty is believing in yourself every day and knowing that you are worthy of all things.

How beautiful is that?

Be Beautifully Simply You 

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Hi Ivy! Brenda here, I don’t know if you recall the conversation that we had, messaging about a week ago, about my friend Liz.  She is the friend that has MS and had a horrific childhood very abusive in foster homes Etc. I told you about how she is not open at all to new things to help improve her life and so I had decided I was not going to do anything but just be a good friend and listen and be there for her. But I guess my love for her and after speaking to you and realizing how much your video reminded me of her that I decided to do one last thing and that was to just simply send her a link to your video.  I really didn’t expect the response I got from her. She texted me saying OMG! Someone who finally gets me. She was so impressed and connected with you that she watched the other video and that she couldn’t wait to watch the second one and is really looking forward to following you. This was not the response I expected it was far better and just made me feel so good. So I want to thank you for all the wonderful things you’re doing to help people with mental illness like myself and people like Liz.  I know you mentioned about wanting to do this full-time and I definitely would agree that this is your calling. Looking forward to your next video!  With love,Brenda  Sent from Yahoo Mail on Android

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Hi Brenda! Yes, of course I remember you reaching out last week, so good to chat with you and I am so glad that your love for your friend made you try another approach, and I am so over the moon that she felt connected with me and my story! I am so happy for you and for your friend, Liz. This means so much to me as I think about my transition to full time speaking. I appreciate this so much xoxo

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I believe I am beautiful, so I am

If you’re like me, you grew up with a low self-esteem, saw traditionally beautiful models all over social media, and perhaps even got bullied for your looks. And even if you were fortunate enough to not have had to experience this, stay here and join me on our journey of self-love! Let’s heal from these past experiences and thinking patterns and start a new lovely chapter!

Why you need to be independent

Let’s take a new step toward confidence and independence. And if I’m talking about independence, I am referring to your self-esteem and mental well-being not depending on someone else telling you that you’re beautiful. You don’t need approval from someone else for something so obvious! You already ARE beautiful, so be a little more confident! That’s it, the truth is as simple as that.

The subjectivity of being beautiful 

Beauty famously lies in the eye of the beholder, so why not be the person who genuinely believes in your beauty? I am deeply aware of the fact that this might not be too easy, especially if you have been told the opposite in the past. But why not heal from this experience by believing in the truth, your beauty? There will always be someone who will not see your true beauty, beauty is subjective, but do you really think it is benefiting you if you believe that you’re ugly? Have you tried telling yourself the opposite and paid attention to how you were feeling with thinking you’re beautiful instead of ugly?

Say it out loud

So how do I believe I’m beautiful if I’m convinced I’m ugly, you may ask. Well, firstly, you simply are not ugly, you ARE beautiful. Try to repeat this loudly or in your head multiple times at least once a day. Tricking your mind into believing you’re beautiful will eventually convince you that you are, as you should. It’s the same procedure as thinking one is ugly. Someone told you or you compared yourself to someone else and eventually told yourself that you’re ugly. Great that this is not an irreversible lie you told yourself. Remember, our goal is independence so you are almost obligated to believe in your beauty.

After telling yourself how beautiful you are, you will eventually start believing it (the truth). So what’s the next step?

Confidence is key!

Just because you feel beautiful does unfortunately not inevitably mean that you are or feel confident, however, that is what I want you to be! You have started to believe in yourself and your beauty, try to show it off now! Yes, you might have certain parts of your body you are feeling insecure about, that’s fine we all do. Nevertheless, you have at least equally as many parts of your body you consider to be beautiful, show these off and show everyone how beautiful you are. And even if you feel uncomfortable showing them off or finding them, fake your confidence then! I wish someone told me earlier how important confidence is and how no one is born with it. Confidence is learned and let me tell you, everyone once started with faking their confidence. Just fake it until you make it, deeply believe in it and wait for the outcome, you will be surprised!

I genuinely hope these tricks of mine were at least somewhat helpful. Please remember, beauty is subjective and if you don’t believe in your beauty, why should someone else? Why should someone else approve of your beauty if you’re convinced that you’re beautiful in the first place? Additionally, please note that this won’t happen overnight, it probably took me two years and I am still not free from insecurities, who is free from all their insecurities though? Yes, no one, it’s perfectly normal. Just put some trust in the process, believe me it will be worth the time and better that imagined.

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From early in life, we might think we need to pretend to be a certain way in order to be accepted, a lack of authenticity can make it hard to create fulfilling, intimate relationships, therapist emma azzopardi offers four ways to be yourself.

‘Be yourself; everyone else is already taken.’ ~ Oscar Wilde

In a world where we are told that we can be anything we want to be, we cannot be anyone that we want to be. You can be a writer, an artist or an astronaut but you have no choice but to be yourself. Maybe I should say that this is the only wise choice. You cannot pretend to be someone or something that you are not, plenty of people try but they ultimately fail. If you do succeed, you certainly won’t be happy

I have come across a fair few people making their way through life by pretending. Maybe it is easier to convince ourselves that we feel good about something or someone rather than admit that we do not. Contentment doesn’t require action so by convincing ourselves that we are happy even when we are not, we may be able to avoid making those difficult decisions. We don’t have to tell our partner that we aren’t in love with them anymore or that we aren’t happy in our relationship. We don’t have to swallow our pride and ask for help when we need it because, hey, everything is just fine! We can simply smile and keep pretending. Pretending everything is fine means not having to contend with all the fears and the potential of disapproval from loved ones if we leave it behind. Pretending is costly because we may be giving away our peace of mind and happiness. 

Why is it difficult to be ourselves?

From the time we were young, we may have been taught that we are not enough as we are . People would not accept us the way we are. They wanted us to think, look and behave in different ways. It is fundamental human desire for connection and social relationships because we are, at our core, relational beings. Many of us chose to compromise, afraid that we would otherwise be left alone, isolated and helpless.

So we had to find ways to convince those around us that we are worth their friendship and act in certain ways to please others. In other words, we had to pretend. We may have learnt to cover ourselves well with the veil of pretence. As adults, we may have a dozen masks to hand. Behind every mask lies a deep-rooted fear: the fear to express yourself and reveal to others who you truly are. When we blend in and try to be what we think others want, our life doesn’t feel very satisfactory because, well, it’s not our life. It’s based on a fake version of us.

Do we really have to ask ourselves whether we’re happy? The truth is, something inside of us already knows the answer if we have to ask the question in the first place. When we’re genuinely happy, we know. When we are not, we know that, too. Exposing our true selves, fully embracing our deepest desires, and facing our fears requires a tremendous amount of courage. Many of us have been trying to please others for such a long time, that we may have forgotten who we are and what is truly important to us. We have forgotten how to express ourselves, to be spontaneous and to recognise what we truly enjoy doing.

The importance of authenticity in relationships

In thinking about your own life: Are your relationships genuine? Do you feel confident? Do you feel secure? Are you relaxed? For a significant amount of people, the answer to all these questions is ‘no.” We may pretend because deep down we feel empty and lonely. We pretend because we don’t feel enough as we are. If even you don’t appreciate yourself, how can you expect others to appreciate you? When we pretend, our relationships become shallow and empty. There cannot be any sincere communication in relationships built around pretending. The pretender begins by conjuring up the desired feelings or style in an attempt to assuage insecurities. It is common to talk about how we sometimes manipulate others, but the person one most often manipulates oneself. The trap that the Pretender falls into is that they try too hard to control their experience. Feelings and even identities are forced, instead of letting things happen in their own way. Intimacy is lost. 

Imagine putting all of the energy we use in pretending into cultivating ourselves and creating something better of our being. Imagine dropping our pretence to build honest and healthy relationships. So how do we stop pretending?

• Don’t imitate. Everyone is different and so, to copy another’s way of life simply means to suppress who you really are. Create your own path and enjoy walking it.
• Speak the truth. Be honest with yourself and with those you come in contact. When we lie, we out ourselves in constant anxiety because each lie must be covered up by another lie, and so on and so forth.. Being honest is the best way to be at peace with you and with others.
• Find peace in being alone. It is better to be alone and confident in who you are, than to be in the company of others by lying out of fear. Only once you have overridden the fear of being alone, will you be able to let go of the need for social approval. This will allow you to build genuine relationships.
• Do what you love. No matter what others expect from you, try not to compromise your way of life. Whatever you enjoy doing, keep on doing it. 

The only way to really connect with others on a meaningful level is to let them see who we are and to share our experience and what makes us tick. Not everyone will like it and that is okay. It really is. We increase our self worth not by being what others want us to be, but by being true to ourselves. If this feels like a struggle at the moment, talking to a therapist can help in building confidence and in rediscovering who you really are.

Before I sign off, if there’s one lesson I’d like to share from my experience, it’s this: You don’t need to have it together all the time.  You don’t need to be fixed because you are beautifully flawed. We all are. Emotions are neither good or bad and in fact, most people actually appreciate and admire when we share them. Some of the more tender moments that I can remember in my life were when people told me how beautiful I was, not in spite of my feelings but because of them.

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Essay on Be Yourself

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Understanding ‘be yourself’.

‘Be Yourself’ is a popular phrase. It means to act in ways that reflect who you truly are, not who others want you to be.

The Importance of Being Yourself

Being yourself is important. It allows you to live authentically, making decisions that align with your beliefs and values.

How to Be Yourself

To be yourself, you must understand your own values, passions, and strengths. Don’t be afraid to express your unique thoughts and feelings.

In conclusion, being yourself is about authenticity and personal growth. It’s a journey of self-discovery and self-acceptance.

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Introduction.

“Be yourself” is a phrase often tossed around in our society. It is a call to authenticity, a plea for individuality, and a mantra for self-expression. But what does it truly mean to be oneself in a world that is constantly changing and evolving?

Authenticity

Authenticity is the cornerstone of being yourself. It involves the courage to express your thoughts, feelings, and beliefs, even when they diverge from societal norms. Authenticity is about embracing your uniqueness and not being afraid to stand out.

Individuality

Individuality, another key aspect of being yourself, is about recognizing your unique qualities, interests, and passions. It’s about forging your own path and not blindly following the crowd. Individuality fosters creativity, innovation, and personal growth.

Self-Expression

Self-expression is the outward manifestation of being yourself. It is the way you communicate your authenticity and individuality to the world. This can be through your words, actions, style, or art. Self-expression is a celebration of who you are.

Being yourself is not without its challenges. It requires courage to resist societal pressures and the fear of judgment. It demands self-awareness to understand your true self and the strength to stay true to it.

In essence, being yourself is about authenticity, individuality, and self-expression. It is a journey of self-discovery and acceptance. It is a commitment to personal growth and the courage to stand out. It is not always easy, but it is always worth it. For in being yourself, you find your unique place in the world.

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The essence of authenticity.

In an era of social media and digital personas, the concept of being yourself has become increasingly complex yet crucial. The pressure to conform to societal norms, expectations, and ideals can be overwhelming, often leading individuals to lose sight of their authentic selves.

The Importance of Self-Identity

Self-identity is a fundamental aspect of human existence. It is the unique combination of qualities, beliefs, and experiences that define an individual. It is the compass that guides our decisions, shapes our perceptions, and influences our interactions. Embracing our self-identity, therefore, is not only a path to personal fulfillment but also a testament to our respect for the diversity that enriches our collective human experience.

Consequences of Inauthenticity

The decision to conform, to wear a mask, or to live according to someone else’s expectations can have serious repercussions. It can lead to a feeling of emptiness, a lack of fulfillment, and even mental health issues such as depression and anxiety. Inauthenticity can also impact our relationships, as genuine connections are built on honesty and authenticity.

The Power of Authenticity

Being authentic means being true to ourselves, acknowledging our strengths and weaknesses, and not being afraid to express our thoughts, feelings, and desires. This authenticity breeds confidence, as we no longer feel the need to hide behind a façade or pretend to be someone we’re not. It also fosters resilience, as we learn to navigate the world as we are, rather than as we think we should be.

Embracing Authenticity in a Conforming World

Embracing authenticity in a conforming world is no easy task. It requires courage, self-awareness, and a commitment to personal growth. It involves challenging societal norms, questioning the status quo, and standing up for our beliefs, even when they are unpopular.

However, it is important to remember that being authentic does not mean being selfish or disregarding the feelings of others. It means being honest and respectful, both with ourselves and with those around us. It means listening to our inner voice, but also being open to the perspectives and experiences of others.

In conclusion, being yourself is a journey of self-discovery and self-acceptance. It is a commitment to live authentically, despite societal pressures to conform. It is a celebration of our uniqueness and an acceptance of our humanity, with all its imperfections. By embracing our authentic selves, we not only enrich our own lives, but also contribute to a more diverse, inclusive, and empathetic world.

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What Makes Something Beautiful?

The making of aesthetic pleasure..

Posted September 26, 2018 | Reviewed by Jessica Schrader

The term aesthetics is defined as the perception, interpretation, and appreciation of beauty (Shimamura and Palmer, 2014). In the presence of beautiful things, we feel a broad range of emotions, such as fascination, awe , feelings of transcendence, wonder, and admiration. The experience of aesthetic emotions can happen when a person perceives and evaluates a stimulus for its beautiful appeal or virtues. Aesthetic emotions are experienced through vision, hearing, touch, taste, smell and cognitive processing in response to respected stimuli. Aesthetics plays a central role in the design, consumer products, eating a meal, physical attractiveness , music, and nature.

Scholars have identified some of the key features of the aesthetic appreciation of everyday life experiences (Schindler et al 2017).

1. Beauty is the ultimate value. Beauty is something that we pursue for its own sake. The focus is on the pleasure that arises from the act of doing something rather than achieving some ultimate goal. For example, for an accomplished chef baking a cake could bring process pleasure. The act of eating the cake is a different kind of pleasure (satisfy a craving). However, it is difficult to separate the content of a work of art from its form. The taste of coffee cannot be separated from its aroma. What is beautiful seems interesting, good, and usable.

2. Being fully absorbed. Aesthetic experience is similar to the concept of flow (Csíkszentmihályi, 1990). During this state of mind, people are intensively immersed in what they are doing, with strong involvement in the process of the activity. During the aesthetic experience, persons are strongly focused on and fascinated with a particular object. For instance, absorption can occur when a person is watching movies, reading novels, or listening to music.

3. Beauty in simplicity. Aesthetic pleasure is a function of the perceiver’s ease-of-processing (Reber, et al 2004). People prefer things that are easy to think about. The more effortlessly the perceiver can process an object, the more enjoyable is his or her experience. For example, when a complex idea is presented in an accessible way, it creates a particularly strong experience of aesthetic pleasure. The power of fluency is similar to the idea of “Occam’s razor” to look for the simplest explanations.

4. Beauty in the eye of the beholder. Aesthetic emotions are influenced by aesthetic judgment. Knowing is seeing. That is, we apply our knowledge of the world to interpret what we see. This subjectivist view, reflected in expressions like taste cannot be debated. People disagree about much of what they find beautiful, ugly, or otherwise aesthetically moving. For example, you might like Bach, but your friend likes the Rolling Stones. However, research suggests that the beholder may be changing constantly (Yang & Leonard, 2014). For example, people used to prefer a clean-shaved man. But, now men with beards are the mainstream. Our judgments of beauty can shift over time in response to the media and popular culture.

5. Pacing reward. Pacing reward means to scale back stimulation deliberately and maintain it permanently at the lower level of increasing return. At that level, every additional increment of stimulation provides increasing satisfaction. This means not to maximize consumption but to keep them under control, to pace it (a mindful living). For example, one may wolf down a lovingly prepared meal, or one may take time and savor every bite mindfully.

The power of everyday aesthetics can be used to improve the quality of life. This means appreciating the mundane activities in our daily life as extraordinary in order to enhance aesthetic experiences. Aesthetic pleasure differs from physical pleasures (drinks, pornography , or games). We tire less quickly of artworks at one sitting than of most of the pleasures we physically consume. From this perspective, an interesting or happy life might also be regarded as a creative "work of art."

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Shahram Heshmat, Ph.D., is an associate professor emeritus of health economics of addiction at the University of Illinois at Springfield.

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The idea of beauty is always shifting. Today, it’s more inclusive than ever.

Whom we deem ‘beautiful’ is a reflection of our values. Now, a more expansive world has arrived where ‘we are all beautiful.’

The Sudanese model Alek Wek appeared on the November 1997 cover of the U.S. edition of Elle magazine, in a photograph by French creative director Gilles Bensimon . It was, as is so often the case in the beauty business, a global production.

Wek, with her velvety ebony skin and mere whisper of an Afro, was posed in front of a stark, white screen. Her simple, white Giorgio Armani blazer almost disappeared into the background. Wek, however, was intensely present.

She was standing at an angle but looking directly into the camera with a pleasant smile spread across her face, which wasn’t so much defined by planes and angles as by sweet, broad, distinctly African curves. Wek represented everything that a traditional cover girl was not.

More than 20 years after she was featured on that Elle cover, the definition of beauty has continued to expand, making room for women of color, obese women, women with vitiligo , bald women, women with gray hair and wrinkles. We are moving toward a culture of big-tent beauty. One in which everyone is welcome. Everyone is beautiful. Everyone’s idealized version can be seen in the pages of magazines or on the runways of Paris.

We have become more accepting because people have demanded it, protested for it, and used the bully pulpit of social media to shame beauty’s gatekeepers into opening the doors wider.

Eye of the beholder

Technology has put the power to define beauty in the hands of the people. Mobile phones allow people greater control of their image, and include apps that come with filters used for fun, appearance, and entertainment.

Wek was a new vision of beauty—that virtue forever attached to women . It has long been a measure of their social value; it is also a tool to be used and manipulated. A woman should not let her beauty go to waste; that was something people would say back when a woman’s future depended on her marrying well. Her husband’s ambition and potential should be as dazzling as her fine features.

Beauty is, of course, cultural. What one community admires may leave another group of people cold or even repulsed. What one individual finds irresistible elicits a shrug from another. Beauty is personal. But it’s also universal. There are international beauties—those people who have come to represent the standard.

For generations, beauty required a slender build but with a generous bosom and a narrow waist. The jawline was to be defined, the cheekbones high and sharp. The nose angular. The lips full but not distractingly so. The eyes, ideally blue or green, large and bright. Hair was to be long, thick, and flowing—and preferably golden. Symmetry was desired. Youthfulness, that went without saying.

This was the standard from the earliest days of women’s magazines, when beauty was codified and commercialized. The so-called great beauties and swans—women such as actress Catherine Deneuve , socialite C.Z. Guest , or Princess Grace —came closest to this ideal. The further one diverged from this version of perfection, the more exotic a woman became. Diverge too much and a woman was simply considered less attractive—or desirable or valuable. And for some women—black and brown or fat or old ones—beauty seemed impossible in the broader culture.

In the early part of the 1990s, the definition of beauty as it applied to women began to loosen thanks to the arrival of Kate Moss , with her slight figure and vaguely ragamuffin aesthetic. Standing five feet seven inches, she was short for a runway walker. The British teenager was not particularly graceful, and she lacked the noble bearing that gave many other models their regal air. Moss’s star turn in advertisements for Calvin Klein signified a major departure from the long-legged gazelles of years past.

Moss was disruptive to the beauty system, but she was still well within the industry’s comfort zone of defining beauty as a white, European conceit. So too were the youthquake models of the 1960s such as Twiggy , who had the gangly, curveless physique of a 12-year-old boy. The 1970s brought Lauren Hutton, who stirred scandal simply because she had a gap between her teeth.

Even the early black models who broke barriers were relatively safe: women such as Beverly Johnson, the first African-American model to appear on the cover of American Vogue , the Somali-born Iman, Naomi Campbell, and Tyra Banks. They had keen features and flowing hair—or wigs or weaves to give the illusion that they did. Iman had a luxuriously long neck that made legendary fashion editor Diana Vreeland gasp. Campbell was—and is—all va-va-voom legs and hips, and Banks rose to fame as the girl next door in a polka dot bikini on the cover of Sports Illustrated .

Wek was a revelation. Her beauty was something entirely different.

Her tightly coiled hair was sheared close to her scalp. Her seemingly poreless skin was the color of dark chocolate. Her nose was broad; her lips were full. Her legs were impossibly long and incredibly thin. Indeed, her entire body had the stretched-out sinewiness of an African stick figure brought to life.

To eyes that had been trained to understand beauty through the lens of Western culture, Wek was jarring to everyone, and black folks were no exception. Many of them did not consider her beautiful. Even women who might have looked in the mirror and seen the same nearly coal black skin and tightly coiled hair reflected back had trouble reckoning with this Elle cover girl.

See and be seen

Fashion and beauty magazines present a paragon of aspiration, often setting beauty standards for women across cultures. The magazines also serve as giant advertisements for the industries dependent on selling these ideals to willing customers.

Wek was abruptly and urgently transformative. It was as though some great cultural mountain had been scaled by climbing straight up a steep slope, as if there were neither time nor patience for switchbacks. To see Wek celebrated was exhilarating and vertiginous. Everything about her was the opposite of what had come before.

We are in a better place than we were a generation ago, but we have not arrived at utopia. Many of the clubbiest realms of beauty still don’t include larger women, disabled ones, or senior citizens.

But to be honest, I’m not sure exactly what utopia would look like. Is it a world in which everyone gets a tiara and the sash of a beauty queen just for showing up? Or is it one in which the definition of beauty gets stretched so far that it becomes meaningless? Perhaps the way to utopia is by rewriting the definition of the word itself to better reflect how we’ve come to understand it—as something more than an aesthetic pleasure.

We know that beauty has financial value. We want to be around beautiful people because they delight the eye but also because we think they are intrinsically better humans. We’ve been told that attractive people are paid higher salaries. In truth, it’s a bit more complicated than that. It’s really a combination of beauty, intelligence, charm, and collegiality that serves as a recipe for better pay. Still, beauty is an integral part of the equation.

But on a powerfully emotional level, being perceived as attractive means being welcomed into the cultural conversation. You are part of the audience for advertising and marketing. You are desired. You are seen and accepted. When questions arise about someone’s looks, that’s just another way of asking: How acceptable is she? How relevant is she? Does she matter?

Today suggesting that a person is not gorgeous is to risk social shunning or at least a social media lashing. What kind of monster declares another human being unattractive? To do so is to virtually dismiss that person as worthless. It’s better to lie. Of course you’re beautiful, sweetheart; of course you are.

We have come to equate beauty with humanity. If we don’t see the beauty in another person, we are blind to that person’s humanity. It’s scary how important beauty has become. It goes to the very soulfulness of a person.

Beauty has become so important today that denying that people possess it is akin to denying them oxygen.

There used to be gradations when it came to describing the feminine ideal: homely, jolie laide, attractive, pretty, and ultimately, beautiful. The homely woman managed as best she could. She adjusted to the fact that her looks were not her most distinguishing feature. She was the woman with the terrific personality. Striking women had some characteristic that made them stand out: bountiful lips, an aristocratic nose, a glorious poitrine. A lot of women could be described as attractive. They were at the center of the bell curve. Pretty was another level. Hollywood is filled with pretty people.

Ah, but beautiful! Beautiful was a description that was reserved for special cases, for genetic lottery winners. Beauty could even be a burden because it startled people. It intimidated them. Beauty was exceptional.

But improved plastic surgery, more personalized and effective nutrition, the flowering of the fitness industry, and the rise of selfie filters on smartphones, along with Botox, fillers, and the invention of Spanx, have all combined to help us look better—and get a little bit closer to looking exceptional. Therapists, bloggers, influencers, stylists, and well-meaning friends have raised their voices in a chorus of body-positivity mantras: You go, girl! You slay! Yasss, queen! They are not charged with speaking harsh truths and helping us see ourselves vividly and become better versions of ourselves. Their role is constant uplift, to tell us that we are perfect just as we are.

And the globalization of, well, everything means that somewhere out there is an audience that will appreciate you in all your magnificent … whatever.

We are all beautiful.

In New York, London, Milan, and Paris—the traditional fashion capitals of the world—the beauty codes have changed more dramatically in the past 10 years than in the preceding hundred. Historically, shifts had been by degrees. Changes in aesthetics weren’t linear, and despite fashion’s reputation for rebelliousness, change was slow. Revolutions were measured in a few inches.

Through the years, an angular shape has been celebrated and then a more curvaceous one. The average clothing size of a runway model, representative of the designers’ ideal, shrank from a six to a zero; the pale blondes of Eastern Europe ruled the runway until the sun-kissed blondes from Brazil deposed them. The couture body—lean, hipless, and practically flat-chested—can be seen in the classic portraits by Irving Penn, Richard Avedon, and Gordon Parks, as well as on the runways of designers such as John Galliano and the late Alexander McQueen. But then Miuccia Prada, who had led the way in promoting a nearly homogeneous catwalk of pale, white, thin models, suddenly embraced an hourglass shape. And then plus-size model Ashley Graham appeared on the cover of the Sports Illustrated swimsuit issue in 2016 , and in 2019 Halima Aden became the first model to wear a hijab in that same magazine , and suddenly everyone is talking about modesty and beauty and fuller figures … and the progress is dizzying.

In the past decade, beauty has moved resolutely forward into territory that was once deemed niche. Nonbinary and transgender are part of the mainstream beauty narrative. As the rights of LGBTQ individuals have been codified in the courts, so have the aesthetics particular to them been absorbed into the beauty dialogue. Transgender models walk the runways and appear in advertising campaigns. They are hailed on the red carpet for their glamour and good taste but also for their physical characteristics. Their bodies are celebrated as aspirational.

The catalyst for our changed understanding of beauty has been a perfect storm of technology, economics, and a generation of consumers with sharpened aesthetic literacy.

The technology is social media in general and Instagram specifically. The fundamental economic factor is the unrelenting competition for market share and the need for individual companies to grow their audience of potential customers for products ranging from designer dresses to lipstick. And the demographics lead, as they always do these days, to millennials, with an assist from baby boomers who plan to go into that good night with six-pack abs.

Hyejin Yun undergoes eyelid surgery in the Hyundai Aesthetics clinic in Seoul. The procedure makes eyes look bigger. South Korea has one of the highest rates of plastic surgery in the world; one in three women ages 19 to 29 has had cosmetic surgery.

Social media has changed the way younger consumers relate to fashion. It’s hard to believe, but back in the 1990s, the notion of photographers posting runway imagery online was scandalous. Designers lived in professional terror of having their entire collection posted online, fearing that it would lead to business-killing knockoffs. And while knockoffs and copies continue to frustrate designers, the real revolution brought on by the internet was that consumers were able to see, in nearly real time, the full breadth of the fashion industry’s aesthetic.

In the past, runway productions were insider affairs. They weren’t meant for public consumption, and the people sitting in the audience all spoke the same fashion patois. They understood that runway ideas weren’t meant to be taken literally; they were oblivious to issues of cultural appropriation, racial stereotypes, and all varieties of isms—or they were willing to overlook them. Fashion’s power brokers were carrying on the traditions of the power brokers who’d come before, happily using black and brown people as props in photo shoots that starred white models who had parachuted in for the job.

But an increasingly diverse class of moneyed consumers, a more expansive retail network, and a new media landscape have forced the fashion industry into greater accountability on how it depicts beauty. Clothing and cosmetic brands now take care to reflect the growing numbers of luxury consumers in countries such as India and China by using more Asian models.

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We’ve been chasing beauty for millennia, primping and painting our way to a more desirable ideal. Cultures in every era have held different standards of feminine beauty and myriad means of achieving it, from the toxic lead cosmetics of the past to today’s Botox injections. But the standards often serve the same aims: to attract and retain a mate; to signal social status, wealth, health, or fertility; and of course, to simply feel beautiful.

Social media has amplified the voices of minority communities—from Harlem to South Central Los Angeles—so that their calls for representation can’t be so easily ignored. And the growth of digital publications and blogs means that every market has become more fluent in the language of aesthetics. A whole new category of power brokers has emerged: influencers. They are young and independent and obsessed with the glamour of fashion. And fashion influencers don’t accept excuses, condescension, or patronizing pleas to be patient, because really, change is forthcoming.

The modern beauty standard in the West has always been rooted in thinness. And when the obesity rates were lower, thin models were only slight exaggerations in the eyes of the general population. But as obesity rates rose, the distance between the reality and the fantasy grew. People were impatient with a fantasy that no longer seemed even remotely accessible.

Fat bloggers warned critics to stop telling them to lose weight and stop suggesting ways for them to camouflage their body. They were perfectly content with their body, thank you very much. They just wanted better clothes. They wanted fashion that came in their size—not with the skirts made longer or the sheath dresses reworked with sleeves.

They weren’t really demanding to be labeled beautiful. They were demanding access to style because they believed they deserved it. In this way, beauty and self-worth were inextricably bound.

Giving full-figured women greater access made economic sense. By adhering to traditional beauty standards, the fashion industry had been leaving money on the table. Designers such as Christian Siriano made a public point of catering to larger customers and, in doing so, were hailed as smart and as capitalist heroes. Now it’s fairly common for even the most rarefied fashion brands to include large models in their runway shows.

But this new way of thinking isn’t just about selling more dresses. If it were only about economics, designers would have long ago expanded their size offerings, because there have always been larger women able and willing to embrace fashion. Big simply wasn’t considered beautiful. Indeed, even Oprah Winfrey went on a diet before she posed for the cover of Vogue in 1998. As recently as 2012, the designer Karl Lagerfeld, who died last year and who himself was 92 pounds overweight at one point, was called to task for saying that pop star Adele was “a little too fat.”

Attitudes are shifting. But the fashion world remains uneasy with large women—no matter how famous or rich. No matter how pretty their face. Elevating them to iconic status is a complicated, psychological hurdle for the arbiters of beauty. They need sleek élan in their symbols of beauty. They need long lines and sharp edges. They need women who can fit into sample sizes.

But instead of operating in a vacuum, they now are operating in a new media environment. Average folks have taken note of whether designers have a diverse cast of models, and if they do not, critics can voice their ire on social media and an angry army of like-minded souls can rise up and demand change. Digital media has made it easier for stories about emaciated and anorexic models to reach the general public, and the public now has a way to shame and pressure the fashion industry to stop hiring these deathly thin women. The Fashion Spot website became a diversity watchdog, regularly issuing reports on the demographic breakdown on the runways. How many models of color? How many plus-size women? How many of them were transgender? How many older models?

One might think that as female designers themselves aged, they would begin to highlight older women in their work. But women in fashion are part of the same cult of youth that they created. They Botox and diet. They swear by raw food and SoulCycle. How often do you see a chubby designer? A gray-haired one? Designers still use the phrase “old lady” to describe clothes that are unattractive. A “matronly” dress is one that is unflattering or out-of-date. The language makes the bias plain. But today women don’t take it as a matter of course. They revolt. Making “old” synonymous with unattractive is simply not going to stand.

The spread of luxury brands into China, Latin America, and Africa has forced designers to consider how best to market to those consumers while avoiding cultural minefields. They have had to navigate skin lightening in parts of Africa, the Lolita-cute culture of Japan, the obsession with double-eyelid surgery in East Asian countries, and prejudices of colorism, well, virtually everywhere. Idealized beauty needs a new definition. Who will sort it out? And what will the definition be?

In the West, the legacy media are now sharing influence with digital media, social media, and a new generation of writers and editors who came of age in a far more multicultural world—a world that has a more fluid view of gender. The millennial generation, those born between 1981 and 1996, is not inclined to assimilate into the dominant culture but to stand proudly apart from it. The new definition of beauty is being written by a selfie generation: people who are the cover stars of their own narrative.

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The new beauty isn’t defined by hairstyles or body shape, by age or skin color. Beauty is becoming less a matter of aesthetics and more about self-awareness, personal swagger, and individuality. It’s about chiseled arms and false eyelashes and a lineless forehead. But it’s also defined by rounded bellies, shimmering silver hair, and mundane imperfections. Beauty is a millennial strutting around town in leggings, a crop top, and her belly protruding over her waistband. It is a young man swishing down a runway in over-the-knee boots and thigh-grazing shorts.

Beauty is political correctness, cultural enlightenment, and social justice.

In New York, there’s a fashion collective called Vaquera that mounts runway shows in dilapidated settings with harsh lighting and no glamour. The cast could have piled off the F train after a sleepless night. Their hair is mussed. Their skin looks like it has a thin sheen of overnight grime. They stomp down the runway. The walk could be interpreted as angry, bumbling, or just a little bit hungover.

Masculine-looking models wear princess dresses that hang from the shoulders with all the allure of a shower curtain. Feminine-looking models aggressively speed-walk with a hunched posture and a grim expression. Instead of elongating legs and creating an hourglass silhouette, the clothes make legs look stumpy and the torso thick. Vaquera is among the many companies that call on street casting, which is basically pulling oddball characters from the street and putting them on the runway—essentially declaring them beautiful.

In Paris, the designer John Galliano, like countless other designers, has been blurring gender. He has done so in a way that’s exaggerated and aggressive, which is to say that instead of aiming to craft a dress or a skirt that caters to the lines of a masculine physique, he has simply draped that physique with a dress. The result is not a garment that ostensibly aims to make individuals look their best. It’s a statement about our stubborn assumptions about gender, clothing, and physical beauty.

Not so long ago, the clothing line Universal Standard published an advertising campaign featuring a woman who wears a U.S. size 24. She posed in her skivvies and a pair of white socks. The lighting was flat, her hair slightly frizzed, and her thighs dimpled with cellulite. There was nothing magical or inaccessible about the image. It was exaggerated realism—the opposite of the Victoria’s Secret angel.

Every accepted idea about beauty is being subverted. This is the new normal, and it is shocking. Some might argue that it’s even rather ugly.

As much as people say that they want inclusiveness and regular-looking people—so-called real people—many consumers remain dismayed that this, this is what passes for beauty. They look at a 200-pound woman and, after giving a cursory nod to her confidence, fret about her health—even though they’ve never seen her medical records. That’s a more polite conversation than one that argues against declaring her beautiful. But the mere fact that this Universal Standard model is in the spotlight in her underwear—just as the Victoria’s Secret angels have been and the Maidenform woman was a generation before that—is an act of political protest. It’s not about wanting to be a pinup but about wanting the right for one’s body to exist without negative judgment. As a society, we haven’t acknowledged her right to simply be. But at least the beauty world is giving her a platform on which to make her case.

This isn’t just a demand being made by full-figured women. Older women are insisting on their place in the culture. Black women are demanding that they be allowed to stand in the spotlight with their natural hair.

There’s no neutral ground. The body, the face, the hair have all become political. Beauty is about respect and value and the right to exist without having to alter who you fundamentally are. For a black woman, having her natural hair perceived as beautiful means that her kinky curls are not an indication of her being unprofessional. For a plus-size woman, having her belly rolls included in the conversation about beauty means that she will not be castigated by strangers for consuming dessert in public; she will not have to prove to her employer that she isn’t lazy or without willpower or otherwise lacking in self-control.

When an older woman’s wrinkles are seen as beautiful, it means that she is actually being seen. She isn’t being overlooked as a full human being: sexual, funny, smart, and, more than likely, deeply engaged in the world around her.

To see the beauty in a woman’s rippling muscles is to embrace her strength but also to shun the notion that female beauty is equated with fragility and weakness. Pure physical power is stunning.

“Own who you are,” read a T-shirt on the spring 2020 runway of Balmain in Paris. The brand’s creative director, Olivier Rousteing, is known for his focus on inclusiveness in beauty. He, along with Kim Kardashian, has helped popularize the notion of “slim thick,” the 21st-century description of an hourglass figure with adjustments made for athleticism. “Slim thick” describes a woman with a prominent derriere, breasts, and thighs, but with a slim, toned midsection. It’s a body type that has sold countless waist trainers and has been applied to women such as singer and fashion entrepreneur Rihanna who do not have the lean physique of a marathoner.

Slim thick may be just another body type over which women obsess. But it also gives women license to coin a term to describe their own body, turn it into a hashtag, and start counting the likes. Own who you are.

When I look at photographs of groups of women on vacation, or a mother with her child, I see friendship and loyalty, joy and love. I see people who seem exuberant and confident. Perhaps if I had the opportunity to speak with them, I’d find them intelligent and witty or incredibly charismatic. If I got to know them and like them, I’m sure I’d also describe them as beautiful.

If I were to look at a portrait of my mother, I would see one of the most beautiful people in the world—not because of her cheekbones or her neat figure, but because I know her heart.

As a culture, we give lip service to the notion that what matters is inner beauty when in fact it’s the outer version that carries the real social currency. The new outlook on beauty dares us to declare someone we haven’t met beautiful. It forces us to presume the best about people. It asks us to connect with people in a way that is almost childlike in its openness and ease.

Modern beauty doesn’t ask us to come to the table without judgment. It simply asks us to come presuming that everyone in attendance has a right to be there.

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“To be beautiful means to be yourself. You don’t need to be accepted by others. You need to accept yourself.” ~Thich Nhat Hanh

From the time I was a little girl, people told me I was pretty, but I never believed them. Instead, I scrutinized myself in the mirror searching for ways to look better, not realizing that what I was really looking for was a way to be me and feel good about myself.

As I focused even more on my looks throughout my twenties, I became increasingly self-conscious and dependent on how others perceived me. If someone complimented me and gave me attention, I would feel confident , but if I went unflattered or unnoticed, I would return to the mirror in an effort to figure out why.

I had often heard the expression “what you are inside shows on your face.” However, I didn’t know what these words truly meant until one day at the age of thirty-five.

That day, I took another long look in the mirror and suddenly something clicked: My looks were not the problem—they never were.

Somehow I understood that what I didn’t like about my face had nothing to do with my physical features. It was something else, something within myself that was reflecting out and causing me to feel unattractive, ill at ease, and unconfident.

At that moment I knew there were two things I needed to do. The first was to stop staring in the mirror. The second was to look at what was going on inside.

A friend recommended meditation , so I gave that a try. I sat, breathed, quieted my thoughts, and shared my feelings in a nine-hour course, which I followed with a two-day silent meditation retreat.

It’s possible that a silent retreat may not be for everyone, but it was one of the most valuable experiences of my life. The two days forced me to meditate, reflect, and “be” with myself in an environment that did not permit social interaction, not even eye contact.

There were also no distractions, such as telephone, TV, books, or computers.

Was the experience disagreeable? Initially, yes. Was it painful? Sometimes, but it allowed me to bring forth a lot of valuable self-information and one remarkable realization: I became conscious of how unnatural I felt.

In the time I was there, I recognized that I was not uncomfortable in that setting because I didn’t know how to be with myself. I was uncomfortable because I didn’t know how to be myself.

This was also why I often felt unattractive and ill at ease with others.

I was frequently projecting someone who didn’t feel “like me,” and that projection habitually depended on who I was interacting with.

It was this realization that launched my journey to authenticity and the discovery of a beautiful me.

Slowly, I started to learn about myself and the things that make me happy, and I found that I had a rhythm. I could hardly believe it, but I actually had my own beautiful flow, and as soon as I began to follow it my authenticity started to build on itself.

I gradually began to feel less self-conscious around others and much more comfortable with myself.

For the first time in my life I started to feel well and beautiful—and it showed. I saw it in the mirror. My husband noticed it in my body language. He said I carried myself differently, like I had more confidence and ease.

Of course, many practices assisted me in my journey, but the ones that helped the most are the ones that keep me grounded in myself today.

If you’re also looking to feel more at ease with yourself, I recommend:

Honor your body

I can never say enough about how important it is to celebrate my body. Every day I thank it for all that it does, and honor its needs through thirty-minute runs, long showers, flossing my teeth, and drinking lots of water.

Make a list of the things you need to do to take care of yourself so you feel healthy and grounded, and then schedule them into your day. It’s easier to feel good about who you are when you make your needs priorities.

Maintain a healthy, positive mind

Along with running, creative writing has contributed greatly to my journey. It keeps my mind filled with positive thoughts, and so much of who I am comes out in the characters I write about.

I also love to read, learn new things, and travel to different places, even if just new areas or neighborhoods near my home.

What practices make you feel passionate and positive about the way you’re living your life? Doing what you love is an important step in loving who you are .

Maintain a happy, healthy spirit

Without inner peace, authenticity is fleeting. Consequently, I meditate daily and do my best to live where peace is found—in the present moment. I also make a point of watching a couple of funny movies every week.

Nothing helps my spirit soar as much as laughter. It helps me see the world through younger eyes and reminds me that, no matter what, every moment contains hope and possibilities.

Take time out to nurture your spirit, whether that means practicing yoga , walking on the beach, or simply relaxing. In order to be comfortable with yourself, you first need to be comfortable just being.

And always keep in mind…

Finding your authenticity—finding yourself— will help you feel your beauty. When you endeavor to be who you are and be true to yourself, you will automatically feel attractive and unique.

Also, it is important to remind yourself that beauty is never dependent upon the approval of others. Quite the contrary, beauty is very much self-defined and self-created. The only person who can ever truthfully tell you “you are beautiful” is also the only person who can “make you beautiful.”

You are the only person who can do this.

The power to be beautiful lies not in the eyes of others. It comes from deep within you.

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About Mary Dunlop

Mary Dunlop is a passionate student of life with a keen desire to learn, share, and grow. She believes everyone has a special gift. Hers is writing. Her first novella, The Beauty of Twin Soul Love is currently being published.

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April 6, 2014

I decided to ask some friends, family members and acquaintances, both male and female, what beauty means to them. I thought it would be interesting to post their answers in no particular order, so here we go!

• “Someone having a good spirit, not just physically, but they’re kind, and you can see smile lines in their face. That’s beauty. I’ve always liked that.”
• “Such a difficult word to define as there are so many ways to apply the word ‘beauty’ in life. But to me, beauty is loving yourself for who you are and accepting others for who they are. Beauty is appreciating those qualities in yourself (whether that be your crooked smile, kind heart, hazel eyes or quick wit) that set you apart–we are all perfect in our imperfections. And that is beautiful.”
• “It means being confident.”
• “Beauty means taking the time to make yourself feel good on the inside and out! Whatever that is for each person.”
• “To me, the words ‘pretty, attractive, handsome, etc.’ are external and sometimes superficial terms. Beauty and purity fall in the same vein for me: Nature/nurture characteristics that are ‘internal’ (physiological) that can only be viewed when externalized. Beauty encompasses love, trust, compassion, assertiveness…traits that are positive and beneficial to the human race. In my eyes, finding true beauty is much more than skin deep.”
• “Beauty to me is, at least individual-wise, is as simple as someone being themselves and the beauty, as one says, radiates.”
• “Beauty is being who you are and being confident in yourself.”
• “Beauty to me comes from within. It’s not the hairstyle, the wardrobe or the makeup. It’s being confident in the person you are today no matter what shape, size, color, etc. Always being the best person you can be. A beautiful personality = beautiful person.”
• “Beauty can be found in the moments in which we are reminded what matters most to us. Like when a flower opens for the first time and you remember how you love them. When you see a new mother with her baby and you are reminded of how you love your children. Beauty is all around us; we just need to be humble…And Urban Decay Anarchy lipstick!”
• “You ask a tough question. Of course there is physical beauty, but it extends far beyond that. When referring to a person, beauty is the compassion a person has for others. It is the kindness, grace and respect someone extends to another, whether a friend or stranger. It is the happiness exuded from a person’s heart, which affects their actions in everyday life. Beauty encompasses more than people, though. Beauty is something God created, which is untouched by man. It is something that is beyond physical measure and cannot be recreated by any individual. Sunsets, people, mountains, shooting stars, oceans–these things are all beautiful. These things are all the product of one creator, who shows us what beauty is in His creation.”
• “Beauty is the summation of every feature, every small gesture, every flaw, every peculiarity and every trait that provides a window into someone’s inner being, their soul. It’s never the appearance of someone that sticks with you, but rather how they make you feel that lingers in the mind even in their absence. Beauty is an amalgamation of the mundane, the profound, the perfect and the imperfect details that make every person unique.”
• “Chicken. Wrapped in bacon. Then grilled. That is beauty.”

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Inner Or Outer Beauty Essay: What Is More Important?

During the history of mankind the image of beautiful person (man and woman) was constantly changing. Even 50 years ago people had other view on what appearance person should have to be considered beautiful. So many poets and writers glorified the human beauty. However, people usually talk about external or outer beauty. But what about internal beauty? We decided to write not just essay on beauty, but to make it inner beauty essay. So, read and enjoy.

Inner beauty of a human or external: what is more important?

Inner beauty of a human or external: what to choose?

We used to think that human beauty hides in the eyes. However, something that one considers beautiful other person may consider ugly. You can look for the beauty inside in the way how a person presents the beauty aura. It is not important how much beautiful a person is, it is important how much naturally he carries the aura of beauty. The beauty is in the kindness that is a part of the aura, in peaceful nature, in a certain confidence and inner calmness. Faces with the absolute accuracy of the features, beautiful appearance can be egoistic, haughty, fussy or arrogant; they often want to show their superiority over others. Such a superficial beauty will not last forever. People grow old and external features fade away.

Time changes us as physically as internally, we do not have the same appearance during our lifetime. At the same time inner beauty will last forever. Superficial beauty can not make deep impression, and those who aim to get beautiful face and perfect body with the help of Botox injections and other wonders of surgery will hardly get wide recognition and respect.

However, most people will prefer to talk to a person who has attractive appearance, because we all are attracted by something beautiful. Later, when you understand that a person is not what you expect, that you take his / hers appearance for the essence, you may be very disappointed. Having looked deeper, you will discover an empty shell instead of beauty. You will understand how much important it is to have beauty inside and how much seldom you can meet people who have inner and external beauty at the same time.

The inner beauty of a person

Internal human beauty is presented naturally and unpretentious. Probably, it may have not ideal look, but it seems to be coming from a man when he / she smiles, from the manner of speech and treat others with kindness and tenderness. You understand how much beautiful this person is, and definitely you will prefer inner beauty to external. A person with beautiful soul shines brighter than beautiful face with emptiness inside. In such a way, inner beauty of a person is much more important than superficial external beauty, and also we can keep it for the whole life.

What about appearance?

Nevertheless, the researches show that people who have attractive appearance get work more often, especially if the interviewer also considers them attractive. The same researches prove that pupils like more teachers with attractive appearance, and think that they are more intelligent and more professional than others. It is well known that children react positively to attractive faces. Is it possible to disagree with that?

It turns out that if we want “political correctness”, we will repeat again and again that beauty is inside us. But! The world is cruel and if you want harsh and “naked” truth, than you should know that modern society often perceives beauty as something external only, as accuracy of features and respectable appearance.

So let’s be honest and realistic

Billions and billions of dollars spent each year on means that should make our appearance better. Much more than money spent on books, theatres and museums, for example. It means that “beauty” of the real world is outside, not inside. Think about it: those who suffer from extreme obesity seem attractive to you? Do you think they have rich spiritual world? Of course, we can not judge without knowing them closer, but one thing is obvious: their appearance pushes you away. Why? Because people, especially women, are very critical about appearance of each other. Besides, people who do not like their body usually have lack of self-respect.

Beauty of physical look does not mean that someone is better than others. The conception of ideal beauty is built on the age-old competition and desire to create visual attractiveness as a means of competition. The reason for this is in biology.

Of course, physical beauty is important, but fortunately it is not the only thing that a person can give to the world. For the most powerful people, who take decisions, physical features are less essential than such trait as charisma, intelligence, confidence and sense of purpose, which are also elements of inner beauty . Perfect skin and face features are not life-determining things for them. But let’s face the truth, each politician, for example, tends to look attractive and is ready to spend large sums of money on the image-makers and stylists, and they also recourse to plastic surgery.

It is difficult to be honest and say “yes”, outer beauty plays great role because it is not available for everyone. Not everyone was blessed by good genetics, but this is life and we all have to play according to its rules. Sure, outer beauty is a great gift, but what is important is how person decides to use the physical features, can he or she become successful using appearance.

There are people who say that “beauty is in the eye of the beholder”. It sounds great. But everyone knows that the beauty issue concerns women more. Women’s self-esteem is completely connected to their appearance and attractiveness. Unfortunately, women judge more strictly the attractiveness than men. This is not fair, but this is life.

So, beauty is a harmonious whole that brings moral and aesthetic pleasure. Inner beauty of a person is visible from the outside and it makes the person look beautiful. The most important thing is the harmony of body and soul, the inner beauty of a person should be combined with external beauty. Learn how to combine them in yourself and you will be really happy man.

The unity of inner and outer beauty of a man

Our notions of the ideal of beauty are embodied in outer beauty. External beauty is not only anthropological perfection of all the body elements, it is not only the health. It is inner spirituality: rich world of the thoughts and feelings, moral dignity, respect for others and self-respect and so on. The higher moral development and the overall level of human spiritual culture is, the brighter rich spiritual world reflects in external features. In simple words, inner beauty is reflected in the appearance.

There is nothing ashamed in the fact that person wants to be beautiful, to look nice. Outer beauty has its inner moral sources. When a person is engaged with something he likes to do, he looks more attractive, it seems that he has inner light that males him beautiful. Favorite work makes a person beautiful, transforms facial features, and makes them thin and expressive.

If inner spiritual wealth forms human beauty, then inactivity and immoral activities destroy the beauty.

Immoral activities disfigure. A person who has the habit to lie, dissemble, rant avoids looking into the eyes of others, it is hard to see a thought inside his eyes, he hides it. Jealousy, selfishness, suspicion, fear that “people will not appreciate me” – all these feelings gradually coarsen facial features, make them sullen, unsociable. Be yourself, cherish your dignity, because this is the source of the real human beauty.

The ideal of human beauty is the moral ideal at the same time. The unity of physical, moral, aesthetic perfection is the harmony that people seek for.

There are so many essays on beauty already written, but I hope in this beauty essay we managed to transfer the main idea that beauty has two sides, external and internal, and these two elements should not exist separately. There always should be unity of inner and outer beauty.

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Essay About Beauty: What Is Beautiful For You?

We hear this word very often in our life, but we even do not think, what does it mean. We used to think, that it is something, that everyone like and that is all. If we ask any person what is beauty for him, he can name a lot of things, but it will be very difficult to explain, why he considers that they are beautiful.

What Beauty For You mean ?

The definition of the word “beauty” is an aesthetically pleasing feature of an object or a person. The word “beauty” holds a distinctive positive meaning if applied to a person. It means that the character or the physical appearance of said individual is considered as beautiful in the speaker’s opinion. The definition of beauty is usually considered as subjective.

If we speak in general, when you see something and you are glad to see it, then we can say, that it is beautiful. There is no matter it it is the field with the flowers or the exotic bird, it is the beauty for us.

But the definition of the beauty is different for everyone, because everyone has his/her own point of view and all people are different, because of it they cannot like the same things. Also, it depends on the culture and on the level of the development of the person. For example, some men like blond women, but some of them just hate when the woman has blond hair. There can be a lot of discussions about personal point of view of every person and there will not be the winner. If your teacher asked you to write the beauty definition essay and you do not know where to start from, you can place the order on our site and we will write this essay for you. You can be sure, that you will get the high quality paper, because we have only professional writers with the great experience.

This example can be also connected with the clothes. For example, you like something in the shop and you think, that it is really beautiful and can be even your favorite one, but at the same time, your friend can say, that this thing is awful and she does not understand how you can even think to purchase it. It should not be like a shock, because it is just the personal statement and as all people are different, it is normal that they all think in the different way and have different point of view.

There are a lot of examples of the beauty which we can meet in our world. Even if we look through the history, we will see, that people liked to be the slaves of the beauty during many generations. But if there was one person, who showed the other point of view, the society did not accept him, but it was only the fact, that this person is individual and did not think like the other people.

The definition of the word “beauty” is an aesthetically pleasing feature of an object or a person. This word holds a distinctive positive meaning if applied to a person. It means that the character or the physical appearance of said individual is considered as attractive in the speaker’s opinion.

How to correctly define the meaning of beauty.

Everyone today can look up the word “beauty” in a dictionary and get to know its definition. But what about the concept itself? Why is it often said that beauty is in the eyes of the beholder? This article will help you understand why beauty is so ephemeral.

If you ask anyone about what they can consider as beautiful, you will get an uncountable number of answers. Sure, some of them would sound similar, but the fundamental reasoning behind them would hugely differ from each other. For example, the beauty standards for men and women underwent a significant change throughout the existence of humankind.

As they say – for each their own. Many kinds of material or spiritual events, objects, or even their aesthetic can be considered beautiful for different personal reasons, views, or opinions. Even if two people like the same thing, it is not always the case that they consider it as likable for the same reasons.

Every single person in the world is unique and has his or her own set of experiences, beliefs, or principles. Each human possesses a distinctive and intricate identity, which is impossible to classify by any means one can come up with.

The only thing you can truly figure out for sure is that every similarity between human personalities is only superficial.

Here we provided you with a short list of what may be distinguished as beautiful. This will help you understand the point that we are trying to make in this article.

• The external features of the human body. There is no need to explain how much consideration every person gives to this subject. The skin tone, hair color, or even the quantity of a body fat one can be thoroughly examined by a lot of people to decide if the person in question is beautiful or not.
• Any characteristic that can be applied to a physical object. Its shape, color, softness, hardness, or transparency can be measured and judged as pleasing to the senses or hideous and ugly.
• Such an intangible thing as sound can also be beautiful. If you hear a delicate and alluring melody, you would state that it is definitely more beautiful than the sound of nails on the chalkboard.
• The aesthetic of any kind is, without a doubt, belongs to the category of things that can be acknowledged as grand and wonderful.

This is just a small portion from a wide variety of instances where the idea of beauty can be implemented.

The inner beauty

What is the inner beauty.

A lot of people can even forget, that the important role plays not only beautiful body, but the beautiful soul too. It is impossible to have a lot of beautiful clothes, but at that time to forget, that all we are human. And it is impossible to say, that one person is better that the other one. It is not true. We all are different, and it is very good, because if we were the same, we would not try to develop ourselves in the best way and we would not want to change our life. If you wish to get the inner beauty essay, you can order it on our site and we will be glad to create the best essay with all detailed information you wish to know. Also, you will be really surprised because of our prices. You can just check our site and you will be able to see the examples of our essays on the different topics. We hope, that you will find the needed information there. Also, you can order the essay on any other theme on our site. It will be a pleasure for us to do it for you.

The main sides of the inner beauty

• When people are very kind to other people or animals
• They are ready for help other people
• These people are open to the whole world
• High IQ level
• You can see, that they are honest .

What can you get?

The beauty plays a very big role exactly for women. It is believed, that if the woman is beauty, she can have a good husband and the great job. If the girl would like to be a model, it is needed to be beautiful, because everyone will see you and you will be famous. Also, if the woman would like to get, for example, the position of the secretary in some huge and famous company, it means that she should be beautiful, because she will be “ the face” of the company and she will meet a lot of people.

The health and the beauty

Do not you notice, that people, which are healthy, are beautiful? These people are very attractive for the society. They do not need to use a lot of cosmetics or to purchase expensive and brand clothes. They do some physical exercises and just eat healthy food , because of it they are beautiful. It is very important to understand, that the beauty starts inside of you and only you are responsible for it.

There are a lot of definitions, which are connected with the beauty. For example: beautiful life, natural beauty, beautiful soul, which you cannot hide from the other people. But everyone should understand, that there is no need just to follow the other people, it is needed to find something that you really like and to find the definition of the beauty which will be exactly for you. And then, even the things, which are usual, will be beautiful. We are sure, that this 5 paragraph essay on beauty will help you to understand this world better and will help you not just to follow the ideals, which people created, but to find your own definition of the beauty, that you will use for the whole life.

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