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A Guide to Writing a Funeral Speech: 8 Heartfelt Examples

By: Author Camila Steinfeld

Posted on Last updated: October 20, 2023

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With the passing of a loved one comes the responsibility of making arrangements for their funeral. This includes deciding who will be saying a funeral speech at the funeral service.

Saying a funeral speech is not something that should be undertaken unprepared. It requires some forethought and planning.

A funeral is an emotional occasion and delivering a speech, unprepared, in front of the congregation is a recipe for disaster = one that will not soon be forgiven.

The ‘Do’s and Don’ts’ of a Funeral Speech

When you sit down to decide what you’re going to say in your eulogy speech, there are a few factors you need to take into consideration.

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In writing your speech , it’s important to demonstrate the personal relationship you shared with the deceased. It’s necessary that you give the congregation an insight into the person’s life as it related to your own.

If you want to relate a situation or event that occurred in the deceased’s life, do so tastefully.

Your aim is not to deliver a stand-up comedy routine, but rather, a poignant and potentially somewhat humorous view of who the deceased was and what they meant to you.

A funeral speech is difficult to deliver if you’re feeling over-emotional. You cannot afford to break down and cry in the moment.  

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That’s not to say that you cannot show your emotions and grief. But you must be able to get through the speech you have prepared.

Finally, don’t use a funeral speech as an opportunity to settle old scores or tell others about unfinished business between yourself and the deceased.

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Here are some examples of a funeral speech that celebrates the deceased’s life but at the same time expresses the grief of the speaker.

A Eulogy for a Mother

The last thing I imagined myself doing today was delivering the eulogy at my mother’s funeral.

Despite the fact that she was ill, and we knew her passing was inevitable, it has still come as a shock to us as a family.

My mother was a phenomenal woman who possessed reserves of strength and patience that seemed to be infinite.

We, her children, were her pride and joy; she regarded us as the greatest accomplishment of her life. That doesn’t mean that raising us was easy, nor always enjoyable.

My siblings and I gave her a lot of gray hairs along the way. But, regardless of our misdeeds, she would always find it in her heart to forgive us.

And not only that, she would have enough faith in us to believe that we would not transgress again.

One of my fondest memories of my mother is watching her sit down and relax after a long day. She worked hard at her job and came home to run her household. That meant that she had very little time to herself.

And even with the little ‘me time’ she had, she never used it for herself. She’d always be knitting or sewing or making something that we needed.

What our family lacked in money, my mother more than made up for with love.

My mother was the heart of our home, the center of our universe, and the greatest example of unconditional love we could’ve hoped to have.

A Eulogy for a Father

My father was a quiet man. He seldom said much. That’s why, when he did have something to say, we listened.

That may make him sound like he was distant, but nothing could be further from the truth.

He was always interested in what was going on in our lives and was extraordinarily proud of our achievements.

Whether it was scoring a home run in a Little League baseball game or getting a bursary for a university, he delighted in our successes.

As a child, one of the places I felt the safest was in the arms of my father. In fact, right now, that’s the place I wish I was more than anything else.

He was a hardworking man who set a great example for my siblings and me. We learned from him that, regardless of the task, it was not worth doing if you didn’t want to do it properly.

My father had an incredibly dry sense of humor. It took us a while to grasp it because, as children, we didn’t get it.

But as we grew up, we began to understand his wit and laugh at the things he said.  

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He presided over family dinners with a quiet dignity that spoke of a patriarch who took that responsibility seriously.

He was the mediator in our disputes as siblings and always took the high road, refusing to take sides.

He’s left a gap in our lives that we can’t even begin to contemplate filling.

A Funeral Speech for a Best Friend

Jennifer and I met, two gap-toothed first-grader’s, on the first day of school – ever.

Something drew us to each other though. We could never quite figure out what it was, but it’s lasted a lifetime.

As children, we would spend hours with each other without talking that much.

We just understood each other. Even if you put us on either side of a big room full of people, Jennifer and I would always find our way back to each other immediately.

We survived high school together. I’m not sure if either of us would’ve made it without the other. We laughed and cried together so many times.

There were crushes and boyfriends that caused heartache and heartbreak. But, throughout it all, we were always there for each other, no matter what – no matter how many times I needed a shoulder to cry on, Jennifer was there.

We went to different colleges after high school and the careers and lives we pursued after our studies were poles apart. We lived far away from each other and I’ll be honest, we sometimes went for long periods without talking, which I regret.

I’ll be honest, we sometimes went for long periods without talking, which I regret.

But every time we spoke or saw each other though, we picked up where we left off, and it felt like we’d never been apart.

It’s that mutual love and respect that makes me know Jennifer was the best friend I could ever have had.

A Eulogy for a Wife

I don’t know where to begin to tell you about the enormous gaping hole that Samantha’s passing has left in my life.

It feels like half of me has vanished in an instant, and I’m not sure I’ll ever feel whole again.

Samantha was an amazing woman. She had such an infectious zest for life that she could always find the humor or a silver lining of any situation, regardless of the gravity. Anything seemed possible with her attitude.

The way she attacked the obstacles she encountered with such strength and determination was inspirational.

Samantha and I met quite by accident. I walked into her office in error – and there she was: the most beautiful woman I had ever seen. She seemed to radiate some kind of magnetic attraction.  

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I knew there and then that I would never be able to stay away from her, and that my life would not be complete without her in it. She didn’t make it easy.

I had to ask her out several times before she agreed. But when I look back on the life we’ve shared, it was more than worth it.

Our children were the center of Samantha’s world. She took her role as a mother seriously and did an amazing job of raising them to be the adults they are today.

I wish I’d had more time with her, I really do. But I will treasure the years I had with her in my heart for the rest of my life.

A Funeral Speech for a Husband

The thing that made me fall in love with Stephen was his sense of humor. He always made me laugh, even when all I wanted to do was cry.

Whenever I’d get angry or upset with him – for whatever reason – I’d always wind up laughing because he could always make me see the funny side of it.

As a husband, Stephen was supportive of everything I did.

Like when I decided that the patio needed to be refurbished. He was right by my side working so hard to help me, even though I’m sure the last thing he felt like doing was revamping the patio.

In fact, I know he would have preferred to spend his weekend resting and relaxing. But he never let me down. Tired or not, he’d help me with all my ‘projects’.

Stephen endeared himself to me even more when we became parents. He was so proud to be a father and a wonderfully hands-on partner.

I couldn’t have asked for a better father for my children. In fact, there were times I had to ask him to be a bit more hands-off so that I could get to my babies!

The lives of our children and their achievements gave Stephen an enormous amount of satisfaction.

He supported them every step of the way. He picked them up when they fell or failed.

He encouraged them to keep going. And he showed them how to be the resilient adults they have become.

My life was better that I could have ever imagined, and fuller that I ever dreamed because of Stephen’s presence by my side.

A Eulogy for a brother

I’m not going to stand up here and tell you that it was all sunshine and roses between David and myself growing up.

There were times I wished he wasn’t my brother. And I’m sure there were times he wished I wasn’t his sister.

We seemed to have a knack for pushing each other’s buttons, sometimes with some amusing consequences, sometimes not.

From the outset, David stood out as an individual. He did not march to the beat of society’s drum. He had his own internal drumbeat, and he remained committed to it.

One of my favorite memories of David is the one-and-only time my mother asked him to water her indoor plants. True to form, David came up with a plan to make the job easier.

He brought the hose and sprinkler indoors and turned it on. I’ll never forget the look on my mother’s face and the mischievous grin on David’s.

As we grew older, I began to see David for what he truly was. He was a caring brother who’d do anything to protect me.

He let me cry on his shoulder when I went through my first break-up. He was the only one who understood my hurt and confusion when our parents divorced.

David was a loyal and kind person who’d never let you down.

He’d have given anyone the shirt off his back. I’m proud to have called this incredibly special man my brother.

A Funeral Speech for a Sister

My sister Janet never met a challenge she didn’t conquer.

Even as a baby, she showed an exceptional amount of determination. She would turn her mind to an obstacle and work on it until she’d overcome it.

Of course, she drove me crazy. Having a little sister who wanted to tag along was, at times, infuriating.

She would go through the things in my room and leave a mess. When she was about ten years old, she got into my makeup drawer and went completely overboard.

When I caught her, she had rainbow-colored eyelids, forehead and cheeks. Her lips and teeth were full of lipstick, and there was mascara everywhere. I was furious at the time. When she saw how angry I was, she began to cry.

Anytime she’d open those beautiful big brown eyes of hers, silently reminding me that she was my flesh and blood, I couldn’t stay angry with her.

She’d open those beautiful big brown eyes and remind me that she was my flesh and blood. And I couldn’t stay angry with her.

Janet was an exemplary student. She had an incredible work ethic. If she didn’t understand something, she’d work at it until she did.

Losing my sister is so heartbreaking. She had so much left to offer the world.

But wherever she is, I know that she’s looking down on me now with those gorgeous brown eyes and that beautiful smile.

A Funeral Speech for a Close Acquaintance (e.g., a teacher, boss, coworker)

I’d like to start by offering John’s family my sincerest condolences.

Your loss is so great. You had a special man in your midst, and I’m can’t imagine the depth of loss you must feel.

John was my high school English teacher, so you might wonder why I refer to him as John and not as Mr. Robinson; it was at his insistence, as soon as I graduated.

When I first called him Mr. Robinson after graduation, he’d turned around and said, “Is my father standing behind me?” When I replied in the negative, he’d said, “Then why are you saying his name?”

John taught me so much more than English. He taught me how to think critically, and not to take things at face value.  

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He showed me the value of questioning that which was placed before me as fact. Thanks to him, I developed analytical skills that I continue to use today.

John’s work ethic influenced me greatly. He would always show us the value of hard work and diligence. I took those lessons to heart.

His passion for teaching English was contagious. I fell in love with the language on a different level thanks to him. He made the written word come alive in class.

He may not have known it, but John fulfilled an important role in my life. He was like a father, an uncle, and a big brother all rolled into one.

He shaped me into the man I am today. There are no words I can use to express my gratitude, which I know would disappoint John. After all, he made sure he taught us a wide vocabulary

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Funeral Speech Examples for a Heartfelt Eulogy

We hope our funeral speech examples will inspire you to write a heartfelt eulogy to honour your loved one.

Delivering a funeral speech can be a daunting task.  Quite apart from the challenge of speaking in front of people while in a highly charged emotional state, the task of actually writing the funeral speech can be overwhelming. 

We are here to help you tackle this important job especially if you are in a state of shock from the grief of losing your loved one.

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Guidelines for Writing Funeral Speeches:

First of all, we have put together the following simple guidelines to help you to think of things to say: 

• Speak from the heart and say how you feel about the person
• Describe the person's qualities
• Talk about their career, jobs, hobbies and passions
• Talk about their relationships with family, friends and colleagues
• Mention things that you inherited or learned from them
• Perhaps mention some people who will be at the funeral
• Mention a couple of funny stories if appropriate
• Keep it real and don't be afraid of mentioning their less good points - you don't have to put them on a pedestal
• Thank people for coming to the funeral and for their support

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Eulogy Sample Speeches

All the following links are sample eulogies written about real people.  The ones for a father were written by myself and my brother when my Dad died.  The one for a mother was written by my mother (founder of this website) about her own Mum.  

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We hope they will give you some ideas for writing your own moving tribute.  

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Finally, to help you with your task of writing your funeral speech, we have some printable templates as a guide to write eulogies for adults and for children. 

Print them out and then fill in the information and stories for your own departed loved one.  

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How to Deliver a Heartfelt Funeral Speech: A Step-by-Step Guide

Funeral speeches play a crucial role in honoring the life of a loved one who has passed away. They provide solace to grieving family members and friends, while also sharing the essence of the person’s life and their impact on those around them. A well-crafted eulog y captures the unique qualities of the deceased, allowing attendees to relive fond memories and celebrate the individual’s life.

Writing and delivering a heartfelt eulogy can be a daunting task. The pressure to create the “best eulogy ever” can be overwhelming, especially when you’re dealing with your own grief. The internet is filled with various funeral eulogy examples, from funny eulogy examples that highlight the person’s wit to deeply emotional tributes. Famous eulogies like Earl Spencer’s eulogy for Princess Diana, John Cleese’s eulogy for Graham Chapman, and Oprah Winfrey’s eulogy for Rosa Parks have set the bar high.

Finding the perfect balance between honoring the person’s life and providing comfort to loved ones can be challenging. In this step-by-step guide, we will explore how to write and deliver a heartfelt funeral speech, drawing inspiration from eulogy examples and famous eulogies to help you pay tribute to your beloved family member or close friend.

II. Understanding the Purpose of a Funeral Speech

A. honoring the deceased.

A funeral speech is an opportunity to honor the deceased by highlighting their unique qualities, accomplishments, and the impact they had on the lives of others. The best eulogy ever would capture the essence of the person’s life and character, creating a lasting tribute that resonates with attendees. Famous eulogies, such as Earl Spencer’s eulogy for Princess Diana, John Cleese’s eulogy for Graham Chapman, and Oprah Winfrey’s eulogy for Rosa Parks, serve as inspiring examples of how to pay homage to a loved one.

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B. Comforting the bereaved

One of the primary purposes of a funeral speech is to provide comfort and solace to the bereaved family and friends. Sharing fond memories, funny eulogy examples, and heartfelt stories can help lighten the atmosphere and offer consolation to those in mourning. A well-crafted eulogy helps celebrate the person’s life while acknowledging the pain of their passing, striking the perfect balance between grief and happy memories.

C. Sharing memories and stories

A funeral speech allows you to share personal experiences and stories about the deceased, creating a tapestry of memories that paint a vivid picture of their life. Drawing from short eulogy examples and famous eulogies like Mona Simpson’s eulogy for Steve Jobs and Frank Oz’s eulogy for Jim Henson can help illustrate the impact one person can have on the lives of many. By sharing these stories, a funeral speech can create a sense of connection and closeness among the attendees, reminding us all of the special bond we shared with our beloved family member or close friend.

III. Gathering Information and Memories

A. talking to family and friends.

Before diving into writing the best eulogy ever, it’s essential to gather information and collect memories from family and friends of the deceased. This can help provide a more comprehensive understanding of the person’s life, character, and impact on others. Conversations with close friends and family members can reveal heartwarming stories and funny eulogy examples that might not be known otherwise. These anecdotes can help paint a vivid picture of the deceased, making the eulogy more authentic and relatable.

B. Reflecting on your own experiences with the deceased

In addition to gathering information from others, take the time to reflect on your own experiences and earliest memories with the deceased. This will allow you to recall fond memories and special moments you shared together. Consider how much one person’s life has influenced your own and what lessons you’ve learned from them. Personal stories and experiences can make the eulogy more genuine and create a deeper connection with the audience.

C. Organizing your thoughts

Once you’ve collected stories and memories from family, friends, and your own experiences, it’s time to organize your thoughts and determine the structure of your eulogy. Review various funeral eulogy examples, including famous eulogies like Earl Spencer’s eulogy for Princess Diana, John Cleese’s eulogy for Graham Chapman, and Oprah Winfrey’s eulogy for Rosa Parks. Draw inspiration from these examples while keeping your eulogy unique and tailored to the person you are honoring.

As you organize your thoughts, consider incorporating elements from short eulogy examples, such as quotes, poems, or specific phrases that capture the essence of the person’s character. For instance, Cher shared a beautiful eulogy at Sonny Bono’s British memorial service, where she provided hope and comfort through her words.

By combining the gathered information, personal experiences, and inspiration from various eulogy examples, you can create a heartfelt tribute that honors the memory of your beloved family member or close friend.

IV. Structuring Your Funeral Speech

A. the opening: setting the tone.

Start your eulogy with an opening that sets the tone for the entire speech. You may choose to begin with a quote that represents the deceased, a personal anecdote, or simply an expression of love and admiration. Take inspiration from famous eulogies like Earl Spencer’s eulogy for Princess Diana, John Cleese’s eulogy for Graham Chapman, or Oprah Winfrey’s eulogy for Rosa Parks. The opening should capture the essence of the person’s character and create an emotional connection with the audience.

B. The body: sharing stories and memories

Personal anecdotes.

In the body of your funeral speech, share personal anecdotes that illustrate the person’s life and the impact they had on others. These stories can be drawn from your own experiences, as well as those shared by family and friends. Personal anecdotes help paint a vivid picture of the deceased and offer a glimpse into their personality and values.

Humor and light moments

While grief is a natural part of any funeral speech, incorporating humor and light moments can provide relief and comfort to the bereaved. Funny eulogy examples, such as John Cleese’s eulogy for Graham Chapman or Frank Oz’s eulogy for Jim Henson, demonstrate how laughter can be a powerful healing tool. Be sure to balance humor with sensitivity, ensuring that your jokes and anecdotes are appropriate for the occasion.

Lessons learned and values cherished

Share the lessons learned and values cherished by the deceased throughout their life. This can include their beliefs, passions, and the wisdom they imparted on others. Referencing short eulogy examples or famous eulogies like Mona Simpson’s eulogy for Steve Jobs can provide inspiration for this section of your speech.

C. The closing: expressing gratitude and hope

In the closing of your funeral speech, express gratitude for the time spent with the deceased and the happy memories you shared. Offer hope for the future by sharing how the person’s life will continue to impact others, even in their absence. Use powerful words and phrases to create a lasting impression, aiming to make your eulogy one of the best eulogies ever.

Drawing from funeral eulogy examples, like Cher’s beautiful eulogy at Sonny Bono’s British memorial service, can help you find the perfect balance of heartfelt emotion and hope. By incorporating elements of famous eulogies and personal stories, your funeral speech will pay tribute to your beloved family member or close friend while providing comfort and solace to those in attendance.

V. Tips for Writing a Heartfelt Eulogy

A. be authentic and genuine.

When writing a eulogy, it’s essential to be authentic and genuine in your words and emotions. The best eulogy ever is one that comes from the heart and truly reflects the person’s life and character. Draw inspiration from funeral eulogy examples and famous eulogies like Earl Spencer’s eulogy for Princess Diana, John Cleese’s eulogy for Graham Chapman, and Oprah Winfrey’s eulogy for Rosa Parks, but make sure to infuse your own unique voice and perspective.

B. Use descriptive language

Using descriptive language in your eulogy helps paint a vivid picture of the person’s life and experiences. By employing vivid imagery and evocative words, you can bring memories to life and create a more immersive experience for the audience. Descriptive language can enhance even short eulogy examples, making them more memorable and impactful.

C. Focus on the positive aspects of the deceased’s life

While acknowledging grief and loss is important, focusing on the positive aspects of the deceased’s life can provide comfort and solace to those mourning. Share fond memories, happy moments, and the positive qualities of the person to celebrate their life and legacy. Funny eulogy examples, like Frank Oz’s eulogy for Jim Henson or John Cleese’s eulogy for Graham Chapman, show the power of humor in highlighting the positive aspects of a person’s life.

D. Keep it concise and organized

An effective eulogy is concise and well-organized, guiding the audience through the person’s life and experiences while maintaining their attention. To achieve this, make use of keywords and phrases that capture the essence of the person and their impact, such as “fond memories,” “beloved mother,” “best friend,” or “so much fun.” Drawing inspiration from famous eulogies and eulogy examples can help you structure your speech and ensure that it remains engaging and focused. By following these tips, you can create a beautiful eulogy that pays tribute to your loved one and leaves a lasting impression on those who hear it.

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VI. Preparing for Delivery

A. practice reading your speech.

To ensure that your eulogy flows smoothly and resonates with the audience, practice reading it aloud several times before the funeral. This will help you become familiar with the text, allowing you to convey your message with confidence. As you read, consider the pacing and tone of your speech, ensuring that it aligns with the examples of great eulogies you have researched.

B. Anticipate emotions and have a backup plan

Delivering a eulogy can be an emotional experience, especially when recounting fond memories of a close friend or family member. Anticipate the emotions that may arise during your speech and have a backup plan in place, such as pausing to compose yourself or asking someone else to continue reading on your behalf if needed. By preparing for these moments, you can ensure that your tribute remains heartfelt and genuine.

C. Speak slowly and clearly

When delivering your eulogy, speak slowly and clearly to ensure that your message is easily understood by all attendees. As you share stories and memories, use descriptive language and keywords like “best eulogy ever,” “funny eulogy examples,” and “fond memories” to paint a vivid picture of the person’s life. Drawing from famous eulogies like Earl Spencer’s eulogy for Princess Diana, John Cleese’s eulogy for Graham Chapman, and Oprah Winfrey’s eulogy for Rosa Parks can help you find inspiration for your delivery style. By speaking with clarity and conviction, you can create a powerful tribute that honors the memory of your loved one and leaves a lasting impression on those present at the funeral.

VII. Delivering the Funeral Speech

A. establish a connection with the audience.

Begin your speech by establishing a connection with the audience. Acknowledge the shared sense of loss and grief, and express your gratitude for their presence. This will create an atmosphere of empathy and support, setting the stage for your eulogy.

B. Maintain eye contact and use body language

As you deliver your speech, maintain eye contact with the audience and use appropriate body language to convey your emotions. This will help you engage with the attendees and create a more immersive experience. Be mindful of your posture and gestures, ensuring that they reflect the tone and content of your eulogy.

C. Be mindful of your tone and pace

When delivering your funeral speech, be conscious of your tone and pace. Use keywords like “best eulogy ever,” “funeral eulogy examples,” and “fond memories” to guide your delivery. Draw inspiration from famous eulogies such as Earl Spencer’s eulogy for Princess Diana, John Cleese’s eulogy for Graham Chapman, and Oprah Winfrey’s eulogy for Rosa Parks. Speak slowly and clearly, allowing your words to resonate with the audience.

As you share stories and happy memories, adjust your tone to match the emotion of each anecdote. Strive to strike a perfect balance between honoring the person and acknowledging grief, taking cues from examples like Mona Simpson’s eulogy for Steve Jobs and Frank Oz’s eulogy for Jim Henson.

In conclusion, delivering a heartfelt eulogy is an important task in honoring the life of a close friend or family member. By following these tips and drawing inspiration from famous eulogies and eulogy examples, you can create a beautiful tribute that captures the essence of the person’s life, character, and special bond with their loved ones. Remember to be authentic, use descriptive language, and pay tribute to the person’s life and fond memories while providing hope and comfort to those in attendance.

VIII. Example Eulogies

  a. sample funeral speech for a parent.

Good afternoon, everyone.

Today, we come together in shared sorrow and collective admiration to bid farewell to a wonderful woman, my beloved mother, Susie. We gather here not only to mourn her passing but, more importantly, to celebrate the truly exceptional life she lived and the countless lives she touched in her time with us.

Susie was a woman of endless charm, warmth, and resilience – characteristics that deeply influenced my upbringing and those of my siblings. She had an uncanny ability to bring a sense of joy and peace to any room she walked into, even in times of chaos and confusion. With her radiant smile, she had a way of making people feel seen, heard, and appreciated. She was our North Star, the one who always guided us, always there to help us find our way back when we were lost.

When I think of my mother, a few memories immediately surface.

There was the time, in the depths of a harsh winter, when the neighborhood children were all huddled inside their homes, escaping the frosty chill. On that day, Susie gathered us all for an impromptu snowman-building competition. It wasn’t about the competition, but the unity, the shared laughter, the frostbitten fingers, and the warm cups of hot cocoa after that made it memorable. It was an embodiment of what she was to us all – a beacon of warmth, love, and unity.

Then there was the instance when I came home heartbroken from a failed math test. I remember the tears streaming down my face, the feeling of utter disappointment in myself. But Mom, she didn’t judge or criticize. She held me close and said, “In life, my dear, it’s not about the mistakes we make but how we learn from them.” And with her unwavering support, we tackled those equations together until they were no longer foreign to me. That was Susie, always there to pick us up when we stumbled, to turn our setbacks into comebacks, to show us that failing wasn’t the end but rather a chance to rise stronger.

Susie was also the core of our family, the glue that held us all together. She kept us rooted, reminding us about the importance of love, respect, and understanding in the family. Despite her struggles, despite the storms life threw at her, she never faltered in her dedication to her children and her unwavering faith in us. She was our greatest cheerleader, our most profound teacher, and our fiercest protector.

Losing her has created a void in our hearts, a silence in our lives that cannot be filled. But as we grieve, we also remember. We remember her laugh, echoing in the corners of our home. We remember her wisdom, imprinted deep within our hearts. And we remember her love, a love so powerful and so encompassing that it will continue to guide and strengthen us, even though she’s no longer physically with us.

As we say our final goodbyes today, let us remember Susie for the remarkable woman she was. Let’s honor her memory by embodying the values she taught us: compassion, resilience, love, and unity.

Susie, our dear mother, you are gone but never forgotten. Your spirit will live on within each of us, a guiding light in the dark, a comforting whisper in the wind, a constant reminder of the strength and love we carry within us, because of you.

Thank you for everything, Mom. We love you, and we will miss you always.

 B. Sample funeral speech for a sibling

Ladies and Gentlemen,

Today, we stand united in grief and solidarity, as we bid farewell to a life that touched ours in ways words can barely encapsulate. A life that was too short yet immensely vibrant, filled with love, laughter, and countless shared moments. Today, we remember my brother, my confidante, my friend, Jack.

Growing up with Jack was nothing short of an adventure. He was the peanut butter to my jelly, the yin to my yang. As kids, we were inseparable. We shared not just a room, but countless secrets, dreams, laughter, and even the occasional sibling squabble. But through all the highs and lows, there was always an underlying foundation of unwavering brotherly love.

One story that springs to mind, encapsulating the spirit of Jack, was our great ‘Treehouse Escapade’. We were just about ten and twelve then, and had set our hearts on building the perfect treehouse in the large oak tree at the end of our garden. We had no idea what we were doing, armed only with a sketch on a crumpled piece of paper and the confidence that only children possess. It took us the entire summer, hammers slipping, nails bending, and more than one accidental thump on a thumb. But Jack, ever the optimist, would laugh off the blunders, transforming our little project into a whirlwind of joy.

That treehouse wasn’t architecturally sound, nor was it a spectacle to behold. But it was our haven, a testament to our shared dreams, our determination, and the magic that Jack brought into every task he undertook. He was always the beacon guiding us towards laughter and fun, turning even the most mundane activities into cherished memories.

Jack had a heart larger than life itself. He was the first to lend a hand to anyone in need, the first to cheer you up when you were down. His sense of humor was legendary, his laughter infectious. When he walked into a room, you couldn’t help but feel the energy change – brighter, lighter, better.

But Jack wasn’t just my older brother; he was my mentor, my guide, my protector. I remember when I was about to head off to college, nervous and unsure of what the future held. It was Jack who sat me down and said, “In life, you’re going to face challenges and make mistakes, but always remember that it’s these experiences that shape us. Embrace them. Learn from them. And remember, no matter where you are, you’ll always have a piece of home with you.”

Losing Jack feels like a chapter of our shared book has abruptly ended. Yet, I find solace in the memories we created together. Every shared joke, every heart-to-heart conversation, every shared dream, and even the bittersweet tears, are all fragments of a beautiful mosaic that depicts a bond that can never be broken.

Jack, my dear brother, I am grateful for every moment we shared, for every laugh, every story, every life lesson. You were my north star in the darkest nights, my compass when I lost my way, my anchor in the roughest storms.

As we say our final goodbyes, we carry your spirit with us, your joy, your kindness, your unwavering zest for life. Your life was a blessing, your memory a treasure. You are loved beyond words and missed beyond measure.

Until we meet again, Jack, thank you for being the best brother I could have ever asked for. I love you, and I will carry you in my heart always.

 C. Sample funeral speech for a friend

Dear Friends and Family,

Today we gather to remember a man whose life was as vibrant and dynamic as the waves of the ocean – forever in motion, brimming with energy, and touching the lives of everyone he met. A man who, in his time on earth, defined what it truly meant to be a friend, a confidante, a brother in spirit. We are here to celebrate the life of Mark.

Mark was more than a friend to all of us. He was the epitome of an adventurer, a soul that was forever curious, forever willing to explore the unknown, yet always ready to provide the comfort of familiarity when it was most needed.

One of the most unforgettable adventures we shared together was our unplanned road trip. I still remember that day. It was the kind of day when you feel the world weighing heavy on your shoulders. Mark turned up at my doorstep with nothing more than a mischievous grin and his beat-up old van, affectionately nicknamed “The Wanderer.” He looked at me and said, “The world is wide, and we are young. Let’s go get lost to find ourselves.”

What was supposed to be a day’s escape turned into a week of spontaneity. We slept under the stars, got lost more times than I can count, sang at the top of our lungs to songs we barely knew the lyrics to, and shared stories that made us laugh until our stomachs hurt. The journey didn’t just lighten the load I was carrying back then; it showed me the value of friendship, freedom, and living in the moment. That was Mark, a tornado of spontaneity, pulling you into an adventure you never knew you needed.

Yet, despite his love for adventure, Mark also had a calmness about him that was almost infectious. He had an uncanny ability to quiet the storm inside you with just a few words or a reassuring smile. He was my confidante, the one I could call at 2 AM to discuss life’s quandaries or the latest episode of a TV show we were both hooked on. He knew when to offer advice and when to simply listen, offering silence as a refuge from the chaos of the world.

Mark, my dear friend, your passing leaves a void in our lives that can never be filled. Your laughter, your spirit of adventure, your comforting presence – they are now but cherished memories, echoes of a friendship that will continue to live on in my heart.

As we say our final goodbyes, we remember you not with tears of sadness but with smiles, recalling the joy and happiness you brought into our lives. We remember you as you were – a beautiful soul, an adventurer, a beacon of light in our sometimes-dark world.

In honor of Mark, let’s not dwell in the sorrow of his departure. Instead, let’s celebrate the life he lived and the person he was. Let’s remember his unquenchable thirst for life, his deep and resounding laughter, and his unwavering loyalty as a friend.

Mark, you were the echo in the forest, the breeze on a summer day, and now the whisper in our hearts, forever reminding us of the bond we shared. Though we part ways today, the footprints you left on our hearts will remain. You will be greatly missed, my dear friend. Rest in peace, until we meet again.

Thank you, Mark, for the memories, the adventures, and most importantly, your friendship. We love you and will remember you always.

IX. Conclusion

A. the impact of a heartfelt funeral speech.

A well-crafted and heartfelt funeral speech can have a profound impact on the audience, providing solace and comfort during a time of grief. By incorporating elements from famous eulogies like Earl Spencer’s, John Cleese’s, and Oprah Winfrey’s, as well as drawing from short eulogy examples and funny eulogy examples, you can create a powerful tribute that captures the essence of the person’s life and character. A funeral speech that shares fond memories and celebrates the entire life of a loved one can be remembered as the best eulogy ever, leaving a lasting impression on those who hear it.

B. Final thoughts on honoring the memory of a loved one

Honoring the memory of a close friend or family member through a funeral speech is a significant responsibility. Writing a eulogy that strikes the perfect balance between paying tribute to the person’s life and acknowledging grief can be an emotional and challenging process. However, by focusing on the person’s life, their impact on others, and the fond memories shared, you can create a beautiful eulogy that truly honors their memory. Remember to draw inspiration from examples like Steve Jobs’ eulogy by Mona Simpson or Sonny Bono’s eulogy by Cher, and always speak from the heart. In doing so, you will not only pay tribute to your loved one but also provide hope, comfort, and healing to all those in attendance.

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What makes the best eulogy?

The best eulogy is one that captures the essence of the person’s life, character, and impact on others while providing comfort to those in attendance. Key elements of the best eulogy include:

• Authenticity: Speak from the heart and share genuine emotions and experiences.
• Personal anecdotes: Share stories that highlight the person’s personality, values, and relationships.
• Balance: Strike a balance between honoring the person’s life and acknowledging grief.
• Positive aspects: Focus on the positive aspects of the deceased’s life, including accomplishments, passions, and happy memories.
• Emotional connection: Establish an emotional connection with the audience by using descriptive language and conveying empathy.
• Organization: Structure the eulogy with a clear beginning, middle, and end to guide the audience through the person’s life and experiences.

What is the best speech for a funeral?

The best speech for a funeral is one that pays tribute to the deceased while offering comfort and solace to the grieving family and friends. This can be achieved by:

• Sharing personal stories, anecdotes, and memories of the person.
• Focusing on the positive aspects of their life and the impact they had on others.
• Acknowledging the grief and loss felt by those in attendance.
• Using appropriate humor and light moments to provide relief and healing.
• Ensuring the speech is concise, well-organized, and delivered with sincerity and emotion.

What is the best closing line for a eulogy?

The best closing line for a eulogy is one that leaves a lasting impression, encapsulates the person’s life and legacy, and offers hope or inspiration to the audience. Some examples of powerful closing lines are:

• “May we carry [deceased’s name] memory in our hearts, allowing their spirit to live on through us.”
• “As we say our final goodbye, let us remember [deceased’s name] life and the love they brought to all who knew them.”
• “In the words of [deceased’s name], ‘Live fully, love deeply, and make a difference.’ Let us honor their memory by following this guiding principle.”
• “Though our hearts are heavy with grief, we find solace in the beautiful memories of [deceased’s name] and the impact they had on our lives.”

Choose a closing line that reflects the person’s character and values, and leaves the audience with a sense of comfort and inspiration.

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How to Give a Meaningful Funeral Speech

• The Speaker Lab
• April 11, 2024

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Standing before friends and family to deliver a funeral speech (also known as a eulogy ) can be daunting. But don’t worry—we’re here to help you navigate this emotional task with poise and sincerity.

In this article, you’ll find practical advice for writing and delivering a eulogy that pays homage to your loved one’s unique journey through life. Learn how to use personal anecdotes to create an intimate connection with your audience, giving voice to shared grief. Whether you want to capture favorite memories or impart lessons taught by the departed, this guide will help you write and deliver a funeral speech that leaves a lasting impression.

Crafting a Heartfelt Funeral Speech

When you’re faced with the task of crafting a funeral speech, it can feel like trying to navigate through a thick fog of emotions. It’s not just about finding the right words; it’s also about painting a picture that captures the essence of your loved one’s life.

Speaking from the Heart

Tips for writing a heartfelt funeral speech often start with digging deep into personal reflections and fond memories. A eulogy is not merely an opportunity to bid farewell but also to celebrate and pay tribute to someone who made our lives richer.

The secret sauce? Sincerity. When you share stories—whether they are funny or poignant—you allow others at the memorial service to see facets of their dear friend or family member perhaps only you knew. This could be as simple as recalling mundane tasks that brought out their big smile, or sharing how this kind person taught valuable lessons simply by being themselves.

The Art of Eulogy Writing

Eulogy writing is more than stitching together notable life events; it’s creating narrative threads from various chapters of an entire life—a tapestry rich with color and texture uniquely theirs. Crafting these narratives means weaving favorite memories into something tangible people can hold onto long after they’ve left the funeral service behind.

You might worry about disrespectfulness when including humorous anecdotes within your short eulogy, but don’t let this deter you. While it can be tricky to pull off, a touch of humor can bring lightness amidst grief. If done thoughtfully, it won’t detract from the solemnity of the occasion.

Finding Inspiration

• A walk down memory lane : Spend time reflecting on moments shared; sometimes inspiration hides in unexpected corners like old photographs or familiar scents that remind you of memorable stories.
• Talk it out : Conversations with other close friends or family members often unearth amazing memories which capture multiple perspectives, making every minute spent recounting tales worth its weight in gold.
• Literary aid : When you’re finding it tough to put feelings into words, lean on free templates for guidance. They spark ideas and make sure nothing’s missed when emotions run high. For a helping hand, check out these free eulogy templates .

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Delivering Your Funeral Speech with Confidence

Standing before a group of mourners to deliver a funeral speech is no small feat. It’s about more than just reading words; it’s about conveying the essence of someone dear who has passed away, while managing your own emotions and connecting deeply with those around you.

Connecting with Your Audience

The key to delivering an impactful eulogy lies in forging a connection. Making eye contact can bridge the space between speaker and listener, drawing everyone closer into shared remembrance. It’s not just about looking up from your notes but really seeing the faces before you, recognizing their grief as part of yours.

Your body language speaks volumes too. Open gestures invite listeners into each fond memory or story told. A comforting smile during a lighter moment or respectfully bowed head at somber ones can enhance every word spoken, making sure they’re felt as much as heard.

Tackling Nervousness Head-On

Facing nervousness head-on allows you to channel that energy into your delivery rather than letting it undermine you. If public speaking makes you anxious, try grounding yourself beforehand: take deep breaths, feel your feet on solid ground, and remind yourself why you’re there.

To further calm nerves and steady focus during this emotional task, consider having a trusted friend or family member nearby. They could be someone who shares funny stories about the person’s life alongside you or simply provides silent support through their presence—a reassuring anchor amidst stormy seas of emotion.

The Role of Humor in Eulogies

When we bid farewell to a loved one, the funeral speech serves as a bridge between our grief and their legacy. It’s where humor can gently find its place, celebrating life amidst sorrow. The eulogy becomes not just an ode to the departed but also a canvas for painting smiles through tears.

Balancing Humor and Respect

Including funny stories within a eulogy is like walking a tightrope—you aim for laughter without losing footing on respect. Sharing humorous anecdotes does more than evoke chuckles; it captures moments when our dear friend or family member made us feel special with their unique qualities.

A well-crafted joke or amusing tale can demonstrate how laughter was part of the journey you shared with the dearly departed. It’s a testament to the lasting impact they had on lives around them. But always keep in mind that timing is key—funny should never overshadow fond memories at such sensitive times.

A Humorous Eulogy for a Friend

Making someone laugh during these emotional tasks may seem daunting, yet think about all those times spent together. Remembering happy times spent with your dearly departed brings comfort at memorial services. It helps everyone remember the person’s vibrancy.

To ensure your speech strikes this perfect balance, consider these steps:

• Reflect on memorable stories that show off their sense of humor—did they have any catchphrases or signature moves?
• Select tales appropriate for all attendees while ensuring they’re true reflections of who your loved one was throughout his entire life.
• Weave funny elements seamlessly into deeper narratives about lessons taught and amazing memories created over time.

Impact of Laughter in Grieving Process

Humor has healing powers—it’s scientifically proven to relieve stress even amid profound loss. As people gather to mourn at funeral services, sharing funny stories can serve as a brief respite from grief.

Personalizing Your Funeral Speech

Crafting a funeral speech that’s as unique as your loved one was isn’t just about paying tribute. It’s about capturing their essence and sharing it with others who feel the loss deeply.

Incorporating Unique Qualities into a Eulogy

The heart of personalization lies in those quirks and characteristics that made your dear friend or family member truly themselves. To write a eulogy that reflects this individuality, think beyond dates and milestones. Remember how they made mundane tasks laughable or turned ordinary days into adventures? Start by jotting down these little things—their big smile, how they could make anyone feel special, or even their notorious love for burnt toast.

A memorable story can sometimes say more than an entire list of accomplishments. Did you spend time together working on cars every weekend? Or maybe there was that unforgettable trip where everything went wrong but somehow felt so right? These stories allow for laughter through the tears and help celebrate life despite mourning.

Expressing Gratitude in Funeral Speeches

An emotional task indeed is expressing gratitude in your funeral speech. It goes beyond thanking your loved one for being part of your life. It delves into acknowledging the lasting impact they’ve had on you—how lessons taught have shaped decisions made years later or how shared experiences now serve as solid foundation stones upon which lives are built.

To express gratitude effectively in writing funeral speeches involves reflection on moments shared, from significant events like weddings to everyday occurrences like weekly phone calls catching up on each other’s news. Alternatively, it might involve simply appreciating all those times when support was given without needing to ask for help directly because they always knew when it was needed most.

Sharing Memorable Stories in Eulogies

Tapping into favorite memories often reveals much about someone’s character. Perhaps your loved one demonstrated generosity displayed through charity work or kindness through encounters with strangers. Anecdotes like these capture hearts better than mere recitation of facts.

As we carry on, the essence of their spirit guides our steps. We weave their legacy into our daily lives, finding solace in the love they shared and strength in the wisdom they imparted. Their laughter echoes in stories retold, ensuring that although they are no longer physically with us, their influence remains as a beacon for generations to come.

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FAQs on Giving a Funeral Speech

What do you say in a funeral speech.

Acknowledge the loss, share fond memories, celebrate their life, and offer comfort to fellow mourners.

How do you start a speech off at a funeral?

Begin with gratitude for gathering together, then ease into cherished stories about the departed.

What is the best opening for a eulogy?

An impactful opener might quote something meaningful or recount an anecdote that captures their spirit.

What is a speech about someone who passed away?

This type of speech pays tribute by reflecting on their life’s impact and expressing shared grief.

Embrace the challenge of a funeral speech. Remember, it’s your chance to honor a life well-lived. Reflect on fond memories and share them with heart. As you speak, consider using laughter to celebrate your loved one’s life and aim to capture their essence through personal anecdotes that resonate. Your words can comfort others by reminding them of what made your loved one unique.

Hone these tips into a heartfelt eulogy read at the final farewell, creating an enduring tribute that keeps their memory alive for all who gather.

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What to Say at a Funeral: Plan the Perfect Memorial Speech

Introduction

Speaking at a funeral is a profound honor, yet it comes with a weight of responsibility. It’s a moment to express grief, celebrate life, and offer comfort to others in mourning, all within a few heartfelt minutes.

In facing this daunting task, you might be wondering how to craft a speech that resonates deeply and brings solace. The core promise of this article is to guide you through creating a speech that not only honors the departed but also provides comfort to those left behind.

In this article, you will learn:

• The essential elements that make a funeral speech touching and memorable.
• Strategies to convey empathy and solace through your words.
• Practical tips for both preparing and delivering your speech with poise.

As we delve into the nuances of this sensitive topic, remember that your words have the power to heal and bring closure.

Understanding the Importance of a Funeral Speech

A funeral speech is more than just a mere formality; it’s a powerful vehicle for expressing collective grief and celebrating a unique life. This is a moment where words take on a profound significance, offering a semblance of comfort in the face of loss and helping those gathered to begin the healing process.

Funeral speeches serve as a bridge that connects the audience with the essence of the person who has passed. They remind us of the impact the deceased had on our lives, their values, and the memories we cherish. It’s an opportunity to articulate the unsaid, to give voice to our feelings, and to acknowledge our shared loss in a deeply personal yet universal way.

In crafting your speech, you’re not only paying tribute to the departed but also providing a crucial part of the journey towards closure for everyone present.

Key Elements to Include in a Funeral Speech

Creating a meaningful funeral speech involves weaving together several key elements that resonate with your audience and honor the memory of the departed. Here are some crucial components to consider:

• Personal Anecdotes and Memories: Share specific stories or memories that highlight the character and life of the deceased. These personal touches not only bring the speech to life but also help listeners connect and remember their loved ones in a more vivid way.
• Acknowledging the Grief: It’s important to recognize the pain and loss felt by those present. Empathize with the audience’s grief, showing that it’s okay to mourn and that they are not alone in their feelings.
• Celebrating Their Life: While a funeral is a time of mourning, it is also a time to celebrate the life that was lived. Highlight their achievements, passions, and the positive impact they had on others. This can provide a sense of joy and gratitude amidst the sorrow.
• Comforting Words: Offer words of comfort and hope. This could be through a favorite quote of the deceased, a poem, or simply your heartfelt wishes for peace and healing for those who are grieving.

Crafting the Right Tone: Balancing Grief and Celebration

Finding the right tone for a funeral speech is a delicate balance. It’s about respecting the solemnity of the occasion while also celebrating the life that was lived. Here’s how you can achieve this balance:

• Respectful and Reflective: Begin with a tone that acknowledges the loss and the pain it brings. It’s important to show respect for the gravity of the moment and the feelings of those in mourning.
• Uplifting and Hopeful: As you progress, gradually introduce more uplifting elements. Share stories or attributes of the deceased that brought joy and laughter. This shift helps to lighten the mood and reminds the audience of the cherished moments they had with their loved one.
• Inclusive and Unifying: Use language that brings people together. Phrases like “we remember,” “we cherish,” and “we celebrate” help to create a sense of community and shared experience, which is comforting in times of grief.
• Genuine and Personal: Above all, be sincere. Speak from the heart. Your genuine emotions and personal connection with the deceased will naturally guide the tone of your speech.

Structuring Your Funeral Speech: A Step-by-Step Guide

Creating a well-structured funeral speech can help convey your message clearly and effectively. Here’s a simple guide to help you structure your speech:

• Opening with Respect: Start your speech by acknowledging the solemnity of the occasion and the shared sense of loss. A respectful opening sets the appropriate tone for the rest of your speech.
• Introducing Yourself: Briefly introduce yourself and your relationship with the deceased. This helps the audience connect with you and understand your perspective.
• Sharing Memories: Transition to sharing personal anecdotes and memories of the deceased. These stories should reflect their character, life, and the impact they had on those around them.
• Acknowledging the Grief: It’s important to recognize and empathize with the collective grief of the audience. This shows that you share in their sorrow and are there to support each other.
• Celebrating the Life: Shift the focus to celebrating the life of the deceased. Highlight their achievements, passions, and the joy they brought into the lives of others.
• Concluding with Comfort and Hope: End your speech on a comforting note. Offer words of consolation, a hopeful message, or a meaningful quote that resonates with the sentiment of the day.
• A Moment of Reflection: Consider concluding with a moment of silence or a brief reflective pause, allowing the audience to privately cherish their memories of the departed.

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Practical Tips for Preparing Your Memorial Speech

Crafting a funeral speech can be challenging, but with the right approach and preparation, you can create a meaningful tribute. Here are some practical tips to help you prepare your speech:

• Gather Your Thoughts: Take time to reflect on your relationship with the deceased and the memories you shared. Jot down notes about significant moments, qualities you admired, and the impact they had on your life.
• Consult with Others: Don’t hesitate to reach out to friends and family of the deceased for additional insights or stories. This can help you paint a fuller picture of their life and character.
• Write and Organize Your Speech: Using the structure outlined earlier, start drafting your speech. Organize your thoughts and stories in a coherent manner, ensuring a natural flow from beginning to end.
• Rehearse Your Speech: Practice delivering your speech several times. This helps you become more familiar with the content and reduces the likelihood of being overly emotional on the day.
• Manage Your Emotions: It’s natural to feel emotional while delivering a funeral speech. If you feel overwhelmed, pause for a moment, take a deep breath, and continue when you’re ready. Remember, it’s okay to show emotion.
• Seek Feedback: If possible, rehearse in front of a trusted friend or family member and ask for their feedback. This can help you refine your speech and delivery.
• Prepare for the Setting: Familiarize yourself with the venue and any equipment you might need, such as a microphone or stand. This ensures you’re comfortable and prepared on the day of the funeral.

Tips for Speaking at a Virtual Memorial or Celebration of Life

Speaking at a virtual memorial requires some adjustments to the traditional approach.

Here are tips to ensure your speech is impactful, even in a digital format:

• Embrace the Technology: Familiarize yourself with the virtual platform being used. Test your microphone, camera, and internet connection in advance to avoid technical issues during the memorial.
• Create a Suitable Environment: Choose a quiet and well-lit space to deliver your speech. A simple, respectful background can help minimize distractions for the audience. Ensure good facial lighting, and no strong lights like windows or lamps directly behind you that will silhouette your face. Refer to our resource article for more about this topic.
• Engage the Virtual Audience: Make eye contact with the camera to create a sense of connection with your online audience. Speak clearly and at a measured pace to ensure your words are easily understood.
• Keep It Concise: Attention spans can be shorter in a virtual setting. Aim to deliver a concise yet meaningful speech, focusing on the most significant points and memories.
• Consider your Device: If using a mobile phone, tilt your phone to the horizontal position so that your video fills up the view. It is also recommended that you place your device so that it is at a 45-degree angle so the camera is directly facing you, not on an angle. The device should be on a tripod or firmly set on a table or desk to prevent shaking.
• Be Mindful of Time Zones: If attendees are joining from different time zones, be conscious of this in your speech timing and references to time-sensitive aspects like morning or evening.
• Provide Emotional Support Digitally: Since physical comfort is not possible, be extra expressive in your words and tone to convey empathy and support to the virtual attendees.

Do’s and Don’ts When Speaking at a Funeral

When delivering a funeral speech, it’s crucial to be mindful of certain do’s and don’ts to ensure your words are appropriate and comforting. Here are some guidelines to consider:

Do’s:

• Be Sincere: Speak from the heart. Genuine emotions and sincerity are always appreciated and can be very comforting.
• Keep It Appropriate: Share stories and anecdotes that are suitable for all attendees, including children and elders.
• Respect the Deceased’s Beliefs and Values: Ensure your speech aligns with the beliefs and values of the deceased, especially when touching on spiritual or religious themes.
• Offer Comfort: Use your words to offer solace to the bereaved, acknowledging their pain and offering hope and comfort.

Don’ts:

• Avoid Controversy: Stay away from topics that could be contentious or stir up negative emotions.
• Don’t Speak Too Long: Keep your speech concise. A lengthy speech can be hard for grieving attendees.
• Avoid Clichés: Try to avoid overused phrases or clichés. Personalized sentiments are more impactful.
• Don’t Forget to Prepare: Even if you’re comfortable speaking publicly, it’s important to prepare and practice your speech to ensure it conveys your message effectively.

Delivering a speech at a funeral is a significant and sensitive task. Through this article, we’ve explored the essential elements of a meaningful funeral speech, from crafting the right tone to structuring your message and preparing effectively, even in a virtual setting. We’ve also navigated the do’s and don’ts to ensure your words honor the deceased and bring comfort to the bereaved.

To recap, remember to:

• Incorporate personal memories and acknowledge the shared grief.
• Celebrate the life of the departed while offering words of solace.
• Prepare and practice your speech, respecting the setting, whether in-person or virtual.

As you embark on this heartfelt journey, remember that your speech is a powerful tool for healing and remembrance.

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Death is a part of life, and so are the funerals and memorial services held to mark an individual’s passing. But when we’re called upon to speak at these occasions, many of us are at a loss for words. Here are some basic guidelines for writing a eulogy, from palliative specialist BJ Miller and writer Shoshana Berger.

When you leave a memorial or funeral having imagined the fullness of the person being memorialized, you know the speakers got it right. The first rule for eulogists is that this is not about them. It is about paying close attention to the way a person lived and drawing out the most meaningful, memorable bits.

Summing up a life in writing isn’t easy, but it’s an important exercise that serves a dual purpose. It obliges the writer to call up memories — which is a way to honor the person and process one’s loss — and it creates an atmosphere of deep community with other grievers. Do your best to be honest in your eulogy, instead of presenting some idealized portrait that others won’t recognize. Steve Schafer, a pastor who helps people write eulogies, offers the following guidelines.

• Aim for 1,000 words, or about six to seven minutes’ speaking time.

• Always write down what you’re going to say, even if you plan to abandon your notes. It’s a good way to gather your thoughts and make sure you’re not missing any important details.

• Be personal and conversational. This isn’t a formal speech; it’s an appreciation.

• If you aren’t introduced by the emcee or by another speaker, do so yourself and say what your relationship to the person was.

• Start with a story about the person. People come alive through specific anecdotes.

• Be humorous. The best eulogies are respectful and solemn, but they also give mourners some comic relief. A bit of roasting is fine if it suits who the person was and the family has a sense of humor.

• Close your eulogy by directly addressing the person who died, something like “Joe, thank you for teaching me how to be a good father.”

Here’s an example of a great eulogy, written by a woman for her grandmother. Before each section, we’ve explained what she’s done.

[Start with an introduction that paints a portrait of the person’s character. Beginning with your memories of the person is a great way to go. Try for descriptive details — the Almond Joy moment below — rather than broad, abstract statements such as “She was kind” or “She was a loving caretaker.”]

From my earliest memories, she is right by my side, taking me on walks through the miniature golf course near our house, dutifully preparing my odd lunch requests for cheddar and mayo sandwiches and sneaking me Almond Joy candy bars away from the gaze of my mom.

[Draw out important moments that signify lifelong connection.]

I was so close to my grandma that around the age of 23 I grew increasingly anxious that she might not live to attend my wedding unless I hurried up. Well … she did live to attend that wedding, and also to witness my first divorce, my second marriage, and to know and love my two children. She liked Jeff from the beginning and one day before we were engaged, she boldly told him, “Well, you better put a ring on it!” quoting Beyoncé without knowing the reference.

[Talk about advice passed down — values, sayings and anecdotes that capture the person.]

The most remarkable qualities about my grandma as she aged were her gratitude and her humility. She often told me to live for myself and not worry about her — to work, focus on my family, and come visit when I had time. She loved every minute of our visits but never pushed for more.

I once asked her if I should have a third child and she replied, “Why, honey? You already have the perfect family.” The most important things to my grandma were family and faith; she didn’t care for material possessions. In fact, she was known for giving items away because “there was someone who was more in need.” This selflessness and service for others leave a legacy that I will try to model for my children. Time with her family was the greatest gift and even with that, she was not greedy.

[Thank-yous to other family members who helped with caretaking.]

I am deeply thankful to our family who cared for, loved her, and relished spending time with my grammie as she aged. Knowing she had Adie to take her to church and lunch every Sunday punctuated her week with a joyful event she truly looked forward to. Dave and Aileen always arrived with a box of her favorites See’s Candies, essentially confirming the Pavlovian model as she began to drool as soon as they walked in the door. And to my mom, who cared for my grandma for the last 10 years of her life with compassion and unrivaled duty. I thank her not only for giving back to her mom, but for modeling care and respect for our elders.

[The eulogy goes on a bit longer and then ends with a closing quote, poem, reading, or other good-bye.]

“When my friends began to have babies and I came to comprehend the heroic labor it takes to keep one alive, the constant exhausting tending of a being who can do nothing and demands everything, I realized that my mother had done all of these things for me before I remembered. I was fed; I was washed; I was clothed; I was taught to speak and given a thousand other things, over and over again, hourly, daily, for years. She gave me everything before she gave me nothing.”

— Rebecca Solnit, from her book The Faraway Nearby

Excerpted from the new book A Beginner’s Guide to the End: Practical Advice for Living Life and Facing Death by BJ Miller and Shoshana Berger. Copyright © 2019 by BJ Miller and Shoshana Berger. Reprinted by permission of Simon & Schuster, Inc, NY.

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• Research Quotes and Poetry for a Heartfelt Tribute
• Structure the speech with an introduction, body and conclusion
• Rehearse the speech multiple times before delivering it
• Focus on positive memories and qualities of the person being honored
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Losing someone we care about is one of the most difficult things we face in life.

And while nothing can ease the pain of grief, delivering a heartfelt and fitting tribute to someone we loved can go a long way in offering comfort to those in mourning.

If you've been asked to deliver a eulogy or funeral speech to honor someone who has passed away, it's natural to feel overwhelmed and unsure of where to begin.

But with a bit of preparation and thought, you can create a touching and meaningful tribute that celebrates the life and legacy of your loved one.

Here's a step-by-step guide on how to write a speech for a funeral:

Reflect on the life of the person you are honoring.

Before you begin writing your speech, take some time to reflect on the life of the person you are memorializing.

Think about their accomplishments, their passions, their quirks, and the memories you shared together. Jot down any thoughts or memories that come to mind.

Decide on the tone and theme of your speech.

Consider the preferences and personality of your loved one, as well as the mood of the ceremony. Do you want your speech to be celebratory, humorous, or solemn? Are there any themes or recurring motifs that will tie your speech together?

Structure your speech.

A well-crafted speech should have an introduction, body, and conclusion. Start by introducing yourself and your relationship to the person you are honoring.

Then, move on to the body of your speech, where you will share anecdotes, memories, and reflections about the person’s life.

Finally, wrap up your speech with a memorable conclusion that ties together the themes and overall message of your tribute.

Use anecdotes and stories to illustrate the person's life.

One of the most effective ways to bring a speech to life is by using stories and anecdotes that illustrate the personality and passions of the person you are honoring.

Pick out a few specific memories or experiences that you shared with the person, and share them in detail.

This will help to paint a vivid and memorable picture of the person in the minds of those who are listening.

Focus on the positive.

While it's natural to feel sadness and grief when someone we care about has passed away, it's important to focus on the positive memories and qualities of the person you are honoring.

Avoid dwelling on negative aspects or regrets, and instead, strive to create a message of hope and celebration.

Consider using quotes or poetry in your speech.

If you are struggling to find the right words to express your feelings, consider incorporating quotes or poetry into your speech.

Browse through books or online resources for inspiring passages related to grief, love, and life to help you find the perfect words.

Practice and rehearse your speech.

Once you've written your speech, practice reading it out loud several times.

This will help you to become familiar with the flow and pacing of the speech, and allow you to tweak any areas that feel awkward or cumbersome.

If possible, rehearse your speech in the location where the funeral will take place, so you can get a feel for the acoustics and any potential distractions.

When it comes to delivering a speech for a funeral, the most important thing is to speak from the heart.

Trust your feelings and your memories to guide you, and take comfort in the knowledge that your words will offer a lasting gift of comfort and tribute to the people who loved the person you are honoring.

Gather memories and anecdotes about the person

When it comes to honoring a loved one who has passed away, gathering memories and anecdotes about the person is a crucial step in creating a heartfelt and meaningful tribute.

Memories and anecdotes not only help you reflect on the life and legacy of the person, but they also serve as a way to share their unique story with others.

The process of gathering memories and anecdotes can start as early as possible, even before the person has passed away. Consider setting aside dedicated time to talk with the person about their life, accomplishments, passions, and memories.

Ask them questions about their childhood, their career, their hobbies, and their relationships. Take note of any stories or details they share, as these can serve as valuable material for your tribute.

If the person has already passed away, don't worry. There are still plenty of ways to gather memories and anecdotes about them. Reach out to family members, friends, and colleagues who knew the person well.

Ask them to share their favorite memories or stories about the person, or any unique qualities or quirks they possessed.

You can also consider accessing old letters, emails, or social media posts that the person may have written, as these can offer a glimpse into their thoughts and feelings.

When gathering memories and anecdotes, it's important to aim for a mix of both humorous and serious stories.

While it's important to honor the person's achievements and legacy, it's also important to celebrate their unique personality and quirks. Perhaps the person was known for their witty sense of humor, or their love of a particular hobby or interest.

Sharing stories that capture these qualities can help paint a vivid picture of the person in the minds of those who are listening.

Another important factor to consider when gathering memories and anecdotes is the audience.

Who will be attending the funeral or memorial service?

Will there be young children present, or mostly adults?

Tailoring your stories and anecdotes to the interests and ages of the audience can help ensure that the tribute resonates with everyone who hears it.

In addition to gathering memories and anecdotes, it's also important to consider how you will organize and structure them in your tribute.

Will you follow a chronological order, highlighting major milestones and achievements in the person's life?

Or will you take a more thematic approach, focusing on the person's unique personality traits or passions? Whatever approach you choose, be sure to practice your tribute a few times to ensure that it flows smoothly and naturally.

Ultimately, gathering memories and anecdotes is about celebrating the life and legacy of the person you have lost. It's about capturing their unique story and sharing it with others, so they too can appreciate the impact the person had on the world.

So don't be afraid to dive deep into the memories and stories of your loved one. The more you discover, the richer and more meaningful your tribute will be.

Creating a tribute for someone who has passed away can be a difficult and emotional task.

Gathering memories and anecdotes is an important step in creating a meaningful tribute, but incorporating quotes and poetry can also add depth and emotion to your words.

Quotes and poetry can help convey the emotions of grief, love, and life in a way that you may find difficult to express on your own.

When it comes to finding the perfect quote or poem for your tribute, there are many resources available to you.

Here are some tips for researching quotes and poetry that will resonate with your intended audience:

Start with a general search

A quick Google search for "quotes about grief" or "poems about love" will yield thousands of results. It can be overwhelming to sift through all of them, but don't worry. Start by reading through a few of the top results that catch your eye. You might find the perfect quote or poem right away.

Focus on your intended message

Think about the message you want to convey in your tribute. Are you focusing on the life and accomplishments of the person, or are you trying to offer comfort to those who may be grieving?

Are you celebrating the love shared between the person and their family and friends?

Once you have a clear message in mind, look for quotes and poetry that reflect that message. This will help ensure that your tribute is focused and effective.

Consider the tone of the person's life

When selecting quotes or poetry, consider the tone of the person's life. Were they known for their humor or their wisdom?

Were they adventurous or more introspective? Let the tone of their life guide your search for a quote or poem that is both fitting and meaningful.

Explore different sources

Don't limit yourself to just one source when researching quotes and poetry. Look for inspiration in books, social media, songs, and other multimedia.

You may find the perfect quote in a novel that the person loved, or a song that was special to them.

Here are some examples of quotes and poems that relate to grief, love, and life:

"On the death of a friend, we should consider that the fates through confidence have devolved on us the task of a double living, that we have henceforth to fulfill the promise of our friend's life also, in our own, to the world." - Henry David Thoreau

"Perhaps they are not stars in the sky, but rather openings where our loved ones shine down to let us know they are happy." - Eskimo Proverb

"Do not stand at my grave and weep, I am not there, I do not sleep. I am a thousand winds that blow, I am the diamond glint on snow." - Mary Elizabeth Frye

"When someone you love becomes a memory, the memory becomes a treasure." - Unknown

"The best and most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen or even touched - they must be felt with the heart." - Helen Keller

Incorporating quotes or poetry into your tribute can help convey the emotions of grief, love, and life in a powerful and meaningful way.

By taking the time to research and select the right words, you can create a tribute that truly honors the person you have lost.

Remember, the words you choose will help keep the memory of your loved one alive for those attending the funeral or memorial service.

Structuring your speech with an introduction, body and conclusion is a great way to ensure that you communicate the message of your tribute in an organized and meaningful manner.

By taking the time to research quotes or poems that reflect the tone of their life, as well as considering how each section should be structured, you can create a powerful memorial tribute for someone special.

Doing so will not only honor them but also provide comfort to those who are grieving.

It’s important to remember that while words may never fully capture all they meant to us, expressing our love through thoughtful tributes helps keep their memory alive forever.

Rehearsing a speech multiple times before delivering it is a crucial step in ensuring that your tribute is well-received and effective.

By taking the time to practice, you can identify any areas that need improvement and gain confidence in your delivery. This article will go over some tips and tricks for rehearsing your speech.

First and foremost, it’s important to practice your speech out loud. Reading it silently in your head is not enough to prepare you for delivering it in front of an audience.

You want to get used to the sound of your voice and the pacing of your delivery. Try practicing in front of a mirror or recording yourself so you can see and hear how you come across.

You should also pay attention to your body language during your rehearsal. Are you slouching or fidgeting? Do your hand gestures match your words?

Practice standing up straight with your shoulders relaxed and your hands at your sides.

Use deliberate, purposeful gestures that complement your words. Remember that your body language can convey just as much meaning as your words.

Another important aspect of rehearsing your speech is timing. You don’t want to run out of time or, even worse, go over your allotted time.

Time yourself during each practice run to make sure you’re within the time limit. If you find that you’re running too long, consider cutting out some less important points or shortening some of your quotes or poems.

It’s also a good idea to rehearse in the setting where you’ll be delivering your speech, if possible. This will allow you to get a feel for the space and the acoustics, as well as give you a chance to adjust to any distractions or unexpected noises.

If you can’t rehearse in the actual space, try to find a similar setting, such as a conference room or a church hall.

During your rehearsals, pay attention to how you come across emotionally. Are you able to deliver the tribute without breaking down in tears or losing your composure? Or do you struggle to get through certain sections?

If you find that certain parts of your speech are too emotional for you to deliver, consider asking a friend or family member to read those parts for you.

Finally, it’s important to be open to feedback during your rehearsals. Ask a trusted friend or family member to listen to your speech and provide feedback on your delivery, pacing, and body language. Take their feedback into consideration and make any necessary adjustments.

In conclusion, rehearsing your speech multiple times before delivering it is essential to creating a powerful and meaningful tribute.

By practicing out loud, paying attention to your body language and timing, rehearsing in the actual setting, monitoring your emotional state, and being open to feedback, you can give an effective and heartfelt tribute to your loved one.

Remember that the goal is to honor them and keep their memory alive for years to come.

Losing a loved one is one of the hardest things we ever have to go through. However, celebrating their life by delivering a touching tribute can help keep their memory alive forever.

Tributes can come in many different forms, but one of the most popular is giving a speech at their funeral or memorial service.

When giving a tribute speech, it’s important to focus on positive memories and qualities of the person being honored.

This can be challenging if the person played a complex role in our lives, but highlighting the good they brought can ultimately help us heal.

For example, if the person was known for being strong, but also stubborn, you could talk about how their strength helped them overcome obstacles, even though it could be difficult for them. This way, you are acknowledging their flaws without dwelling on them.

One great way to incorporate positivity into your tribute is by sharing memories of the person that emphasize their unique personality traits. If they were known for their sense of humor, share an anecdote that highlights that quality. If they were a compassionate and empathetic person, tell a story that showcases how they helped others.

It’s also important to talk about their accomplishments and what they meant to those around them. Mentioning how much they were loved and how much they will be missed is a great way to let others know how much they mattered.

However, it’s equally important to emphasize what they did while they were alive, whether that was helping others, achieving great success, or making others laugh.

Additionally, it can be helpful to share how the person impacted your life specifically. This allows you to talk about the good times you shared, but also lets others know that they made a significant impact on you.

Remember that a tribute is a way of honoring the person and celebrating their life. Therefore, it’s important to keep your words positive and uplifting.

While it’s okay to acknowledge the difficulties and challenges the person faced, ultimately, the focus should be on what made them special and how they will be remembered.

In conclusion, focusing on the positive memories and qualities of the person being honored is vital when giving a tribute speech.

By highlighting their unique personality traits, accomplishments, and impact on others, we can create a meaningful and touching tribute that celebrates their life.

Through our tributes, we can keep their memory alive and honor them for years to come.

What should I include in a funeral speech?

A funeral speech should include anecdotes, memories, and reflections about the person's life, focusing on the positive aspects and sharing heartfelt sentiments with those gathered to pay their respects.

How long should a eulogy be?

A eulogy doesn't have a set time limit. however, most people aim for a length of 5-10 minutes, keeping in mind the attention span of the audience and the overall length of the service., what tone should i use in a funeral speech.

The tone of the speech should reflect the preferences and personality of the person being memorialized, as well as the mood of the ceremony. It can be celebratory, humorous, or solemn, depending on what feels appropriate.

Using notes or a script can help you stay on track and feel more prepared, but try to strike a balance between preparation and spontaneity. You don't want to sound stiff or robotic, so aim to deliver your speech in a natural and authentic way.

How can I prepare for giving a eulogy?

Preparing for a eulogy involves reflecting on the life of the person being honored, organizing your thoughts and memories, writing the speech, and practicing it beforehand.

Can I include religious elements in a funeral speech?

Yes, if it's in keeping with the beliefs and traditions of the person being memorialized and the audience. A funeral speech can be a time for spiritual reflection, prayer, or other religious elements, if appropriate.

Should I use humor in a funeral speech?

Humor can be a powerful tool for bringing joy and lightness to a somber occasion, but use it sparingly and sensitivity. Be mindful that not everyone may appreciate the same type of humor, so avoid anything that could be construed as insensitive or inappropriate.

Can I include other people in my speech?

Yes, sharing memories or stories that involve other people can be a great way to honor and connect with those who are gathered. Consider asking others for their memories and incorporating them into your speech.

What is the goal of a funeral speech?

The goal of a funeral speech is to honor and celebrate the life of the person being remembered, to offer comfort to those in mourning, and to provide closure and perspective for those who are wrestling with grief.

How can I make my funeral speech more engaging?

Use personal stories, anecdotes, and reflections to make your speech more relatable and engaging. Also, make sure to maintain eye contact with your audience, speak clearly and evenly, and use pauses for emphasis.

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6 Funeral Speech Examples for a Family Member

Here are six examples of funeral speeches for family members that you can use to create your own. Learn how to write and deliver a funeral speech that touches people’s hearts and commemorates the life of your loved one.

The world feels a little dimmer, a little quieter since you lost someone you loved. A familiar ache sits in your chest, and the thought of a future without them is a heavy weight.

Maybe, amidst the whirlwind of grief, you were entrusted with a beautiful honor: Delivering a funeral speech for your family member, a chance to share stories and celebrate the life of your cherished relative.

But the idea of standing in front of a room full of people, your voice trembling, and emotions threatening to spill over fills you with dread. Dry mouth? Check. Trembling hands? Absolutely. But remember — you're not alone. Putting your grief into words, especially in such a public forum, can feel like a scary task.

We understand. This is a difficult time, but you don't have to navigate this journey alone. Let's learn how to write and deliver a heartfelt and meaningful funeral speech for a family member — whether it’s a sibling, a parent, or a close relative. 

Take a seat, grab a warm cup of tea, and let's get started on writing a tribute to celebrate the life of the incredible person you loved.

Tips for Writing a Meaningful Funeral Speech for Family Member

Crafting a eulogy can feel overwhelming, but it's a beautiful way to honor your loved one. Here are 5 practical tips to help you write a heartfelt and meaningful speech, with some additional details and examples:

Tip 1: Brainstorm memories

Take some time to reflect on your relationship with the deceased. Jot down specific memories, funny anecdotes, or moments that showcase their personality and values. Focus on stories that illustrate their strengths, quirks, and the impact they had on you. Here are some prompts to get you started:

• Think of a time they went above and beyond for you or someone else.
• Recall a shared hobby or activity that brought you joy.
• Did they have a unique way of expressing themselves (a favorite saying, a funny quirk)?

Tip 2: Consider the audience

While sharing personal stories, keep the audience in mind. Choose anecdotes appropriate for the setting and ones that resonate with the broader group of family and friends. If you're talking about your grandma's famous (and slightly mischievous) sense of humor, focus on a story that highlights her wit and warmth , rather than one that might be considered too private or inside-jokey for those who didn't know her well.

Tip 3: Structure your speech

Eulogies don't need to be lengthy. Aim for 5-7 minutes.  

A simple structure can be:

• Introduction (briefly introduce yourself and your relationship to the deceased)
• Body (share 2-3 key stories or memories)
• Conclusion (a few words of reflection and farewell)

When structuring your stories, focus on a strong opening, a clear middle that paints a picture , and a concise closing that leaves a lasting impression.

Tip 4: Weave in tributes

Did your loved one have a favorite quote, poem, or song? Incorporate a short excerpt that expresses something important about them or your relationship. For instance, if your mother loved to garden , you could include a quote about the beauty and resilience of nature, or if your brother was a musician, you could read out a few lyrics of their favorite song.

Tip 5: Practice makes perfect

Reading your speech aloud beforehand allows you to adjust pacing, identify emotional moments, and practice overcoming any stumbles. Consider asking a trusted friend or family member to listen and offer feedback.

While practicing, pay attention to your body language and breathing. Speak clearly and at a moderate pace. Taking pauses at key moments can add weight to your words.

Funeral Speech for Family Member: 6 Examples

Here are examples of funeral speeches that we’ve written to help you understand how to structure a speech and make it personal, effective, and heartfelt. While these are just sample speeches, you can use them as inspiration to write your own.

Example 1: For a mother

Good afternoon, everyone. For those of you who may not know me, I'm Sarah, Margaret's eldest daughter.

Mom lived by a simple quote that perfectly captures her spirit: "The only true wealth is the good you do and the love you give."

She wasn't one for material things, but her generosity knew no bounds. Every year, without fail, she'd spend weeks knitting the most incredible Christmas stockings for the children at the local homeless shelter. Seeing their smiles on Christmas morning was her greatest reward.

One memory that always brings a smile to my face is our annual camping trip. Mom, despite never being much of an outdoorswoman, insisted on coming along every year. One particularly rainy night, huddled in our leaky tent, we ended up playing cards by flashlight for hours, laughing so hard our stomachs hurt.

When I was a nervous wreck about my first big job interview, she spent the entire day coaching me, reminding me of my strengths and why I deserved the opportunity. Her unwavering belief in me gave me the courage to walk into that interview and nail it.

There are countless stories like this, each one a testament to the incredible woman she was. Mom leaves behind a legacy of love. She is survived by her husband, Mark, her children, and her grandchildren. We will miss her dearly, but her love and the lessons she taught us will forever be a part of who we are. 

Thank you, Mom. We will miss her dearly, but her love and the lessons she taught us will forever be a part of who we are.

Example 2: For a father

Thank you for coming, everyone. For many of you, I'm Jeremy, but to Dad, I'll always be Jay Jay.

There's a saying Dad loved to repeat: "A father doesn't tell you how to live; he lives, and you watch him do it." And that's exactly what he did. He led by example , with a quiet strength and unwavering work ethic. I remember countless weekends spent helping him in his workshop; there was a softer side to Dad too.

Every year on my birthday, without fail, he'd take me fishing at our secret spot by the old bridge. It wasn't about catching the biggest fish, it was about the quiet moments spent side-by-side , him patiently teaching me the art of casting a line and the importance of enjoying the peacefulness of nature. and taking pride in a job well done.

There was a softer side to Dad too, though it might have taken some coaxing to see it. Every year on my birthday, without fail, he'd take me fishing at our secret spot by the old bridge. It wasn't about catching the biggest fish; it was about the quiet moments spent side-by-side, him patiently teaching me the art of casting a line and the importance of enjoying the peacefulness of nature.

He never missed a single soccer game, school play, or science fair. He cheered the loudest, even (especially?) during my most embarrassing moments. His unwavering support gave me the confidence to step outside my comfort zone and chase my dreams.

Dad leaves a void that can't be filled, but his spirit lives on in the hearts of his family — his wife, Jessica, his children, Aaron, Matt, and Claire; and his grandchildren, Skyler and Angie.

We'll miss his booming laugh, his crazy advice, and the way he always knew how to fix anything. Thank you, Dad, for everything.

Example 3: For a sibling

Good morning, everyone. I’m Sarah, Alex’s little sister. Alex wasn't just my older brother; he was a beacon of light in our family. He graduated top of his class with a degree in engineering, a feat that never surprised any of us. His mind was brilliant, always tinkering and problem-solving, a talent he readily shared when fixing everyone's gadgets (including my perpetually tangled headphones).

Alex's life extended far beyond accomplishments at work though. He built a beautiful family with his wife, Maya, and their two adorable children, Lily and Ben. They were his pride and joy. Seeing him light up when he talked about them, his goofy grin as he chased the kids around the park, is a memory I'll forever hold close.

There was a playful side to Alex too. Remember that time on our family vacation to the beach when he convinced us all to participate in a sandcastle-building competition? His creation, a multi-tiered masterpiece complete with a moat, put our simple sandcastles to shame (and earned him major bragging rights for years to come).

But beyond the playful exterior, Alex was always there for those that he cared about. Having Alex as a brother meant having a built-in cheerleader, a problem-solver, and a partner in crime.

‍ He leaves behind a legacy of brilliance, kindness, and a love for family that will forever inspire us all. He is survived by his loving wife, Maya, their precious children, our parents, Mom and Dad, and myself. 

We miss him terribly, but his spirit, his infectious laugh, and the memories we shared will forever be a part of who I am. Rest in peace, Alex. I love you.

Example 4: For a grandparent

Good afternoon, everyone. For many of you, I'm Sarah. Today, we celebrate the life of my incredible grandmother, Nana Sylvia. Nana Sylvia lived a life rich with travel, adventure, and an insatiable curiosity about the world.

One memory that always brings a smile to my face is the time we took a spontaneous road trip together, following dusty backroads and ending up at a hidden beach where we collected seashells until the sun dipped below the horizon.

But beyond her adventurous spirit, Nana Sylvia instilled valuable lessons in me. She taught me the importance of cherishing every moment, the joy of getting lost (both literally and figuratively), and the strength of resilience. Her mantra, "Life is a journey, not a destination," will forever be a guiding light in my own travels.

Nana Sylvia leaves behind a loving family, her husband Grandpa Joe, her children (including my parents), a gaggle of grandchildren (including myself), and even a couple of great-grandchildren who will only know her through stories and the twinkle in our eyes. We will miss her dearly, but her legacy of adventure, kindness, and living life to the fullest will continue to inspire us all. Rest in peace, Nana Sylvia.

Example 5: For an aunt or uncle

Hello, everyone. My name is Michael, and the amazing person we're here to remember today was my Aunt Clara, a woman whose passion for baking could rival any pastry chef. Remember those times she'd host family gatherings and transform her kitchen into a bakery?

‍ Her creations weren't just delicious, they were works of art, and her infectious enthusiasm for baking always made everyone feel welcome and included.

But beyond her culinary talents, Aunt Clara was someone who had a heart of gold. When I was struggling to find my place in the world, unsure of what path to take, Aunt Clara, with her gentle wisdom, reminded me that each one of us has something unique to give the world. Her encouragement gave me the courage to forge my own way.

Having an aunt like Aunt Clara was a true blessing. She taught me the importance of following your dreams, no matter how unconventional, the joy of sharing your passions with others, and the strength of unwavering support.

Though she may be gone, her spirit, her laughter, and the delicious aroma of her freshly baked cookies will forever hold a special place in my heart.

Aunt Clara is survived by her husband, Uncle John, her siblings, and her many loving nieces and nephews, including myself. We will miss her dearly. Rest in peace, Aunt Clara.

Example 6: For a cousin

Good afternoon, everyone. Many of you know me as David, but to Dr. Amelia Brooks, I was simply "Davey," the kid who used to follow her around the house with a plastic stethoscope, pretending to be her intern.

Amelia is my brilliant cousin, but she was also a beacon of compassion in her community. Her passion for medicine was truly contagious, and it sparked a lifelong curiosity in science within me. But beyond her medical expertise, Amelia was a doctor who treated her patients not just with medicine but with genuine care.

She tirelessly volunteered at the local free clinic, ensuring everyone had access to quality healthcare. Amelia lived her life in service of others.

Having a cousin like Dr. Amelia Brooks was a privilege. She taught me the importance of empathy , the joy of lifelong learning, and the strength of unwavering dedication.

Though she may be gone, her legacy of healing, compassion, and making a difference in the world will forever inspire me. Dr. Amelia Brooks leaves behind a loving family , her parents, and her many cousins, including myself. We will miss her dearly, but the lives she touched and the countless patients she helped will forever be a testament to her incredible legacy. Rest in peace, Amelia.

How To Deliver an Effective Funeral Speech

Crafting a funeral speech is an important part of honoring your loved one's life. But delivering it in front of friends and family can feel scary — especially if public speaking isn’t your thing.

Here are some tips to help make sure your words resonate with the audience and deliver a funeral speech with confidence: Make eye contact (it eases the nerves!)

Public speaking can feel isolating, but making eye contact throughout your speech builds a bridge between you and the audience. Instead of staring at one point in the room, try to make eye contact with different people for a few seconds at a time.

This creates a sense of intimacy and allows your message to connect with them on a personal level. Seeing your genuine emotion and connection to your loved one can be a source of comfort for those who are grieving as well.

Make sure you take deep breaths

Public speaking can leave you breathless, which can make your voice shaky and your words jumbled. Before you begin speaking, take a few slow, deep breaths from your belly. Continue to breathe deeply throughout your speech, especially before transitions or emotional moments.

This will help you speak clearly, project your voice effectively, and manage any nervousness or grief that might arise.

Speak slowly and clearly

Nervousness can lead to rushing through your speech, leaving the audience confused and missing important details. Make a conscious effort to slow down your speaking pace.

This allows you to properly articulate your thoughts, emphasize important points, and ensure everyone understands the stories and messages you're sharing about your loved one. Speaking slowly also gives the audience time to process what you're saying and connect with the emotions you're conveying.

Carry your notes

While memorizing your entire speech is ideal, it's not always practical, especially if you're feeling emotional. Having a neatly organized copy of the funeral speech with you gives you a sense of security. 

This way, if you get nervous or forget a specific detail, you can easily refer back to your notes without losing your train of thought. Remember, the goal is to deliver a heartfelt message, and using notes can help you achieve that by keeping you focused and on track.

Allow yourself to be vulnerable

A funeral speech is a time to express your grief and celebrate the life of your loved one. Don't be afraid to let your voice crack or shed a tear. Authenticity and vulnerability will connect with the audience on a deeper level.

Seeing your genuine emotions can be a source of comfort for others who are grieving, and it allows you to truly honor the memory of your loved one in a way that feels real and heartfelt.

We hope this guide, along with the examples, help you craft a meaningful and heartfelt funeral speech for a family member — whether it’s a parent, a sibling, or someone in your extended family. If you’re planning a memorial or cremation for your loved one, consider Meadow Memorials .

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How to write a eulogy.

One of the most challenging parts of funeral planning is writing a fitting tribute to your loved one.

How can you find the words to capture just how much your friend or family member means to you? It’s harder still because you’re grieving, so emotions are running high, concentration is low, and the pressure may be overwhelming. That’s why we’ve created this guide on how to write a eulogy, complete with examples to get you started. 

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How to write a eulogy – 6 tips

An example structure.

• Eulogy for a parent
• Eulogy for a sibling
• Eulogy for a grandparent
• Eulogy for a friend

More eulogy examples

What is a eulogy.

A eulogy is a short speech given at a funeral or memorial service for a person who has died. The tradition originates from ancient Greece, and the word literally means “praise”. The key is to write the eulogy in a way that does their life justice and respects their loved ones’ memories and feelings of grief.

Who should deliver a eulogy?

Speaking about someone who has died in front of their family and friends is a courageous thing to do. If you feel daunted by the prospect, ask people around you for support. While a close relative or friend usually writes the funeral speech, it can also be delivered by an official, such as a religious leader. Do what feels right and keep it flexible. For example, if you want to write the eulogy but worry about breaking down in tears , ask someone else to be on standby to read it for you if need be.

1. Make it personal

Introducing yourself in relation to the person you are remembering can be a good place to start. Describe what they meant to you, and what qualities defined them in your eyes. This will establish a connection with other people at the service and put you in the picture for those who might not know you very well.

2. Cover the essentials

When thinking about how to write a eulogy, it’s a good idea to structure it with a beginning, a middle and an end. And while it is not the same as an obituary, it usually includes brief aspects of the late person’s life, such as their early beginnings, their education and career, and particular skills, achievements or interests. Saying something specific about their family life, and mentioning their partner and/or children by name, can feel particularly important to their closest relatives.

3. Get personal stories from others

Just like our relationships with a particular person differ, so do our feelings about them when they die . To make sure you write a good eulogy that will feel meaningful to others, ask a few close friends or relatives to contribute by sharing a favourite memory, personal story, or anecdote . A range of perspectives will enrich your speech and help strike the right tone right with your audience. You might also discover a true gem in the process, like a beautiful quote that perfectly captures your loved one’s personality, qualities, and quirks.

4. Consider the length

How long should a eulogy be? Some funeral speeches are very brief and there are no set rules for length, but 3-5 minutes is common. Make it long enough to properly honour the person and say what needs to be said, in proportion to the rest of the funeral service. To get it right, try reading it out loud a few times while timing yourself and editing accordingly.

5. Make it honest

It is possible to talk about someone’s achievements and qualities without glorifying them and mention shortcomings or disappointments in a kind and accepting way. None of us are perfect, and we remember those we have lost in all their human complexity. Follow your instincts, even using some gentle humour if it feels right and relevant. And if you’re not sure, ask someone else for their honest feedback before you finalise your eulogy.

6. End on a touching note

Ending a eulogy on the right note can be tricky. One option is to finish with a poem or quote that feels consoling and meaningful, even if it happens to come from a movie such as Pretty Woman or Lord of the Rings ! You might find inspiration in famous eulogies, such as Matthew’s tribute to his partner Gareth in Four Weddings and a Funeral , Oprah Winfrey’s speech for Rosa Parks, Mona Simpson remembering her brother Steve Jobs, or in books and online quote collections.

Real eulogy examples

With the tips above, a ‘template’ for your loved one’s eulogy starts to come together. But if you’re not quite sure how to structure it, here’s a framework you can follow when you start writing:

Introduction :

• Give a brief background on the person who has died. Mention any nicknames they might have had; talk about their work or the things that were most important to them.
• Mention your relationship to them and what they meant to you and others. 
• Talk about some of their best qualities and values they held dear. 

Mid-section:

• You might want to include an anecdote here. Depending on the tone, you could make this funny, heart-warming, and/or even inspirational. 
• Dive deeper into the things they cared about most : this could be family, friends, a pet or even a hobby. 
• Cover their biggest accomplishments or life events. If they have a partner and/or kids, talk about them. You could even speak directly to them in parts.
• Capture what that person meant to others. This would be a good place to add personal stories or short quotes from their friends and family members.
• Start closing the eulogy with a final takeaway , whether it’s a saying your loved one often used or something that ties back to the eulogy’s overall theme. 
• At this point, you could speak directly to the loved one you have lost, and tell them ‘thank you’ and that you love them. 
• You could also thank those at the funeral or memorial service for being there, and remind them how much your loved one admired them all. 
• Think about ending with a quote, a poem, or a lyric from your loved one’s favourite song. You can keep it short and meaningful, a touching end to a funeral speech.

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Eulogy example for a parent

Talk about: 

• What your mother or father meant to you and your siblings
• What they did both for your family and a living
• How they raised you and the values they passed on
• Funny stories or touching memories that you’ll always remember
• Something they once told you or a saying they had
• The people who meant the most to them

Example eulogy:

My dad was my hero. No matter how busy things got, he always made time for the people he cared about, and showed us that family always comes first – no matter what. Everyone who knew him knew how proud he was of the people he loved, of his dog, Buddy, and of his car… of course. You never had to ask what he was doing on a Sunday – he’d be outside washing the car again . 

I’m going to miss my dad so much, but I’m grateful for the wonderful memories I have of him. The happy trips to Cornwall when we were kids, the walks we used to go on, even just sitting on the sofa watching TV together. He made everything fun, and he knew just how precious our time on Earth is. He was always reminding me and my sisters to “enjoy life”, and that’s what he did, every day. 

I know a lot of you will be feeling as heartbroken as I am right now, and I also know that if there was anything my dad wanted me to say today, it’s this: thank you, to all of you. Everyone sitting here today meant so much to him; his work friends, his childhood friends, his whole family. He often talked about how lucky he was to have you all. I hope he knew how lucky we were to have him too. I love you Dad, thank you for being the best father we could have ever hoped for. 

Eulogy examples for a sibling

There will never be enough words to sum up my big sister. She was funny, kind, smart, determined… In the eyes of me and my parents, she lit up every room she walked into. [Name] threw herself at every opportunity – she never did anything by halves. When she was 21, she signed up for the marathon because she’d seen some running shoes she liked – and, of course, she smashed it. When she was 26, she went to the dog shelter ‘just to take a look’, and came home with two pups, Charlie and Bubbles, who adored her. 

So it was no surprise that she took so naturally to becoming a mum. I can’t describe the joy of seeing [Name] raise her two girls – my two favourite people – with the same care and kindness she had always shown me as her little sister. They were her pride and joy, and there is so much of [Name] in both of them. They share her generosity, fierce loyalty, flawless sense of style, and quick wit. [Kids’ names], I know nothing will ever erase the heartbreak of losing your mum, but I hope you know that we are all here for you always. 

[Name] was also a brilliant friend. She knew anyone and everyone. Sometimes it felt like there was nowhere we could go where she wouldn’t bump into at least one person who saw how brilliant she was. People were drawn to her, and her passion for life. But no matter how many friends she made, she’d never be without her best ones: Amy and Scott. She loved you both so much, and your wild stories will live on forever. 

[Name], thank you for everything. For being the life of the party, for always knowing how to make us all laugh, and for showing us how to live life to the fullest. There will never be a day we don’t miss you, but we’ll carry your love wherever we go, and your girls will never stop hearing stories about their magical mum.

Eulogy examples for a grandparent

• Your grandmother or grandfather’s life and the people they loved
• Their personality, their humour and their values
• The role they played in your upbringing
• Heartwarming memories of time spent with them

There was nobody funnier or more quick-witted than my grandmother. She was a force of nature who never failed to surprise people with her sharp one-liners and her teasing sense of humour. But she was also incredibly warm and kind. I’ll never forget our visits, Frank Sinatra playing in her living room, bowls of sweets on every surface, and her asking me, “so, what’s the latest gossip?”

She loved to chat, travel and see friends. Nan had a more active social life than anyone I know, and was always the ‘hostess with the mostest’, finding literally any reason to throw a party. Her love for her family was such a gift; something that my brother, parents, cousins, aunts, uncles and I were so lucky to experience every day. 

But Nan’s love for people didn’t just stay in her family. She was extremely charitable, hosting fundraisers, volunteering at charity shops, and offering help to anyone in need. When our grandad passed, she dedicated so much of her time TO raising money for the hospice that looked after him, as well as the RNLI in tribute to his time as a lifeguard. 

My nan and grandad’s love is something my brother, cousins and I all aspire to. Their adoration for one another was clear, and I can still hear them singing together in the kitchen. I like to think that now they’re finally back together again, having a song and a dance and big knees up. We love you Nan – thank you for everything.

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Eulogy example for a friend

• How you met your friend and what your first impressions were
• What made them such a wonderful friend
• Their passions and hobbies
• Their other friends and family
• Funny stories or memorable anecdotes

I’ll never forget the first time I met [Name]. I’d just moved into our halls at uni and found him in the kitchen, wearing nothing but a towel, panicking because he’d flooded his shower on day one. I quickly realised that these kinds of mishaps followed him pretty much everywhere, from the time he turned up at the airport three weeks late for a flight, to when his dog really did eat his coursework. There was always a story with [Name].

But beneath the constant jokes, mayhem and penchant for Hawaiian shirts, [Name] had the best heart. He was a true friend who backed all of us – even when we were definitely in the wrong! [Name] was the first person who called me when my dad passed away, the most dedicated best man at 3(!) of our friends’ weddings, and when he found [partner’s name], he became the most devoted boyfriend and fiancé. 

Anyone who knew [Name] knew how much he adored [partner’s name], how strong his bond was with his brothers, and how he loved nothing more than a hungover Sunday roast at his parents’ house. We’ll all miss him terribly, but it’s impossible not to smile when we think of him. [Name], you were a true friend. We’ll keep on making mischief in your honour.

The short eulogy examples above will have hopefully given you some inspiration on how you can structure your loved one’s funeral speech or the kinds of things you can talk about. We also wanted to share some well-known examples to give you extra ideas to work with. Here are a few that have stuck with us, and might help you too:

• Mona Simpson’s eulogy for her brother Steve Jobs
• Stacey Heale’s eulogy for her late husband Greg
• Eight-year-old Bindi Irwin’s eulogy for her dad Steve Irwin
• Kate Rothschild’s eulogy for her 15-year-old daughter Iris Goldsmith
• John Cleese’s eulogy written for George Chapman

Looking for more advice on dealing with a loss? Read our guide on what to say to someone grieving . If you’re planning a funeral, our round-up of the most popular funeral songs and planning a funeral wake will also be useful to you.

For more advice and to connect with others who share a similar experience of loss, download the Untangle Grief app .

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Funeral Speech Examples: Saying Goodbye With Love

A funeral speech or eulogy remembers a loved one by reminding other mourners of their good qualities and their impact on the lives of all in attendance. The content of a eulogy should be positive and uplifting as the speaker offers a final goodbye.

Although most of us will never be professionals at public speaking,  many of us will someday have to speak to a relatively large group of people as we deliver a eulogy for a loved one.  Knowing how to put together a touching eulogy speech that accurately encompasses the deceased’s life is an art form anyone can accomplish by following a few easy steps.

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What Should You Say At A Funeral When You Give The Eulogy?

When giving a funeral eulogy , one can approach it in many ways. Most eulogies happen at the funeral home, at a memorial service, during a church service, or at a celebration of life. The circumstance and location of the eulogy will sometimes help shape the type of speech you will give.

What Are Some Tips For Giving A Good Funeral Speech?

Preparing the eulogy involves gathering memories, writing them down, and practicing, especially if you feel you might become emotional.

There are seven steps to writing a good eulogy, or tribute speech to the deceased.

• Speak to friends and family members of the deceased.  Even though you are a close family friend, many others who knew the deceased well might have stories and insights to contribute. Meet people for coffee or make some phone calls so you can gather stories to help you prepare your eulogy.
• Choose a theme and tone.  Ask yourself what type of stories would best and most accurately depict your best friend and loved one. A funny eulogy would be perfect if they were the kind of person who always had people laughing. However, a more reserved memorial might be more appropriate for some people. The most important thing is that you speak from the heart.
• Consider the audience and location.  If you are invited to give a eulogy as part of a church funeral service, the tone may be very different than if you are speaking at a celebration of life at a local bar.
• Introduce yourself as you speak.  This will help everyone there to know why you are speaking by defining your relationship with the deceased and the family. Someone who has been lifelong friends with someone can speak to many aspects of their life, for example.
• Give some information about the deceased.  Stories and memories can get the point across. Just be certain not to say anything that might be hurtful or embarrass the family. The eulogy is not the place for dirty laundry.
• Connect all of the information.  Whether you are speaking in a theme or just bringing the stories full circle to explain what kind of person the deceased was, this is important to helping to wrap things up.
• Conclude the speech.  You may end your eulogy simply by stating that you are honored to have been given the opportunity to speak or by adding a funeral quote about loss or grief.

What Words Can You Use In A Funeral Speech?

• Anecdotes  from the person’s life are always fun because all of our lives are comprised of a million little things that have happened to us. These help paint a picture of who we are.
• Excerpts from books  are often included as a means of making a particular point.
• Favorite memories  should be shared as long as others assembled will find them relatable. Avoid stories that are too personal or where others will feel alienated when listening.
• Funny stories  are excellent, especially if the deceased had an exceptional sense of humor.
• Poems  are a beautiful way to remember a lost loved one, and they uniquely offer comfort.
• Quotes  or  song lyrics  are a beautiful way to either start or end a eulogy. Another lovely idea is to end with a quote from a song and then have the music played. It allows for a touching transition.

What Are Some Good Topics To Talk About At A Funeral?

Reminiscing with the audience about the deceased can start out in many ways. Sometimes people start with the  first time they met someone.  Of course, there are  many firsts in a person’s life.  It could be the first time close friends went fishing together, and it ended in a tipped boat. Telling funny stories can help people cope during difficult times.

If you use the deceased person’s  nickname , explain where it came from or why it stuck.

For someone loved by all, it may be appropriate to start the eulogy with “dear friends.” After all, what better way to pull in everyone listening than to acknowledge that the deceased was a friend to all?

Choosing memories or stories from when the deceased was a little girl or boy, to high school stories, to college to adulthood is an excellent way to provide a  chronological life timeline.  Some eulogy templates follow this method.

Other sample eulogies follow the  three-story process.  In this one, the person giving the eulogy chooses three stories that can be connected in some way to help illustrate a life well lived.

Short Eulogy Examples

Sometimes a short and sweet eulogy is best because you worry about keeping your composure when speaking. Also, many people give short stories or memories at some celebration of life events. Whatever the reason you are leaning toward a short eulogy speech, you can say a lot in very few words.

For a Friend:  “Starting on that first day of high school when I could not get my locker open, and Amanda helped me, making us both late for class, I knew I had a friend for life. As I spoke to people about Amanda, I heard over and over that she gave often and selflessly. She will be terribly missed, and the world is a darker place without her.”

For an Older Brother:  “My brother was my first best friend, and I simply can’t imagine life without him in it. He was my protector and my confidant. My fishing buddy and my personal cheerleader. He pushed me to be the best version of myself, and I am struggling to imagine a life without him in it. I love you, Matt.”

For a Co-Worker:  “Having worked with Art for over 20 years, I can attest, he was a staunch perfectionist who helped us all to be better in the workplace and in life. Art led by example, worked hard to lead our team and also reminded us of the importance of keeping work and home life balance. Art was the best boss I have ever had, and although eventually, someone will have to sit at his desk, no one will ever take his place.”

What Are Some Examples Of Funeral Speeches?

When seeking eulogy examples, why not read (or watch) what are arguably five of the best eulogies ever?

• Barack Obama’s Eulogy Speech for John McCain
• Oprah Winfrey’s Eulogy for Rosa Parks
• Ronald Regan Gives Impromptu Eulogy for Space Shuttle Challenger
• Ted Kennedy’s Tribute Speech to his nephew John F Kennedy, Jr.
• Mickey Mantle’s Eulogy Delivered by Bob Costas

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Funeral speech examples from around the world.

By:  Susan Dugdale  

How do you begin to write a meaningful eulogy?

And how is it possible to say everything you want to about a person's entire life story in a few, very brief, minutes?

Both those questions are natural responses to having a eulogy to write for a funeral service.

Grief, together with the desire to honor your loved-one the best way you can, and the pressure of a tight timeframe, can make it feel like an almost insurmountable challenge. 

That's why reading what others have written in similar circumstances helps a great deal.

What's on this page:

Access to 70+ eulogy examples, the whys and wherefores of the collection: its background, a submission form to use if you want to contribute a eulogy and links to other useful pages on my site.

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• I want to browse and read the example eulogies in the order they have been received . (The most recent is at the top of the list.)
• I want to submit a eulogy I have written .
• I want to read specific types of eulogies : eulogies for mothers, fathers, an older brother, a dear friend...
• I want help with the eulogy writing process.

About these eulogy examples

I am fortunate to be able to make available to you a large, and growing, collection of funeral speech examples. 

They've been written by people from all over the world, who are just like you and me. They too have family and friends whom they care for deeply.

Look and you'll find examples of eulogies for mothers, fathers, grandparents, brothers, sisters, aunts, uncles, cousins, mentors, colleagues, a close friend..., in short: loved ones.

The people who've written them have shared them to help people like yourself. Because they've been where you are now with a funeral speech to prepare, they know how it feels to be searching for inspiration, trying to find a starting point.

Some of the speeches are short. Some of them are funny. All of them are heartfelt, and they appear in the order I received them.

To see them, jump to  eulogy samples .  

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 Help to find specific eulogy examples easily

If you're looking for an example of a eulogy for a particular kind of person, and don't want to browse your way through the chronologically ordered list below, use these links to go straight to a collection of:

• eulogies for mothers
• eulogies for  fathers
• eulogies for  sisters
• eulogies for  sons
• eulogies for  grandmothers
• eulogies for  grandfathers
• eulogies for  friends
• eulogies for  colleagues

I've grouped all the speeches I've received through this page according to their type on a new page here: sample eulogies . Whenever a eulogy is submitted, I add its link to the category it belongs to.

The story behind this collection of eulogies

It began with two funeral speeches  I had written. 

Almost as soon as I put them online, they attracted an enormous number of visitors.

It was then I realized the need for more.  

I also knew my examples would not answer everybody's needs.

The one for my sister was different in approach.

The one for my friend and next-door neighbor was not what a grieving person with a eulogy speech to write for a close family member really wanted to see. 

My two were definitely not enough! 

Offering a wider variety of funeral speeches 

To be really useful there needed to be a wider variety of funeral speeches. We needed eulogies for mothers, fathers, sons, sisters, brothers, aunts, uncles, colleagues, friends, people who died unexpectedly and suddenly...

And we needed them to reflect the diverse countries and faiths of the people visiting the site.

I decided to ask for more. Lo and behold, they began to arrive through my   eulogy submission form below.

Help to make writing a eulogy easier.

After you've read a few eulogy examples, and you want help to prepare your own speech you'll find it here:  how to write a good eulogy .

The article has step-by-step instructions, examples, a very useful free 15-page printable eulogy planning template to download , as well as comprehensive answers for 13 FAQs about eulogies :

• how do you start a eulogy ?
• how do you end a eulogy ?
• do you read a eulogy or memorize it?
• how do you stop from crying when you give a eulogy ?

Why do people share a deeply personal speech?

The people sending their eulogies to me to publish fully appreciate that writing a funeral speech under pressure can be a difficult, sad and lonely task - sometimes one of the hardest things they've ever done.

They know from experience having examples to read can lessen that burden. It's a good way of starting to find the right words to tell their own personal stories and share their favorite memories about a person they have loved.

Theirs is a kind and generous act, one that's been repeated over 70 times already. 

Wonderfully, some of the people who've come searching for help to write their own eulogy, have returned to share what they've written.

(Read Craig's comment below his eulogy for his Grandmother, Bertha  or Byrona's below her  eulogy for her Dad  for verification.

Both were helped by funeral speeches they found here and wanted what they had written to assist others in the same way.)

So, if you've written a eulogy...

Would you consider sharing it?

It would help others enormously.

Every day people look for tips on how to a write eulogy or to find  eulogy examples  to read. I know because I see it reflected in my website visitor statistics.

I also know because of the comments people leave under speeches.  They are so very grateful to have found a eulogy expressing how they feel.

For instance, see the comments on Eulogy for my Son , on Eulogy for my Grandmother - Bertha , or Sharon Catley's poem for her Mother,  Journey's End .   

You know how it generally is with a speech of this sort. Typically, there is not much time to prepare, and you want to get it right.

Reading what others have done helps in the best possible way.

These eulogies inspire and give people the courage to do what they need to do.

Despite our differences what we all have in common is the desire to speak about our loved ones the very best way we can. 

The more examples we have, the more likely a person is going to find a speech that resonates and meets their needs.

You too could help by submitting the eulogy you've written. It's very simple to do.

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7 tips from celebrants on writing a great funeral speech 0.

Giving a funeral speech can be a nerve-wracking experience. Public speaking isn’t everyone’s forte — and there’s always the question of what you should (and shouldn’t) say.

So, what makes a great speech at a funeral? We spoke to four experienced celebrants — people who write and deliver eulogies professionally — to get their top tips on writing a funeral speech that feels right.

How to write a funeral speech, according to real celebrants

We spoke to Clive, Melanie, Kate and Adrienne for their tips on writing a brilliant funeral speech.

Work out the length

“A five-minute speech would typically be 600 to 650 words,” says Clive Pashley, from Premier Celebrants. Most people talk at a rate of about 125 words a minute, he explains. But the more nervous you are, the faster you’ll speak.

If you get to choose how long your speech will be, ask for only as much time as you can manage. “Remember: you’re grieving, and the longer you’re up there, the harder it gets,” says Melanie Sopp, celebrant and interfaith minister. “Even two minutes can feel like an eternity.”

Choose a topic

“Start by sorting out what the theme is,” says Adrienne Hodgson-Hoy, a celebrant from East Yorkshire. “What do you actually want to get people to understand, what is the whole basis of the speech?”

• Eulogies are where you tell the life story of the person who has died, from beginning to end.
• Tributes are typically shorter — 5-minute speeches on a treasured memory, anecdote, or theme from the person’s life.

“When you’re talking about somebody’s life, you talk about their passions: follow what they loved and what their strengths were,” says Kate Mitchell, who leads ceremonies in the South East. Eulogies follow a certain pattern (from birth to death), so it’s simply a case of pulling out those key moments that really reveal something.

For tributes, Melanie recommends writing about “things that mean something to you — whether it’s a personal memory, an anecdote, gratitude, or acknowledging somebody’s courage in the face of a long illness.” Family gatherings, holidays and first meetings are all good starting points for a funeral speech.

“ The most important thing is to tell the truth as you see it,”

Follow your instincts

Not sure what to say in a funeral speech? Go with your gut.

“Just sit down and write what’s in your head, even if it’s a jumbled mess,” says Melanie. “Then go back through it to revise it and pick out what needs to be said on the day.”

Clive adds: “Don’t second guess yourself. If you think of a memory and it feels right, it’s important to you and it’s something that you shared — and if you think your friend or loved one would like you to share it — then I would go ahead and include it.”

Be even-handed

“Make sure your speech is as unbiased as possible,” says Adrienne. “Gather information from different parts of the family, so you actually get an accurate picture of what happened and what [the person who has died] was like.”

To get the information you need for your funeral speech, you may have to put your own opinions to one side. “Don’t be argumentative when you are taking the information, and don’t put your viewpoint first,” Adrienne stresses.

Clive agrees. “Some people use their time at the microphone to try and settle a score or get one up on someone. That’s obviously a real no-no,” he says, adding that such funeral speeches can be “excruciatingly embarrassing.”

Be honest — even about the difficult bits

Talking about someone with a complicated or difficult history? All our celebrants agreed on one thing: not to flinch away from talking about it.

“That doesn’t mean a litany of things that they did wrong — and it doesn’t have to be the gory details. It’s about telling the truth but being kind.”

“Acknowledge that they did have issues,” says Adrienne. “I lead a funeral service once for someone who was an alcoholic, and the family said that yes, he had issues with alcohol, and he tried to turn away from it, but unfortunately the issue was too big a problem for him to overcome. There are tactful ways of saying these things.”

Honesty can be cathartic. Melanie gave a difficult eulogy for her father and says that the experience was “Liberating. It was an honest account of that relationship. I don’t regret it.”

Remember, it’s not all about you

“Just be careful not to make it too centred on yourself, and make sure it really does focus on the person who’s passed away,” says Clive.

When talking about others, specific names also are important, he stresses. “Try to avoid saying ‘we’ or ‘they’ unless it’s obvious who you’re referring to. Otherwise, it can be a little ambiguous and hard to follow.”

Don’t be flowery, be specific

A lot of people feel that since a funeral is a serious occasion, funeral speeches should use serious, impressive language. Not so, say our celebrants.

“If their name was David, but they were known as Dave, call them Dave! Keep it personal,” says Adrienne.

“Don’t try and be clever and write flowery phases! Everybody thinks that they need to, but someone isn’t suddenly different because they died,” Kate explains. “If you can be specific, and base your speech on real things that happened, that’s best.”

“The songs you used to listen to together, the ways he used to stir his tea — those are the sorts of details that are specific to that person, and that’s what makes a great eulogy.”

For more inspiration…

For more ideas on things to say in a funeral speech, you can’t go wrong with our article on  funeral speech examples . It’s filled with touching and sometimes even funny eulogies from real people.

Feeling nervous about an upcoming funeral speech? We followed up with Melanie, Clive, Adrienne and Kate to find out how to overcome your jitters. Check out their tips and tricks here.

  Meet the celebrants

Clive Pashley started Premier Celebrants with his friend, James Greely, in 2016. They were later joined by Rachel Nussey. He and his team offer professional and bespoke funeral service planning across the Midlands.

Rev. Melanie Sopp is a celebrant and interfaith minister, working across the Midlands and the South coast. Melanie runs the excellent Celebrant Academy, which trains celebrants to create ceremonies and lead services of all kinds.

Adrienne Hodgson-Hoy was inspired to become a celebrant after losing her husband. Now, she leads unique, personal funeral services across Hull and East Yorkshire. With a friend, Adrienne runs Memories of Me, a service that allows people to plan their own funeral services.

Kate Mitchell is a creative independent celebrant working in the South East: her stomping grounds include Kent, Surrey and Sussex. As well as funerals, Kate leads thoughtful wedding and baby-naming ceremonies.

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9 Creative Ways to Remember Someone Who Has Died 0

When you lose someone, one of the scariest things about it is the idea that you might forget them. Or that the memory of losing them will overshadow the happier times you spent together.  The good news is this: you won’t forget them, ever. We promise. And there are ways of remembering someone who has died that can help you celebrate all the great things about them. Here are some suggestions…

9 special things to do to remember someone who has died

Not sure how to remember someone who has died ? We hope you’ll find some inspiration here.

Start a tradition for their birthday

Find something that helps you feel close to them, and do it each year. For example, you could:

• Do something your loved one liked to do
• Take a trip to a place that meant something to you both
• Have a big family dinner and raise a toast – and invite their close friends
• Light a candle for them in the evening

Build on what you know about them. Take a class in something they knew well. Go on their favourite dog walk. Take the day off and make all their favourite foods.

“My sister and I go to a 40s event on Mum’s birthday each year,” explains Rachel, a funeral arranger at our Aylesbury branch. “She was a child of the 40s, and it helps us remember how life would have been for her growing up.”

Talk to them

While this might feel a little odd at first, a lot of people find comfort in these talks. After the 2011 tsunami in Japan, one bereaved relative set up a disconnected ‘wind telephone’ in his garden so that he could talk to the family he lost. Since then, people from all over the area have come to talk to their loved ones.

Take a trip 

Go somewhere your loved one always wanted to go, do something they always wanted to do. A once-in-a-lifetime trip can be a fantastic way for a family to heal together after a rough year.

Keep something of theirs close by

Another (slightly more unusual) way of remembering someone special who has died is to get their ashes made into jewellery. Specialist craftspeople can suspend the ashes in glass or resin beads and place them in pendants, earrings, bracelets or rings. 

Go big with a firework display

A memorial fireworks display can be a lovely way to remember someone special. Team it with plenty of friends and family, some of your loved one’s favourite music, and some toasty hot drinks for a unique and cosy celebration of life.

The important thing here is safety. Always buy your fireworks from a registered seller or licenced shop and check that they are suitable for home use. Make sure bystanders are standing back as far as is recommended for that firework. You can find more safety advice here.

What about balloon, lantern, butterfly and dove launches? Here, it’s important to do your research to minimise the impact on local wildlife and pets. Always use biodegradable materials.

Get something dedicated to them

Not sure if the traditional park bench is the best way of remembering someone who has died ? There are all kinds of alternatives…

• For lovers of the performing arts, you can dedicate theatre, opera, or concert hall seats
• Football ground seats are a great way to remember fans of the beautiful game
• For music lovers, you can call in to your local radio station and dedicate their favourite song to them on their birthday
• You can get a rose named in memory of someone special , and give cuttings to family and friends
• Or dedicate a tree (or an acre of woodland ) to them with the Woodland Trust

Write to them

Not much of a letter writer? You’re not alone. When writer Rax King tweeted about the emails she sent her dad after he died, thousands of other people came forward to say that they did the same. Or sent texts, or g-chat messages.  While it’s best not to actually press ‘send’ on these (numbers can be reallocated to other people, email accounts closed) just the act of writing can bring comfort. 

Support a cause that mattered to them

Is there a cause your loved one cared deeply about that you could support? Or would you like to raise money for a charity that fights their final illness, or supports families like yours?

One of the best ways to remember someone who has died is to build something positive with their legacy. You could…

• Set up an online crowdfunding obituary that asks friends and family to donate
• Organise a fundraiser or do a charity run to raise money
• Sign up to donate a small amount each month in their memory
• Set up a scholarship or endowment at their old school, college or uni
• Launch a charitable trust or foundation of your own to lobby for a cause
• Sponsor a child (or even an animal) through a charity

Visit their grave or scattering place

If you like, you can also bring a wreath, bouquet or (land owner permitting) something to plant.  In Victorian times, people would often use flowers to send messages: each one had a special meaning. This old mourning custom is still a lovely way to express how you feel. E.g. rosemary for remembrance, white periwinkle for happy memories, an oak-leaved geranium for true friendship or marigolds for grief. 

Then again, a bouquet of your loved one’s favourites is an equally thoughtful gesture. At natural burial grounds, where planting rules are strict, a scattering of native wildflowers can also be a beautiful way to remember someone who has died.

Share your favourite ways to remember someone who has died

How do you remember the special people you’ve lost? Share your suggestions with other bereaved families in the comment section below. We’d love to hear your stories.

10 Funny Funeral Poems for an Uplifting Service 0

‘Funny funeral poems’ might sound like a bit of a contradiction. But humour isn’t always out of place at a farewell. When we celebrate someone’s life, we celebrate all of it, all of the best things about them — and that can mean laughter as well as sadness.

Here, we’ve gathered together 10 popular funny funeral poems to inspire you. We hope you’ll find something your loved one would have giggled at.

Pardon Me For Not Getting Up by Kelly Roper

There’s puns galore in this poem by Kelly Roper, writer and hospice volunteer. It’s a popular light-hearted reading, especially in funerals for people who were always taking care of others.

Told from the perspective of someone who has died, Pardon Me For Not Getting Up asks funeral guests to excuse them from hosting this time — and asks them to go ahead and celebrate their life nevertheless.

  A Long Cup of Tea by Michael Ashby

Is this the most British funeral poem of all time? Perhaps. Full of sly jokes (‘Please pick the biggest mug you can find / Size really does matter at this time’) Michael Ashby’s funeral poem is perfect for someone who loved to kick back with a cuppa. And who doesn’t?

The Busman’s Prayer by Anon

You can, of course, also write your own. Simply swap out the London locations for local landmarks with a similar sound.

Death by Joe Brainard

This wry, matter-of-fact poem by Joe Brainard has a lot of simple truth in it. And some very black humour. Noting that visualising death might help us not to be afraid, he adds:

“Try to visualize, for example, someone sneaking up behind your back and hitting you over the head with a giant hammer.”

If your friend or relative was a straightforward sort of person with an appreciation for the darker variety of jokes, this could be the one.

Warning by Jenny Joseph

It’s also an excellent message for us all: don’t let respectability get in the way of doing all the (silly) things that make you happy.

On a Tired Housewife by Anon

This anonymous poem has something of a dark backstory. But it’s now one of the nation’s favourite comic poems.

In it, the reader explains that after a lifetime of hard work, she’s actually looking forward to a restful eternal sleep. This makes it one of the more fitting funny funeral poems for a friend or parent who was always busy looking after their family.

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Death by Sean Hughes

This poem, which describes Sean Hughes’ idea of a good funeral, is ideal for any ‘celebration of life’ style funeral service.

With free drinks and new friendships being forged, it actually does sound like a great way to send someone off. The poem was in fact read at Hughes’ own funeral.

I Didn’t Go To Church Today by Ogden Nash

Although light-hearted, the poem does have comfort for those at a funeral. As Nash shares, God will likely understand. After all, ‘He knows when I am said and done / We’ll have plenty of time together’.

Last Will and Testament by Will Scratchmann

One last note on funny funeral poems…

Giving a ‘funny’ reading at a funeral can be a bit nerve-wracking. What if it goes down badly? The best thing to ask yourself is what the person who has died would have thought. Does the poem sound like them? Is it something they might have found funny? After all, the day is all about them. And if you need advice on public speaking, take a look at our top tips from funeral celebrants.

Didn’t find the right funeral poem today? Not to worry. We have a round up of 33 beautiful non-religious funeral poems here to help you in your search.

Eulogy Examples: How to Write a Eulogy for a Loved One

By Bernie Flowers

How do you distill a lifetime of memories and experiences into a 15-minute eulogy? It’s an honor to hold the responsibility of eulogizing your loved one, but it can feel like a challenge to fit everything you want to say in one speech.

Instead of making the funeral attendees feel like they are reading an encyclopedia from cover-to-cover, look for ways to highlight the rich life experiences that matter most. A eulogy should be a sampling of the best the person had to offer including accomplishments, personality traits, and memorable stories.

When it comes to eulogy writing, you can search online for ideas and examples. But the most important thing you need to keep in mind: quality over quantity .

All this being said, we would advise using our professional Eulogy Template to guide you through your writing, you can find it here - Eulogy Template

What is a Eulogy?

Giving a eulogy means that you are sharing a remembrance speech with the purpose of paying tribute to a loved one. This speech is given at the funeral or memorial service by a family member or close friend.

A good eulogy highlights the lasting impact of the person on their family and community. Through your speech, you’ll have an opportunity to share their unique qualities, as well as the ripple effect of positivity and change they created in the world around them.

How can you best honor  your loved one? A eulogy can be a part of your healing, and a beautiful way to reflect on the details that were most special about them.

Eulogy Examples

One of the simplest ways to write a eulogy is to review a eulogy speech example that matches your own preferred tone and style. What makes a eulogy unique is the unique details you’ll share about the person themselves, which is why it’s essential to customize your eulogy to honor and celebrate the personality of your loved one.

You may want to start with our primer on how to write a eulogy . Then, use the following outline and eulogy examples to create a strong speech  that communicates the message you want to share about the person who meant so much to you.

Eulogy Sample Outline

Using a eulogy sample outline is a proven way to create a great speech. Remember those Mad Libs books from your childhood? This process is similar: follow the outline and plug in the personal details applicable to your loved one. 

These eulogy samples help you overcome writer's block and keep you focused on the details that matter most. Aim to cap the eulogy at a maximum of 10 minutes total. The simplest eulogy outline can be broken down into three parts, so you’ll need to consider how much time to spend on each section:

• Set the tone by beginning with a poem, quote, or scripture that was meaningful to the person.
• Names they were known by, including nicknames and maiden names.
• Cause of death (an optional detail).
• A brief insight into your relationship with the individual.
• Accomplishments
• Major life events
• Stories or fond memories
• How the person affected others
• Childhood years
• Travel adventures
• Marriage and children
• Any other thoughts you want to share about the person
• A final take away from your theme
• How you want family and friends to remember the individual
• What the person would want you to remember them for
• Quote, scripture, or song lyric
• Thank attendees for participating

Eulogy Examples for a Friend

It can be helpful to write this eulogy as if you were talking to a friend. Common talking points might include:

• Common activities enjoyed together
• What you like most about the person
• Personality traits or phrases they often use
• How you would describe the person
• What will you remember them by?

Here is a eulogy example for a friend:

I can’t imagine how empty it will feel to spend time on the basketball court without Jim by my side. Our relationship was built with a basketball in hand, and evolved to share many family gatherings and other activities together over the years. With his passing, Jim is leaving behind a legacy of kindness, compassion, and generosity.

Jim shared good humor and a big smile with everyone he met. Even though people often cursed at his practical jokes, he was an integral part of creating a solid foundation of friendship in our group. When times were difficult, he could always put a smile on my face. He held his head high until the end, showing what it looks like to finish strong.

Eulogy Examples for Your Father

Writing a eulogy for your dad may be really tough. How do you memorialize your hero amid grief and emotion? We hope these tips and the example below will help you in your process. 

• Share childhood experiences when spending time with dad
• Talk about his best qualities
• Capture his essence through “dad jokes” and the things that made you laugh
• Tell about the things you will miss most about him
• Describe his role in your upbringing

Here is a eulogy example for your father:

My dad was my hero. He could make every person feel like they were the most important person in the world. Growing up, I knew that I could always ask Dad for help – and he would be willing to drop anything to lend a hand. He was a rock of stability in my childhood and a source of strength for our whole family.

My father was a man who infused fun into the most mundane tasks. I remember how he would turn our bedtime routine into an adventure that included highlights from our favorite storybooks. He was a kind and thoughtful person. Every night at the dinner table, he encouraged us to talk about the things we were grateful for, and always had yummy treats for us kids hidden in the back of the pantry. I will miss you, Dad, and I’ll always hold onto the amazing memories we shared together.

Eulogy Examples for Your Mother

How can you ever do justice to a eulogy for your beloved mother – the woman who was always there with love and guidance through the ups and downs, the celebrations and challenging moments of your life? Here are a few tips for writing a eulogy for your mother:

• Describe the way she showed her love for you
• Celebrate the small ways she turned your house into a home
• Highlight the impact she made throughout the community
• Explain the smells, sounds, and feelings you felt when arriving home
• Share stories from childhood and adulthood that reflect her character

Here is a eulogy example for your mother:

Today we are honoring, celebrating, and remembering {mom’s full name]. She was a woman of grace and courage, with a stubborn streak that showed up when she set her mind to something, like going back to school to become a nurse at age 40. 

My mother was truly my best friend and I am humbled by the challenge of describing the fullness of her beauty and caring here today. I don't know how she did it, but Mom always found the perfect balance between work and home. Even though she worked 40 – 50 hours a week to support us, she prioritized family dinner. That time was sacred to our family. Her love and kindness were infused in everything she did, whether she was baking cookies for a bake sale to help the hospital or sewing our Halloween costumes by hand year after year. 

She had a magical way of bringing joy every time she walked into the room. No one who met her could forget her smile. And I’ll never forget the advice and the lessons she taught me. Her wisdom will forever guide the decisions I make through the rest of my life. I love you, Mom.

Eulogy Examples for Your Grandmother

How do you share the details about the love you felt through your relationship with a grandmother? Follow these tips to write a good eulogy for this important woman:

• Talk about the fun traditions she brought for your favorite holiday
• What was she known for in the community?
• How did her influence touch your life?
• What are the daily moments that will remind you of her?
• Share funny stories that showcase her quirks or sense of humor

Here is a eulogy example for your grandmother:

My grandmother paid attention to the details – it was the little things that added the finishing touch to every experience. Whether she was setting out the treat jar on the kitchen table or clinking the glass while drinking her iced tea, she always prioritized food and drinks.

Since she loved to shop, grandma would often take us to the mall when we were visiting for the weekend. We would have fashion shows in the dressing rooms and often come home with bright, frilly dresses that were perfect for twirling.

When grandpa was away for the war, grandma was an example of always getting back up again when things get hard. She never complained; just worked hard and supported her family at all times. Despite the personal challenges, she always looked outside of herself – which is why she will be remembered as a beacon of light in this community.

Eulogy Examples for Your Grandfather

What are the details that make your grandfather larger than life? Here are a few ideas to help when writing a eulogy for this great man:

• Explain the qualities that best describe his personality
• Tell about the details that made him stand out from other grandparents
• What hobbies or passions did he share with the family?
• How will the neighborhood or community remember him?
• Talk about stories that were life-changing moments for him

Here is a eulogy example for your grandfather:

Even though my grandfather didn’t like to be the center of attention, he had an undeniable impact on the community. If he was here with us today, he wouldn’t want us to share grief and sorrow. Instead, his desire would be to focus on the happy memories and joyful experiences shared over the years.

Grandpa was a man who set a lasting impression on everyone he met. His deep laugh and kind eyes warmed the room and brought life into the most boring daily activities. Grandpa loved spending time with his grandkids because he said that it made him feel young at heart.

He was a great teacher and a dependable friend. His advice and guidance will continue to carry me through the joys and challenges that life has to offer.

Eulogy Examples for Your Brother

Siblings share a special bond, giving you deep insights to share about your brother. Follow these tips for writing a good eulogy:

• What was it like growing up in the same house together?
• Describe the way your relationship changed in adulthood
• Share funny stories about sibling rivalries
• Explain the lasting impact he left on you and the family
• List his favorite hobbies and food

Here is a eulogy example for your brother:

While it’s tragic to think about Kyle leaving us too soon, he left behind a lifetime of memories that we can celebrate. Kyle was always ready for a fun day with friends – he would have been the one showing up today with the perfect playlist for the event.

Even though my brother was a few years older than me, he always included me in the adventures with his friends. I never felt like the little brother he was dragging along. He made me feel special and included in the group, and helped me build confidence along the way.

Kyle was my best friend and I can’t imagine what life is going to be like without him sending me funny cat memes every night. But I know that his memory will live on when I eat his favorite pizza or hear his favorite band on the radio.

Eulogy Examples for Your Sister

If you’ve lost a sibling, we are truly sorry, Writing a eulogy for your sister can be a way to honor her through your memories of your childhood and growing up with her, as well as the milestones of her life. A few ideas for this eulogy include:

• Share her notable life accomplishments
• Retell your favorite stories from growing up together
• Highlight the kind of person she was
• Summarize your relationship in a few short words
• Talk about what she meant to you and how she influenced your life

Here is a eulogy example for your sister:

My sister, Kim, might have been a little shy at the first introduction. But once she warmed up to a friendship, she always had plenty to say every time she talked. Kim loved to share stories from her time volunteering at the children’s hospital and she had a beautiful gift of making everyone feel like the most important person in the world.

We were only a year apart, which meant that I was the younger sister who was often stealing her clothes or listening in on her conversations with her boyfriend. Even though I was the pesky sibling who cracked jokes about her unique style, she was everything I wanted to be when I grew up. She was independent, strong, and beautiful. She was a free spirit who wasn’t afraid to act boldly, like moving to Paris after college and starting her own business. She was my partner in crime, and I could always tell her everything. She will never be replaced. . My dear sister, I love you and I will be forever grateful for every moment we spent together.

Short Eulogy Examples

Short and sweet is a good rule of thumb to follow when writing a eulogy. Consider these important talking points if you want to write a short eulogy:

• Highlight the person’s passions or interests
• What were the most memorable times you spent together?
• Sum up the person’s character using a story or memory
• Express your gratitude for the impact the person had on your life
• Talk about their influence on family and community

Here is a short eulogy example:

The years I spent with Kathy in my life were filled with excitement and adventure. She showed up for life in the biggest way possible. From the moment she shared her cookie with me on the first day of kindergarten, I knew we would be best friends.

She spent many years working as a teacher, and her heart was big enough to offer individual attention to every child that walked into her classroom. Kathy made a difference in the lives of hundreds of children over the years, and her kindness and positivity will leave an unwavering legacy in this community.

Funny Eulogy Examples

Sometimes a bit of humor is the perfect way to lighten the mood and showcase the personality of your loved one. Consider these tips if you want to add a few jokes into the eulogy:

• Point out the person’s comedic qualities
• Be specific about sharing their jokes or pranks
• Look for ways to communicate what the person would say if they wrote the speech
• Find the right balance of humor to share laughs without being irreverent
• Share a funny poem or a quote from the person’s favorite movie

Here is a funny eulogy example:

Anyone who met Josh quickly learned that there are always laughs to be shared. It was impossible to spend time with him without enjoying a gut-busting laugh at some point in the conversation. Josh was known as the class clown, and his jokes were quick-witted and hilarious.

Who could forget the time Josh showed up to the family reunion wearing that ridiculous blow-up dinosaur costume? He chased the kids around the park until everyone laughed until they were crying.

Many funny memories came out of our family camping trips. He couldn’t sit down to enjoy a peaceful campfire. Instead, the s’more making always seemed to turn into a marshmallow fight – with white puffs flying through the air when you least expected it. Josh kept a smile on my face through the ups and downs of life, and I will keep on smiling in his honor.

Personalizing the Eulogy

As you read through these funeral eulogy examples, the most important thing to remember is that there isn’t a right or wrong way to write a eulogy. Instead, consider the best way to share the person in the way they would want others to remember them. It’s your chance to verbalize your love and honor the memories of your loved one.

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Writing and giving a eulogy at your loved one’s funeral

Last updated: 22 April 2022

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What is a eulogy?

A eulogy, or funeral speech, is a speech given at a funeral by someone who knew the person who has died. If you are asked to give one, it is an opportunity to pay tribute to the person, by giving a short speech about their life and what they meant to you. It’s regarded as an honour to be asked to give a eulogy for a loved one or friend and if you’ve been asked, a sign that you played an important part in that person’s life. If you’re feeling anxious about the responsibility of getting it ‘right,’ remember that every eulogy is meant to be unique. Although there are guidelines you can follow, writing a eulogy is also about things that come from the heart.

• Speak with relatives and loved ones of the person who has died, think about your own experiences with them.
• Give yourself time to write and edit down your eulogy to the most appropriate parts. There’s no one size fits all approach to writing a eulogy. Every person is unique so every eulogy will be unique as well. You will have to think a lot about the type of person you are eulogising and how best to communicate that to the people who have come to mourn them.
• When and where they were born
• The names of their close family
• How they met their spouse or partner
• Any military service
• Favourite poems, songs or quotes
• Sporting achievements
• Anything they have contributed to the community
• Clubs and society memberships
• Once you have gathered enough information, you may want to make notes about where each bit will fit in your eulogy, so you have a rough beginning, a middle and an end to work towards.
• After you have determined what you want to say, it’s a good idea to practise giving your eulogy. Many people struggle with public speaking, so you are not alone. Read it out loud, either on your own or in front of a trusted friend or family member.
• Speak slowly. Everyone wants to hear the words you have prepared. Pause for thought. There may be certain points in the eulogy that deserve a moment of silence for contemplation, or a particular story which makes the audience laugh. Give people eye contact. This may be difficult, but if you mention a close family member by name you may want to scan the first row to make them feel included. Try to stand still. It can be difficult not to fidget when you are nervous, but tapping fingers or feet can distract people from what you are saying.

Who gives a eulogy at a funeral?

Usually the one chosen to give a eulogy at a funeral is someone close to the person who has died. Often children will give a eulogy at their parents' funerals and husbands or wives will give a eulogy at their partners’ funerals. Sometimes the occasion might be too overwhelming for the person closest to them to perform a eulogy, and they may ask another loved one to give a eulogy in their place.

What is the purpose of a eulogy?

The eulogy at a funeral is a way for someone who is close to the person who has died to sum up their life, remind people who have come to mourn about the character of that person, and pay respect to them.

What should be included in a eulogy?

A eulogy can include anything that you think is important. You may want to keep it mostly fact-based, written in chronological order with a small personal note of remembrance at the end. Or, you could base it on personal anecdotes and stories that capture the personality of your loved one. These might even be more lighthearted anecdotes, which often helps the assembly feel more at ease. If you think that a certain story is the most appropriate, as someone close to the person who has died, you’re probably right. Your own and other people’s memories could not only provide things to talk about, but inspire a way of summing up at the beginning and end of the eulogy who they were and what they meant.

Why is a eulogy important?

Hearing a eulogy gives people a way of remembering the important parts of the person they’ve come to mourn. A well written eulogy should not only sum up a person’s life, character and impact, but if possible, it should shed light on less well known aspects of that person.

Examples of a eulogy - what to say

Here are some examples of what you could say in a eulogy: “John was a dedicated family man, who was always there when you needed him.” “Seeing so many people here to say goodbye to Helen today, shows just how loved she was and how much she will be missed.” One of the best ways to begin a eulogy is to talk to family members and close friends about the person who has died. Is there anything that they would like you to include or mention, or a favourite anecdote or story they’d like you to share? Looking through photos could provide inspiration for thoughts about them and things that happened in their life. You may also get inspiration from obituaries and tributes shared online and on social media.

How to get your ideas for a Eulogy together

Mood board – this is a type of collage that can include pictures, text and materials arranged in any order you like. Try adding a photo of your loved one, post-it notes with sayings or phrases written on them, key dates such as marriages or births, maps with important locations marked. This visual reminder of things you want to say about the person who has died may help you as you consider how to write a eulogy. Timeline – there are no rules for writing a eulogy, so you don’t have to get everything in order or precisely dated. But constructing a timeline of the person’s most significant life moments may help you to better decide what to include in your speech. Key words – make a list of words to describe the person. Think of as many words as you can and then highlight which words you think are most fitting. This list can act as a helpful prompt if you become stuck while writing a eulogy.

How long should a eulogy be?

Normally, a eulogy will be around three to five minutes long and take no longer than ten minutes. As to how many words a eulogy should be, that may depend on how quickly you talk. A funeral eulogy of between 500 and 1000 written words will take from around three and a half to seven and a half minutes to speak. Some funeral venues allocate a specific period of time for a funeral. The funeral director should be able to advise you, if you ask how long a eulogy should last, as part of the order of service.

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10+ Heartfelt Funeral Speech Examples to Make Everyone Feel Connected

Writing a funeral speech is a deeply personal and often challenging task. It’s an opportunity to honor the life of a loved one, share memories, and offer comfort to those grieving. Whether you’re writing a funeral speech for a parent, grandparent, friend, or colleague, the right words can help convey the impact they had on your life and the lives of others. 

Here are more than 10 funeral speeches that you can directly use, each capturing the unique essence of the person being remembered. 

1. Funeral Speech Example for Your Father

My father was a man of few words, but his actions spoke volumes. He taught me the value of hard work, honesty, and integrity. Whether it was fixing things around the house or offering advice that shaped my life, he was always there. Today, as I stand here, I realize that everything I am, and everything I strive to be, is because of him.

2. Funeral Speech Idea for Your Mother

To say that my mother was the heart of our family would be an understatement. She was the glue that held us together, the one we turned to for comfort, advice, and love. Her kindness knew no bounds, and her generosity was unmatched. As we say goodbye today, I know her spirit will continue to live on in all of us, guiding us as she always did.

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3. Funeral Words for Your Grandfather

Grandfather was a man of wisdom and strength. He lived a life full of adventure and taught us the importance of family and tradition. His stories were the foundation of our family’s history, and his laughter was the soundtrack of our lives. While we will miss him dearly, we find comfort in knowing that his legacy will continue to inspire us for generations to come.

4. Funeral Speech for Your Grandmother

My grandmother was a beacon of light in our lives. Her love was unconditional, her home a sanctuary for all who entered. She had a way of making everyone feel special, and her cooking was legendary in our family. Today, as we remember her, we celebrate the warmth and joy she brought into our lives.

5. Funeral Speech for a Friend

Losing a friend like [Name] feels like losing a part of myself. He was more than just a friend; he was a confidant, a partner in crime, and a source of endless laughter. Our shared memories are countless, and though he is gone, the bond we shared will remain with me always.

If you are attending a friend’s funeral, here is a heart-touching eulogy for a friend .

6. Funeral Speech for a Colleague

[Name] was not just a colleague but a mentor and friend. He brought passion, dedication, and a sense of humor to the workplace that was contagious. His work ethic was unparalleled, and his positive impact on our team will be felt for years to come. We will miss his presence, but his legacy will live on in the work we continue to do.

7. Funeral Speech for Your Spouse

Losing my spouse feels like losing a part of my soul. He was my partner in every sense of the word—my rock, my confidant, my greatest love. Our life together was filled with joy, challenges, and countless memories that I will cherish forever. Though he is no longer by my side, I know his love will continue to guide me through the rest of my days.

8. Funeral Speech for a Child

No words can express the pain of losing a child. [Name] was the light of our lives, a joy that filled our hearts with love and laughter. He was taken from us far too soon, but in his short time with us, he brought more happiness than we could have ever imagined. We will carry his memory with us, and he will always be our little angel.

9. Funeral Speech for Your Sibling

Growing up with [Name] was an adventure. He was my first friend, my partner in mischief, and my biggest supporter. We shared countless memories, from childhood antics to adult milestones. His loss leaves a void that can never be filled, but I will always cherish the bond we shared and the love that will forever connect us.

10. Funeral Speech for a Mentor

[Name] was a guiding light in my life, a mentor who shaped not just my career but my character. His wisdom was profound, and his guidance helped me navigate some of my toughest challenges. I am forever grateful for the lessons they imparted and the example they set. His influence will continue to guide me in all I do.

11. Funeral Speech for a Community Leader

[Name] was a pillar of our community, someone who dedicated his life to helping others and making the world a better place. His contributions were vast, and his impact can be seen in every corner of our community. While we mourn his loss, we also celebrate the incredible legacy they leave behind—a legacy that will continue to inspire us all.

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Final Thoughts

Losing someone close to you is really tough, The above examples provide a framework for crafting your funeral speech, allowing you to personalize your words to best reflect. The unique life and legacy of the person you’re honoring. Remember, a Funeral is a personal tribute, and the most important aspect is to speak from the heart.

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Eulogy Guide: How to Write and Give a Heartfelt Funeral Speech (with 4 Eulogy examples)

Eulogy definition.

According to the dictionary a eulogy is simply a formal expression of praise for the deceased. It is a way of saying good bye while telling some of the most vivid memories and deeds of the deceased, as well as what he/she meant to the speaker or those in attendance.

One also has to consider the mourning family who would only want to have the very best for their lost one. This is why it will require a substantial amount of careful consideration when it comes to the writing of the eulogy.

It has to give praise where praise is due but it also has to provide attendees with an adequate version of all the accomplishments of the person who has passed away. 

Before we move on to the outline different tips and pieces of advise on how to make and deliver a heartfelt eulogy, I’d like to emphasize that this will be the 14th in a series of posts on several types of speech that one has to deliver at some point or another in life. Please find the link below;

13 Different Types of Speech (How and When to Deliver them and get Desired Results)

Eulogy Outline Guide

A eulogy should never be confused with an obituary. An obituary is the death notice which appears in newspapers which is providing the essential and basic facts regarding the passing away of a person. However, and eulogy provides a loved one with the opportunity to elaborate somewhat about everything which the deceased person has been and how they have conducted themselves in various circumstances.

It is very important to keep the whole process personal and this is also why the letter-writing approach can help with the preparation of an interesting eulogy.

Always remember that every person wants to feel that they have made a meaningful contribution while they have been living. This is why we should attempt to point out all those things which the deceased has done to impact people’s lives and to contribute in their profession and in society. This is an excellent way to honor the memory of the deceased person.

Eulogy Writing Guide

Eulogies originated in ancient Greece and through the millennia this practice has remained popular. It should be noted, however, that it is not supported by all religions and cultures.

Basically, a eulogy is simply a way of saying goodbye to a person who has passed away. It provides a person with an opportunity to express feelings, thoughts and experiences that will show respect and honor to the deceased person.

There is no rigid blueprint when it comes to the writing of eulogies. With every new event, one has to look at the different circumstances and also the person for whom that eulogy is intended.

Alternatively, one can use a more personal approach where interesting stories and touching memories are shared. It should be noted that either of the two can be used but it might also be possible to use a combination of these two approaches depending on the situation as it is unveiled.

For some people, the writing of a eulogy can seem like a daunting task but many who has come through that process has found that it actually helps with the healing process.

Eulogy Etiquette Guide

Many people have completed excellent eulogies by simply communicating memories and ideas from their hearts and they have continued to express all those things which has been meaningful to them personally.

Keep your eyes open as you walk through the residence of the deceased and pay particular attention to photographs and other things of interest that can provide interesting material which can be used in the eulogy.

One way to show respect for the deceased and their loved ones is to turn off all cell phones. Your business is never more important than what is taking place at that funerals service.

When someone passes away it is important to carefully consider whether you should attend or not. If there were known issues between you and the deceased, then you may offend family members and friends when you attend that funeral. Furthermore, being punctual is important because it shows respect for the deceased.

Eulogy Speech Delivery Guide and Examples

Keep Time: While writing that eulogy it is important to aim for something which will consume between three and five minutes but never more than ten because then you start to stretch the attention span of people attending.

Meaningful Ending: It is always a good thing when the eulogy is concluded to let people know what the deceased has personally meant to you and your family.

One example of how you can end your eulogy speech is to say that…

Example of a Eulogy for a father

This might include advice regarding parenthood or dealing with the challenges experienced in life. It can also be advice on how to keep a marriage happy or on how to provide better for the family.

Share a little about who exactly that father was and how little he expected from those around him while he gave so much in return.

Example of a Eulogy for a friend

Likewise, when that eulogy concerns a friend examples relating to the relationship between those friends have to be shared in order to illustrate how that friend has distinguished himself and how he has made himself meaningful and special to everyone with whom he has come into contact.

Example of a Eulogy for a Mother

The writing of a eulogy for a mother is something which can come easier and more naturally to most people because there is so much personal information to share and therefore the writing of that eulogy can flow more naturally, is often longer and also completed quicker.

One can also share how the mother divided her attention equally between the many children and a husband ensuring that no one is ever neglected. Despite her own difficulties and numerous challenges, she never turned anyone away. She never complained even when she had to do things that were difficult and challenging.

Example of a Eulogy for a GrandMother

Grandmothers are also ranking very high on the list of people who have to be greeted for the very last time. These wonderful old ladies have been placed in our lives in order to help us to better understand our place in the universe.

Very often, they established themselves as one of the most vital parts in that personal and individual universe. There is so much which can be said about a beloved grandmother.

Grandmothers are often very closely involved in the lives of those around them and therefore there is endless pieces of information which can be shared in that eulogy.

Even when you share memories of how the deceased has interacted with others you must ensure that the deceased always have the limelight and no one else.

However, there is also a lot of advice available online and you can even make use of freelance eulogy writers who can provide you with a professionally written eulogy for a relatively small fee. Browse some of these sites for excellent advice on all things relating to eulogies. 

The complete Types of Speech Series – Please find some insight for each type of speech by clicking the links below

Part III. 5 Quick Tips on how to Give an Effective Motivational Speech

Part VI. 6 Key Tips for a Memorable Entertaining Speech + Topics and Ideas

Part VIII. 5-Step Strategy for an Effective Debate and Speech Delivery

Part IX. 7 Oratory Secrets: How to Deliver Effective Oratorical Speeches

Part XIII. Farewell Speech – An 8-step guide to help you deliver a Memorable one

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Attending a funeral isn’t always easy. Funerals are a chance for the family to come together to mourn and remember a loved one. Paying your respects is a way to show your support. However, feeling unsure of the words to say at a funeral is a common experience. How do you approach someone who’s mourning a loss? How do you avoid saying the wrong thing?

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What to say if your loved one died, what should you avoid saying at a funeral, what to say to close family and friends at their loved one’s funeral, what to say to acquaintances, colleagues, or clients at their loved one’s funeral, what to say at a funeral visitation or wake.

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These answers aren’t always straightforward. Offering your condolences is an integral part of the funeral process, but it’s also one of the hardest things to do comfortably. Understanding proper funeral etiquette goes a long way towards helping you know what to say. The better prepared you are, the easier it is to find those perfect words of sympathy. 

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If you’re close to the deceased, you might find yourself the center of attention at the funeral. Guests usually reach out to the close family to offer words of kindness and support, but these aren’t always easy to handle. 

What do you say if your loved one died? How do you avoid being overcome with emotion? Because this is often a challenge, follow these tips below:

• Practice makes perfect - Don’t be afraid to practice what you’ll say in advance. Practice with yourself and with other close family members. The more you say what you’ve prepared, the easier it will be. 
• Make sure you have the right tech for online guests - If you chose to use a virtual funeral  using a service like  GatheringUs , you can still speak to your online guests. Coordinate with your planning team and ensure you have the right AV equipment.
• Keep it short and sweet - Avoid the pressure to say more than you need to. Keep your comments quick and to the point. 
• Set boundaries - It’s okay to have boundaries about what you’re willing to talk about. You don’t have to answer any uncomfortable questions or say more than you feel comfortable with. 
• Find your support system - Lean on close friends and family at the funeral for support. It’s okay to distance yourself from those you don’t wish to speak with right now. This is your time to grieve. 

Tip:  Figuring out what to say is just one of the many challenges you can face when someone you love dies. Our post-loss checklist can help you face and overcome those challenges, whether they're legal, financial, or personal.

Examples of what to say

Since words aren’t always easy to find, it helps to have a few examples of what to say. Again, short and simple is almost always best. Here is what to say to your friends and family if your close loved one died.

• This is a difficult loss. I was very close to [Name].
• [Name] a large part of my life. I’ll never forget their kindness. 
• [Name] will be missed by the entire family. 
• We are all so sorry for this loss. [Name] was loved by many. 

It’s important to realize that not everything is appropriate for a funeral. Some phrases can do more harm than good, even if they’re coming from a kind place. Some outdated phrases might be well-intentioned, but they send the wrong message to friends and family in need. While it’s understandably difficult to find the right words to say, the wrong comments only make matters worse.

With that in mind, what should you avoid saying at a funeral? Anything that could be seen as making light of the situation or poking blame should be avoided at all costs. You never want to place blame on the deceased, their family, or anyone else associated with the funeral. No matter the circumstances around the death of this person, you should be aware of the power of your words.

Examples of what not to say

What phrases should always be avoided? Though there are many variations on these below, you’d be surprised how common they are. It doesn’t take much thinking to recognize why these are completely unacceptable to say to a grieving individual, no matter how much time has passed since the loss.

• It could always be worse. 
• I’m not surprised they died. 
• It was fate/destiny. 
• His/her death was a part of God’s plan.
• Everything happens for a reason. 
• It was his/her time. 
• Death is a part of the circle of life. It’s only natural. 
• You still have it better than others. 
• It was harder when I lost my own loved one.
• You’ll get over this soon. 
• You’re still young.

In general, always avoid any phrases like “it’s better…” or “at least…” since these make unfair comparisons. There’s no way to measure loss. You should never compare your own experiences to someone else’s, no matter how hard these were for you. Similarly, never suggest that someone mourning should feel any differently. Grief takes many forms, and it’s okay to process these feelings in your own way. 

When in doubt, use these phrases below. You never want to say anything that could be taken the wrong way. When in doubt, it’s best to keep your response simple. There’s never anything wrong with saying you’re sorry for someone’s loss. Above all, people just want to be heard and understood. You don’t need to make any bold claims or comparisons. 

If you’re attending the funeral to support friends and family in their time of need, it’s a good idea to give thought to what you plan to say. Offering sympathy to those you’re close to might mean the world to them. Yet, knowing what to say to someone who lost a parent or a close relative is difficult. 

If you haven’t experienced a similar loss for yourself, you might have a hard time understanding what he or she is going through. Follow these tips to stay courteous and respectful:

• Practice your tone - Again, this is a situation where practice makes perfect. Aside from practicing what you’ll say, practice your tone. You want to make sure you sound sincere but not overly emotional. An even tone is ideal. 
• Don’t overly sympathize - If you’ve never experienced this type of loss, don’t try to compare your situation to someone else’s. Keep the focus of your sympathy messages on them. 
• Avoid the afterlife - Even if you know someone’s religious background, it’s best to avoid talk of the afterlife in what you say. That means avoiding phrases like “he’s in a better place” or “she’s in heaven now.” Again, limit your comments to the person you’re speaking to and not on what’s happened to the deceased. 
• Don’t make light of the situation - Keep from telling jokes or making light of the situation. Grief affects everyone differently, and everyone is entitled to their own feelings. 
• Give a gift - If you’re not good at finding the right words, offer a gift instead. Funeral flowers , a sympathy gift basket , or other kind gestures are other ways to be respectful. 
• Let them grieve - Last but not least, let your friend or family member know it’s okay to grieve. Be the emotional support they need. 

It’s best to have your best speech filter on when attending a funeral. Be mindful of your words and how they come across. When in doubt, say one of these sympathy messages below. 

• I’m sorry for your loss. 
• [Name] was a loved community member. We will all miss them.
• Your family is in my thoughts and prayers at this time. 
• Let me know if you need anything right now. I’m here for you. 
• I have fond memories of your [relationship to the deceased]. 

What do you say when you’re not very close to someone who lost a loved one? If your acquaintance, colleague, client, or other relation recently suffered a loss, it is polite to offer sympathy. Since you don’t know this person well, keep things simple. You don’t want to overstep. 

Fumbling over your words isn’t uncommon when you’re faced with someone else’s grief. These tips will guide you in being respectful and kind:

• Timing matters - Your condolences should be given at the time that’s best for the individual, not you. If you wish to say something to a coworker, for example, the end of the day is usually best. 
• Don’t bring it up yourself - If you know someone recently suffered a loss, saying something unprompted might bring up painful feelings for that person. If you decide to check in with their wellbeing, do so carefully. 
• Join with others - If you don’t know the person very well, it might be better to offer sympathy in a communal way. For an office, having everyone sign a card is a gentle way to give support. The recipient still knows everyone is thinking of them in their time of need. 

It’s better to say something than to avoid saying anything. Though it might be uncomfortable, don’t let these feelings get in the way of this person’s grief. Here are some polite things to say when the timing is right:

• “I’m sorry for your loss.”
• “My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.”
• “Is there any way I can help?”

At a funeral visitation or wake, the body is typically present. In many cultures, a visitation or wake is a chance to pay initial respects to the family and say goodbye to the deceased. However, it can be confusing to know what to say. Wakes are an opportunity to be present in the moment, using your words to bring positivity and compassion.

There are many different types of funeral visitations or wakes. In some cultures, these are informal events that take place inside the home of the deceased. These are usually only open to close friends and family. If you’re invited to a home wake, be sure to deliver your condolences briefly and avoid overstaying your welcome. 

Additionally, you might be invited to a visitation before a funeral. This is usually more formal than a wake, and the family will be present. Many funerals also include a receiving line in which you greet each member of the immediate family directly before visiting with the deceased. All of these are somber events, so you should be prepared with appropriate ways to pay respects. 

What should you say when offering condolences at a wake? While your exact words might depend on your relationship with the deceased and his or her family, there are a lot of ways to show respect. When paired with flowers, a sympathy card, or other condolence gifts, these truly show how much you care. 

• “While I wish we were here under different circumstances, I’m honored to be present here today with your family.” 
• “You’ve organized a very special wake in honor of [Name]. I know how much they meant to you. I’m so sorry for your loss.”
• “You’ve done a great job putting together this wake in honor of your loved one. Is there anything I can help you with? I’m always here for you.” 
• “I just wanted to remind you how much I care for you. [Name] was an amazing person, and I’ll never forget them.” 
• “It’s clear just how loved [Name] was. Their loss will be felt by all.” 
• “I can’t begin to express how sorry I am to hear about your loss. Please know I’m here for you today and always. If there’s anything you need, don’t hesitate to reach out.” 
• “Even though I didn’t know [Name] very well, I know how much they meant to you. I’m so sorry for your loss.” 

Quick Tips for Public Speaking at a Funeral 

It’s common for the family to ask if any guests wish to speak at the funeral. Speaking at a funeral is a great way to express your feelings about the loss of a loved one, particularly if you were close to this person.

You also might give a speech if you’re close to a family member of the deceased. He or she might ask you to speak on their behalf or to talk about their relationship with their loved one. However, public speaking when emotions are running high isn’t always easy. 

No matter your comfort level with talking in front of others, this is an intimidating situation. You want to handle the situation with grace and confidence, even if you have to fake it until you make it. These tips will help you with public speaking at a funeral. 

1. Write what you’ll say in advance 

The best way to prepare is to write what you want to say in advance. For this, learn how to write a eulogy . Eulogies are a type of praise honoring someone who’s passed away. By writing a eulogy or other speech, you make sure you don’t leave anything out during the delivery. 

While writing down your speech is a great idea, avoid reading directly from the paper. Jotting down notes or practicing in advance gives you more confidence. 

2. Tell a story

When in doubt, tell a story. As humans, we communicate through stories. This is a sure way to gain the audience’s attention while expressing something significant about the deceased.

For example, you might share how the deceased helped you in a time of need or a special trip you took together. Either way, keep the focus on the deceased and the family. 

3. Don’t speak for too long

While a speech is an amazing way to pay respects to a loved one, you don’t want to take too long. The ideal time frame for a funeral speech is between three and five minutes. Anything more than that risks losing the audience’s attention.

You also don’t want to take away from the rest of the service or anyone else's opportunity to say a few words. 

4. Do calming exercises

Public speaking is intimidating under the best of circumstances. When also dealing with a loss, it’s hard to stop feeling overwhelmed. If possible, perform calming exercises before speaking. These put you in the right frame of mind to speak. Here are some tips to help you feel calm and help you to hold back unwanted tears :

• Take deep breaths
• Rely on a friend or family member for support
• Drink water
• Go for a short walk in the hallway or nearby

5. Address the family

When giving your speech, make sure you’re addressing the family. Speak to the front row. These are the ones who were closest to the deceased, and they’re the ones who listen the most attentively.

When addressing someone directly, such as a close friend or family member, look at them. This makes your speech much more personal.  

Giving a speech at a funeral can be intimidating, especially if you’ve never given one before. Using a funeral speech example as inspiration can help you approach this challenge with ease. The tribute for every speech has a basic flow, and it doesn’t have to be perfect. The most important thing is that your funeral speech comes from the heart. 

Below, you’ll find funeral speech examples for a variety of situations. If you’ve been given the honor to speak at a funeral, don’t stress about finding the “right” thing to say. The words are inside you already, and you just have to speak from your heart.

For a parent’s funeral

For anyone who doesn’t know me yet, I am Johnathan’s daughter, Mandy. Thank you for joining me today to say goodbye to my dad. From my earliest days, my dad was one of my best friends. He was the loudest one cheering me on at my tennis tournaments, and he was the person I always looked to for guidance. His kind of love was unconditional. Even in the bad times, he knew that a hug and a warm cup of tea had the power to turn the whole day around. 

Though I like to think I’m the favorite child, I know my dad didn’t play favorites. He loved me and my sisters equally, and holidays will never be the same now that he’s gone. As you know, my dad had a love of 80s rock music that couldn’t be beat. In conclusion, I wanted to read some of his favorite Queen lyrics in his honor. Thank you for listening. 

For a grandparent’s funeral

Today, I’m honored to celebrate the life of my grandpa, Abe, though we all knew him as “Poppy.” Born in 1935, he was always a storyteller. Whether he was entertaining his uncles in his early childhood or his buddies at college, he was never caught without something to say. He always said that’s how he won over Grandma—with a story. 

Above all, Poppy was a family man. He knew it was important to put family first in all things, and this is a lesson I hope to carry with me for the rest of my own days. A devoted husband, father, and friend, there’s no one I admire more than my grandpa. His life with Gran was inspirational, and I feel relief knowing he’s finally at peace after a long battle with cancer. Family dinners might never be the same, but he’ll always be remembered. Here’s to you, Poppy!

For a partner or spouse’s funeral

As most of you know, my name is Janice. I met Scott, my husband, over two decades ago. I had just moved to Toronto, and he was one of the first people I met at my new apartment complex. I’ll never forget him showing me around the city for the first time. We were married within the very same year, and I count my blessings for meeting him every day.

We had 15 years of marriage together, and we shared so much love. He gave me two beautiful children, and they love him just as much as me. Scott and I might not have gotten our entire lives together, but the time we did have was so worthwhile. Being his wife made me the luckiest woman in the world. Though things will never be the same, I see him living on through the resilience of his children and the kindness of our friends and family. Thank you for being here with me to celebrate his life.

For a sibling’s funeral

When asked about my brother, Dylan, I always say he has a sixth sense. Even as a child, he always knew when I was having an off day or when he could press me even farther with his teasing. I have a vivid memory of him around 13 years old stopping a neighborhood game to invite one of more quiet kids to hang out with them. This was a simple gesture, but it just goes to show how observant he was. 

Even as an adult, Dylan and I always had a connection. My only brother, he was always just a phone call away for me or anyone else in the family. I’ll miss my brother like I miss the summer sun. Though it can’t stay forever, I can always feel its warmth. A fearless, kind man, I am so thankful to have been blessed with him in my life. 

For a child’s funeral

Though I’m sure we all wish we were gathering today under different circumstances, thank you for being here. My name is Susan, and I’m Jamie’s aunt. I’ll be speaking on behalf of my brother, James, and his wife, Melissa. I’ll never forget the day my brother called to let me know Melissa was pregnant with Jamie. I knew she was a special blessing right from that moment. 

Once Jamie was here, she instantly brought light to our lives. She was always a happy baby, and her smile is something we’ll never forget. Endeared to everyone who met her, she was an absolute angel. Though her life was short, her warmth was felt by all. Even when she and her parents spent so many days at the hospital, she never once wavered in her courage. I invite anyone who wishes to share some of your favorite memories of Jamie with us all.

For a best friend’s funeral

Hi all, thank you for coming today. My name is Jessica, and I’ve been friends with Kelly since I first moved to her neighborhood in kindergarten. We lived just a few houses apart, and we must have spent almost every day together from elementary to high school. When I think of Kelly, I think of someone who loved to explore and laugh. Whether we were sneaking out after curfew or hosting an infamous movie night, Kelly was my partner in crime for everything. 

More than an adventure-seeker, Kelly was also a generous soul. I could always count on her to drop everything to help anyone in need, whether it’s a close friend or someone she just met. She put her family first, and she knew what really mattered most in life. Though I’m sad to have lost my best friend, I am happy to have been blessed with so many years by her side. I know she’ll always be with me, and I hope I make her proud. Thank you.

For a colleague’s funeral

Today, we gather to honor our dear College Louie. We were all saddened to hear of his passing last month. The community has lost a warm, hard-working individual. Many of us here counted Louie amongst our friends and with good reason. Quick to offer his help, knowledge, or a funny quip, Louie was a friend to all. 

At our company, Louie served with compassion for over three decades. His work affected every department and level. As a leader, he fought for innovation and change without putting others down. In his honor, we will be dedicated a special volunteer program each year towards a cause he cared greatly about: education. Let’s all remember Louie’s hard work and what he meant to our team.

Discover the Right Words of Sympathy

While it might seem insignificant, how you express your sympathy to those you love really matters. Those words and gestures might mean everything to them in their time of need. Yet, finding the right words to say isn’t always easy. Funerals are often uncomfortable or even awkward because of this.

These events don’t have to be this way. But, you’ll never be in the dark about what to say if you use these tips and tricks above.

Have you given much thought to your own end-of-life planning ? There are tons of options, from having a virtual funeral service to turning ashes into a cremation diamond . Thinking about how you’d like to be remembered might inspire you to offer kind and generous condolences to your loved ones when they need it. 

Post-loss tip: If you are the executor for a deceased loved one, the emotional and technical aspects of handling their unfinished business can be overwhelming without a way to organize your process. We have a post-loss checklist  that will help you ensure that your loved one's family, estate, and other affairs are taken care of.

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Ukraine war latest: Three killed by more Russian strikes as Moscow continues heavy bombardment of Ukrainian cities

At least three people - including a 14-year-old girl - have been killed in the western Ukrainian city of Lviv by overnight Russian strikes, according to authorities. It comes just a day after two missiles killed more than 50 people and injured hundreds in Poltava.

Wednesday 4 September 2024 06:56, UK

• Three killed in Lviv - as Russia continues heavy bombardment of Ukrainian cities
• Ukraine's foreign minister resigns as reshuffle looms
• More than 50 killed in double strike on Ukrainian city yesterday
• Ukraine planning to hold seized Russian territory indefinitely
• Watch: Zelenskyy discusses Kursk invasion in TV interview
• Big picture: Everything you need to know on the war this week
• Live reporting by Ollie Cooper

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• Dominic Waghorn: Putin rubbing salt in wounds as Kyiv pleads for long-range attacks
• Sean Bell: Strike proves Putin's priority is on Ukraine, not incursion into Russia

Ukraine's foreign minister, Dmytro Kuleba, has resigned, according to the country's parliament speaker. 

Ruslan Stefanchuk said the resignation request would be discussed by politicians soon, after Ukraine President Volodymyr Zelenskyy said changes to the government were being undertaken to strengthen it and achieve results needed by Ukraine.

It comes as several government ministers resign as part of an expected reshuffle. 

Those who handed in their resignations yesterday included strategic industries minister Alexander Kamyshin, justice minister Denys Maliuska, environmental protection minister Ruslan Strilets, deputy prime ministers Olha Stefanishyna and Iryna Vereshchuk, and the head of Ukraine's state property fund Vitaliy Koval.

An update on our 6.21am post, which outlined Russian strikes on Lviv and Kyiv overnight. 

According to the Lviv regional governor, Maksym Kozytskyi, at least three people have been confirmed dead so far - up from the two reported earlier. 

Among those killed by the drone and missile attack was a 14-year-old girl, early details suggsted, with five children among the injured, he added. 

Andriy Sadovyi, the mayor of Lviv city said the dead included a midwife nurse and a man, while 35 people were receiving medical aid. 

We've no update on casualties from Kyiv, but we'll bring you more as we get it. 

Yesterday, Volodymyr Zelenskyy outlined his plans for the territory his forces have captured inside Russia. 

He said that Ukraine has vowed to hold onto Kursk indefinitely, after the surprise attack launched in early August.

Kyiv claims to now control almost 500 square miles (around 1,300 square km) and it has taken hundreds of prisoners of war.

"We don't need their land. We don't want to bring our Ukrainian way of life there," Mr Zelenskyy told NBC News during his first one-on-one interview since the offensive.

Instead, Ukraine will reportedly "hold" the territory as a key part of Mr Zelenskyy's "victory plan" to end the war.

"For now, we need it," he said of Kursk, adding he will present the proposal to hasten the war's end to international partners like the US - where he is due to visit later this month.

During the interview, Mr Zelenskyy refused to rule out seizing more territory and since the Kursk incursion, Ukraine has had at least one cross-border attack repelled by Russia.

The Ukrainian capital of Kyiv and major city Lviv were again targeted by waves of Russian drones and missiles overnight, authorities report. 

Lviv's governor Maksym Kozytskyi noted "loud" noises as witnesses cited by the Reuters news agency reported what they thought sounded like air defences being engaged near the western city and the capital. 

Mr Kozytskyi also said residential buildings had been damaged in the attacks, and said at least two people had been killed. 

Kyiv's military administration said sirens were sounding because of a threat of missiles "fired from Tu-95MS aircraft". 

Neighbouring Poland activated aircraft this morning - for the third time in eight days - to ensure the safety of its airspace.

"This is another very busy night for the entire air defence system in Poland due to the observed activity of the long-range aviation of the Russian Federation carrying out strikes," its air force command said.

Russia has been pounding Ukraine in the past 10 days in what some bloggers and analysts suggest is Moscow's response to Kyiv's recent invasion of the Kursk region.

Welcome back to our live coverage of the Ukraine war.

Yesterday saw Russia carry out one of the deadliest attacks of the war as it struck a military academy and nearby hospital in the central city of Poltava with two ballistic missiles, killing at least 51 people and injuring 271 more.

Volodymyr Zelenskyy said last night that some people were still under the rubble and everything was being done to save as many lives as possible.

Earlier in the day he said "Russian scum" would be held accountable for the deadly strike.

The region is now in three days of mourning over the attack, which Russia is yet to comment on.

Less than a day after the strike on Poltova, Ukrainian authorities said Russia launched an airstrike on the northeastern Sumy region, hitting a university building. There were no immediate reports of any casualties.

Elsewhere, Vladimir Putin received a red-carpet welcome as he visited Mongolia on his first trip to a member country of the International Criminal Court.

The lavish visit came despite the ICC having a warrant out for Mr Putin's arrest on allegations of war crimes - with member countries bound to detain suspects. Mongolia, however, said this would be too difficult as it is dependent on Russian-sourced energy.

Stay with us as we bring you the latest throughout the day today.

That brings an end to our live coverage of the Ukraine war for this evening.

We'll be back with any major developments overnight and our rolling updates will continue soon.

Before we go, here's a reminder of the day's key events:

• Ukrainian authorities said at least 51 people were killed and more than 200 injured in a Russian ballistic missile attack on the central city of Poltava. The missiles hit a military academy and a nearby hospital, officials said;
• Three days of mourning were declared by Poltava regional head Philip Pronin after one of the deadliest attacks of the war;
• Moldova's government said its energy dependence on Russia made it difficult to heed a requirement by the International Criminal Court  to arrest Vladimir Putin  as he visited the country.
• Meanwhile, several government ministers resigned and the deputy head of the Ukrainian president's office was sacked ahead of an expected government reshuffle;
• And Volodymyr Zelenskyy told NBC News in an exclusive interview that Ukraine planned to indefinitely hold territory seized in its shock invasion of Kursk last month as part of a plan to force Mr Putin to the negotiating table.

Washington plans to send more military aid to Ukraine in the coming weeks, the White House has said.

National security spokesperson John Kirby told a briefing that the US's support for Kyiv remains "unshakeable" and it was focused on strengthening Ukraine's military and defences against Russian attacks.

He noted that the US recently announced another drawdown of military assistance - and said it intends to send another round of aid in the coming weeks.

Mongolia ignored the International Criminal Court's arrest warrant for Vladimir Putin as it rolled out the red carpet to receive him today.

The Russian president should, in theory, have been handcuffed as he arrived - but the Mongolian government said earlier that it was difficult to arrest him due to the country's position of energy dependence on Moscow (see 17.35 post).

Mr Putin was welcomed in the main square of Ulaanbaatar by an honour guard as a crowd of people watched behind temporary barriers.

He and Mongolian leader Ukhnaa Khurelsukh later laid a wreath at a monument to Soviet Marshal Georgy Zhukov, visited a school curated by a Russian economic university and attended a reception ceremony where Mr Putin gave a toast.

Russia has launched another attack on Ukraine, officials have said, less than a day after its deadly ballistic missile strike killed more than 50 people in Poltava.

The regional administration of the northeastern Sumy region said Russian forces launched an airstrike on Sumy city tonight, hitting one of its university buildings.

It said a guided bomb was believed to have been used in the attack. There were no details of any casualties.

"All necessary services are available on site," the administration said in a post to Telegram .

We reported earlier on Voldymyr Zelenskyy's comments that Ukraine plans to indefinitely hold territory it has seized in its Kursk invasion (see 18.17 post).

Asked about the surprise invasion in an interview with our US partner network   NBC News , Mr Zelenskyy said the operation was aimed at restoring Ukraine's "territorial integrity".

He also said Kyiv did not "need" Russian land - but he remained silent on what the next steps would be.

Watch a clip from the interview here...

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